How bad is Snapchat and why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

[Anonymous]

Ooo, did not know we could see text messages online. But we have to know the kid’s login info, right?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

[Anonymous]

We took the approach of letting them have it, but sitting with them randomly and opening messages when we were together. This could happen at any time (and in theory still could happen, if we felt like we needed to).

I understand the desire to limit this stuff, but I wanted my kids to experience social media while they are still at home and while their dad and I have direct say/limits over how it is used. Similar to my desire to have them learn to use a car while living at home and while we can provide direct supervision and limits as needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?

One of the main things we have in place is that we have to approve every app that gets downloaded, so this couldn't happen for us. We don't say no to most of the requests, but it helps stop apps like Snapchat.

[Anonymous]

In high school buying burner phones is more common than you think. Who knew.

My kids knows several who have them to get around parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aaaand, there's also the "Snap Map," which allows your child to see EXACTLY where their friends are, making it crystal clear when they're being excluded.

Ohh boo hoo

That’s ridiculous to be that kind of parent

I think it's ridiculous not to understand how that could make your kid feel. We didn't have that growing up and I am glad.

Thanks to the person who posted about SnapChat not being such a big deal and TikTok being more toxic in their experience. I don't need to have a battle about which one is actually worse, but it's good to know that some things, even if they have the potential to be bad, don't necessarily have that effect.

If everyone's bike was at someone's house, you weren't invited
If people talked about a party on Monday, you were invited

It's literally no different than posting pics on social media

Snap Maps is not that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?

One of the main things we have in place is that we have to approve every app that gets downloaded, so this couldn't happen for us. We don't say no to most of the requests, but it helps stop apps like Snapchat.

You realize most just use someone's old iPhone, iPod, iPad, etc.... and download it there. My kids also let their friends log into their accounts with their phones at school. I let a bunch of middle schoolers sit in my class during lunch and it happens all of the time. Then the friend keeps up the streaks on the weekends. They will always find a way

[Anonymous]

Make sure you check “For Your Eyes Only” folders in Snap

Also, I agreed to it at 15 but I have it downloaded on my phone as well and her log in. I can log in any time I need to. If any of her snap buddies is set to delete immediately vs delete 24hrs then she loses her phone for 2 weeks. I know I am not catching everything but it is a precaution that she knows even 1pm on a school day or 11pm on a Sat night I can log in and see everything.

She’s starting to lose interest in it. She likes posting funny story pics and keep up her streaks. She likes texting thru there vs iMessage because it notifies her if someone screen shots their screen. Her and her friends love doing the bit moji and she loves snap maps. I think it’s pretty cool too. Shows her who is at the mall, a sporting event, etc…

She knows anyone can screen record another phone and she knows police can pull back all text if they request snap. So she knows it is t as private as others think.

The one thing I won’t allow is SEND IT because that seems like a troubling app linked to snap. Can be fun and innocent but it seems like it can set up bullying/exclusion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?

One of the main things we have in place is that we have to approve every app that gets downloaded, so this couldn't happen for us. We don't say no to most of the requests, but it helps stop apps like Snapchat.

I said the same thing and my kid got a cheap second phone. One of his friends made a joke about only drug dealers needing second phones so that's how I knew he had one.

[Anonymous]

My teen (16) uses Snap for the streaks (it's the gamification - he apparently has some crazy length streaks going) and sending messages with his friends. He checks out SnapMap every now and then but doesn't get FOMO overall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.

Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.

How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.

Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about

This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?

One of the main things we have in place is that we have to approve every app that gets downloaded, so this couldn't happen for us. We don't say no to most of the requests, but it helps stop apps like Snapchat.

I said the same thing and my kid got a cheap second phone. One of his friends made a joke about only drug dealers needing second phones so that's how I knew he had one.

Wow are kids really this conniving? If so, I dont think the SM is the problem.