If you are divorced/separated/ in an unhappy marriage, who are you going to hang out with when the kids leave the home?

[Anonymous]

Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When the weather is nice I golf with friends W and Sat or Sunday (if I'm not out of town).

I play pickleball do yoga a total of 4x, not both, one or the other.

I travel to Colorado on the weekends to visit my brother 2x a year.

I travel somewhere 4x a year with my roommate from college ... beach, lake, resort, her house, my house, visit a city (Chicago is our next stop).

I visit my son in Boston 6 times a year. My other son is still in college so he is home in the summer and I visit him in college 1x in Fall and 1x in spring... I fly him to Boston 1x.

the thing is being an empty nester and divorced I have a huge house to myself so I have visitors.

My best friend has a beach house and we spend most of June there.

My friend from growing up lives in FLA, I go there once a year, she comes here once a year and we do a 1 week road trip every other year.

I have a group of friends who live in NE area and we try to meet up ever other year but we are so busy it usually happens every 3 years.

I actually feel like I need to retire so I have more time to see friends.

that is about 20 weekends out of 50 weekends that i'm doing something. Throw in a wedding and showers. I'm pretty busy every other weekend not even enought time to garden and cook, which I love to do.

Do you work or live on alimony?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

[Anonymous]

I did this ^^^

[Anonymous]

I suggest getting back involved with volunteering.

Nationwide organizations that have local volunteer groups-
Lions Club
Women's Club
Rotary Club

From there find social clubs
- book club
- hiking group
- women who travel solo groups

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

Huh?
With a slob husband and two kids whose rules never get enforced unless I’m around, the weekly clean gets undone rather quickly…
Coffee grounds on counter, dishes not put away, packaging left out for all the see, shoes everywhere, crumbs everywhere (h works from home most of the time), wet towels (h and D1 have adhd), clothing in piles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My plan is to throw myself into work.

Hiking
Books
Arts
New friends
Old friends
Help at the high school in some program
Teach - college, k-12, line dancing at the Y or JCC
Have some travel to look FW to
Visit people
Upgrade jobs
Visit your kid 1-2x a year

[Anonymous]

You've gotta get active now. When my kids went off to college, I lost alot of weight with the goal of participating in my favorite sports (tennis etc) and took lessons with other adults. I also made sure to keep in touch with friends, who were mostly moms of my kids friends LOL, so set up lunches etc. It's been fine.

[Anonymous]

I have three teens so am still rather busy with them, so I really have no idea what the future holds. At some point I’ll probably fall into a LTR, that will probably fill my time that isn’t spent traveling and being with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When the weather is nice I golf with friends W and Sat or Sunday (if I'm not out of town).

I play pickleball do yoga a total of 4x, not both, one or the other.

I travel to Colorado on the weekends to visit my brother 2x a year.

I travel somewhere 4x a year with my roommate from college ... beach, lake, resort, her house, my house, visit a city (Chicago is our next stop).

I visit my son in Boston 6 times a year. My other son is still in college so he is home in the summer and I visit him in college 1x in Fall and 1x in spring... I fly him to Boston 1x.

the thing is being an empty nester and divorced I have a huge house to myself so I have visitors.

My best friend has a beach house and we spend most of June there.

My friend from growing up lives in FLA, I go there once a year, she comes here once a year and we do a 1 week road trip every other year.

I have a group of friends who live in NE area and we try to meet up ever other year but we are so busy it usually happens every 3 years.

I actually feel like I need to retire so I have more time to see friends.

that is about 20 weekends out of 50 weekends that i'm doing something. Throw in a wedding and showers. I'm pretty busy every other weekend not even enought time to garden and cook, which I love to do.

Do you work or live on alimony?

I work .., no alimony, no child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

Huh?
With a slob husband and two kids whose rules never get enforced unless I’m around, the weekly clean gets undone rather quickly…
Coffee grounds on counter, dishes not put away, packaging left out for all the see, shoes everywhere, crumbs everywhere (h works from home most of the time), wet towels (h and D1 have adhd), clothing in piles.

I know ! A divorced empty nester = clean house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

This is true bliss, and I'm looking forward to it!

[Anonymous]

BOB

[Anonymous]

Work. Reading. Exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently a friend's washer broke, and she brought all her laundry to my house... she walked in and was like... why is your house so clean... I was like... because my cleaner came ..... 3 WEEKS AGO.


lol!

Huh?
With a slob husband and two kids whose rules never get enforced unless I’m around, the weekly clean gets undone rather quickly…
Coffee grounds on counter, dishes not put away, packaging left out for all the see, shoes everywhere, crumbs everywhere (h works from home most of the time), wet towels (h and D1 have adhd), clothing in piles.

I know ! A divorced empty nester = clean house

Empty nest and married=clean house for us. It's our boys that make the messes. My husband is a neat freak.