Feeling weird about this B-list invite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women make everything into drama. Everything has to be passive aggressive. Everything has to have an agenda.

If this was a guy he would just go and have fun. Who cares if he was on the "first list". Oh, no...I wasn't on the first list of friends...my feelings are hurt".

Are you in high school?

Seriously, go if you want. If not, don't. But, wow making this so much more than it is shows how much drama women create for themselves. You already know you're not close friends with this person. She did invite you to the dinner so that means she does like you as friend. But, that doesn't mean she has to treat you like her best friend.

Come on now. Grow up.

+1
women can be so petty and silly. not all, but most.

[Anonymous]

I used to do a lot of flip flopping on these things so now I just don’t accept any last minute offers unless it’s something truly cool and I know right away I want to say yes.
If I don’t, I don’t.

[Anonymous]

It's also possible she initially forgot to invite you and then realized she left you off. Happens all the time. I'd say go if you want to go- could be fun.

[Anonymous]

You described her as a colleague, who is also a friend. You said colleague first, friend second. Colleagues are on the B list, behind people who started out as friends, and family. Own your place on the B list, because the rest of the people on the bus are probably all of her personal friends. It sounds like a compliment to be invited on the tour.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she has an aunt she adores and a niece she despises. They are unfortunately a package deal. Maybe the niece backed out last minute and she was actually thrilled to be able to invite you.

That being said an adult that would do a themed bus tour as part of their birthday celebration isn’t someone I would care to engage with much. Take the high road, go and know that to 99% of the world this person is desperate.