Circumcision - Not Enough Cut?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is an adhesion? Are you supposed to push the foreskin back every diaper change? I haven't been dping this but maybe I should? advice please!

NOOOO!!!!! The foreskin is SUPPOSED to be adhered to the head of the penis as a baby; in fact this is how it is able to provide protection to the penis from dirt and infection. If anyone tells you to push the foreskin back, run the other way. Pushing the foreskin back can cause lots of damage to both the foreskin and the head of the penis, which can cause small tears and infections, and ultimately it can lead to phimosis. Never ever EVER push back the foreskin. It will naturally loosen during the next few years. Most boys can retract their foreskin when the are 3-5 years old, and with some boys it takes until puberty. Your son should be the first person who ever retracts his foreskin. Once he is able to retract it, he should be instructed to wash it pretty much the same way little girls are instructed to clean their vaginas. Move the folds around, then use warm water and be gentle! Harsh soap and rough cleansing will sting inside the foreskin as much as it would sting inside a little girl.

So, even in a child who was circumcised but had less foreskin removed (such as the OP), their foreskin is attempting to remain attached -- which is what gets called an "adhesion." The best way to handle this situation is to just to do nothing, and over time the foreskin (or whatever remains of it) will loosen and detach itself exactly like it would if the child still had all of his foreskin.

To the OP -- is your biggest concern the cosmetic affect, or are you concerned about health issues? If you are mostly worried about cosmetic issues, you really don't need to stress! Approximately 40% of the boys born in DC Metro this year will not be circumcised at all, and of those who are, many doctors are leaving circumcised boys with more foreskin then they did when we were young, so it is fairly safe to say that you don't have to worry that he will be weird at all. He is essentially "the new normal."

Also, if you get it redone, than you risk the chance that the doctor winds up removing too much skin, which can lead to painfully tight erections once your son is older -- this actually happened a lot in our generation, thus the trend toward leaving more skin on the penis. So in this case, too much foreskin is definitely preferable to too little skin.

If there are adhesions, you need to pull back to foreskin and apply vaseline exactly like PP said. Otherwise the skin will adhere and get infected. Believe me, we've been there and have talked to nearly a dozen doctors. ALL said the skin must be pulled back nightly. You can also google the topic and get the same reply. Not sure why this poster is writing incorrect information. I think there's a bit of a political motive here. Anyhow, my son is three now and it's a lot better. Thank GOD no more painful adhesions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

Thank you for the male perspective on this. Do you think if there had been other non-circumcised males--say, 40% of the guys in the locker room non-circ'ed--would it have been an issue? I ask this since it appears this country is heading in the direction of 60ish% circumcised to 40ish% non-circumcised...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Thank you for the male perspective on this. Do you think if there had been other non-circumcised males--say, 40% of the guys in the locker room non-circ'ed--would it have been an issue? I ask this since it appears this country is heading in the direction of 60ish% circumcised to 40ish% non-circumcised...

The school I went to was about two-thirds circumcised, one-third not. It was never an issue.

I have to say I don't think this man's perspective is typical. Boys tease each other for all kinds of reasons, and the idea that this one thing would mark you out, to the extent of forcing you to leave town and never return, is frankly bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

Thank you for the male perspective on this. Do you think if there had been other non-circumcised males--say, 40% of the guys in the locker room non-circ'ed--would it have been an issue? I ask this since it appears this country is heading in the direction of 60ish% circumcised to 40ish% non-circumcised...

Right now, 80 percent of white males are circumcised.

[Anonymous]

If there are adhesions, you need to pull back to foreskin and apply vaseline exactly like PP said. Otherwise the skin will adhere and get infected. Believe me, we've been there and have talked to nearly a dozen doctors. ALL said the skin must be pulled back nightly. You can also google the topic and get the same reply. Not sure why this poster is writing incorrect information. I think there's a bit of a political motive here. Anyhow, my son is three now and it's a lot better. Thank GOD no more painful adhesions.

Are you talking about a circumcised boy who had too much skin left, or are you talking about an uncircumcised boy?

[Anonymous]

Right now, 80 percent of white males are circumcised.

This is not correct. You can check out fairly accurate statastics for circumcision in the United Sates at the Centers for Disease Control (www.cdc.gov). There is a wide variation depending on where you live, but I don't think any area even has an 80% circ rate right now, regardless of race.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Leave the boy's penis alone.
You'll give him a complex. Speak no more of it.
Surgery is painful and risky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave the boy's penis alone.
You'll give him a complex. Speak no more of it.
Surgery is painful and risky.

That's my instinct.

He already has one.

I'm trying, but I'm not the only one talking.

I know.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

Troll.

Now that is just uncalled for. I take this poster at his word and I think it was really generous of him to post his experience.

For those of you who talk about the youngest boy in the family getting picked on for looking different and thinking that's odd, you obviously don't have boys. With three young ones in the house, they will see each other's bits and pieces (communal baths, shared bathroom time, running screaming naked through the house as toddlers, etc.). I find that more normal than not.

And as for the siblings teasing each other, they will find ANY thing to annoy each other with. I have a good friend whose daughter teases her older brother all the time for being born in a hospital, for pete's sake, cause the daughter was born in a birthing center! And having a little "pig in the blanket" that looks different would be ripe ammo for a boy.

I also think there would be plenty of ammo for boys in a locker room. For what its worth, maybe no more than other topics (who has the most hair? Who is bigger or smaller?) but it could still make someone self-conscious. And that's the point here: confidence in the appearance of the boys in question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't get the whole "being teased in the locker room" thing.

My wife told me about this forum and this subject and I feel compelled to chime in. I know it may be hard to understand, and I mean no offense, but unless you are a male, with a penis, who has been in the locker room setting, you simply cannot appreciate this. All boys in the locker room can be cruel even if otherwise good boys. All boys will pounce on differences.

I am not circumcised. I was (am) popular and was a good athlete. But I was teased without mercy in the locker room and ultimately outside of the locker room. I was given the unfortunate nickname "Anteater," which I always shrugged off with a grin and a chuckle. But this experience haunted me for so long. Once I graduated from high school, I went to college as far away from home as I could get. To this day I have not returned to my hometown. To this day I no longer undress in a locker room.

Troll.

Now that is just uncalled for. I take this poster at his word and I think it was really generous of him to post his experience.

For those of you who talk about the youngest boy in the family getting picked on for looking different and thinking that's odd, you obviously don't have boys. With three young ones in the house, they will see each other's bits and pieces (communal baths, shared bathroom time, running screaming naked through the house as toddlers, etc.). I find that more normal than not.

And as for the siblings teasing each other, they will find ANY thing to annoy each other with. I have a good friend whose daughter teases her older brother all the time for being born in a hospital, for pete's sake, cause the daughter was born in a birthing center! And having a little "pig in the blanket" that looks different would be ripe ammo for a boy.

I also think there would be plenty of ammo for boys in a locker room. For what its worth, maybe no more than other topics (who has the most hair? Who is bigger or smaller?) but it could still make someone self-conscious. And that's the point here: confidence in the appearance of the boys in question.

Hello again Troll.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Troll.

Someone who wakes up a thread that has been dormant for four months only to twice call someone a troll is obviously a troll themselves.

Unless you have something more to add to the conversation than name-calling, I would ask that you reconsider your participation here.