How bad is Snapchat and why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aaaand, there's also the "Snap Map," which allows your child to see EXACTLY where their friends are, making it crystal clear when they're being excluded.

Ohh boo hoo

That’s ridiculous to be that kind of parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aaaand, there's also the "Snap Map," which allows your child to see EXACTLY where their friends are, making it crystal clear when they're being excluded.

Ohh boo hoo

That’s ridiculous to be that kind of parent

I think it's ridiculous not to understand how that could make your kid feel. We didn't have that growing up and I am glad.

Thanks to the person who posted about SnapChat not being such a big deal and TikTok being more toxic in their experience. I don't need to have a battle about which one is actually worse, but it's good to know that some things, even if they have the potential to be bad, don't necessarily have that effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aaaand, there's also the "Snap Map," which allows your child to see EXACTLY where their friends are, making it crystal clear when they're being excluded.

Ohh boo hoo

That’s ridiculous to be that kind of parent

How old are you? If you're an adult you should be embarrassed.

My kid has snap and I hate the map but he won't disable it. He's been on both ends - the kid at the party and the kid not at the party - and the ability to stalk people is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

[Anonymous]

It is a cesspool for bullying, drugs and porn. So is much of the internet, but Snapchat is even worse because it attempts to hide the evidence by making available for only 24 hours, which means most parents have no idea what their kids are doing on there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh jeez, I didn’t know about the porn.

I think kids feel extra removed from supervision on snap and are more likely to use that app for bullying, sending suggestive photos, etc.

Yes, this. I told my kids that the fact that the text disappears is why they can't use it. It's way too sketchy. Use iMessages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girls used it to bully 1 girl. The nasty messages popped up to antagonize her and then they disappear. It was hard to prove bullying in this manner.

Don't screenshots work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I volunteer at a place that has HS interns. They all tell me Tik Tok is toxic but they're fans of Snapchat - apparently you can send DMs on there that go through faster than texts.

Ha, I have a bridge to sell you...

Also, even if that were true, how much faster are we talking? I can text my husband and hear his phone ping immediately. Is saving one nanosecond a reason to use Snapchat?

[Anonymous]

We were hesitant to allow any social media. We allowed snap at 13 for our oldest. With the understanding that the first month was a trial period and that we could and would check it at any time. Snap map must be disabled. There is also an time limit on it (in addition to downtime hours on phone in general).
It had been a non-issue. But our oldest is they type of kid who cannot stand feeling like she is hiding something and steers clear of drama/people prone to drama.
You have to know your kid. And if it’s a no, you should start thinking about when you will allow social media. It is not avoidable forever.

[Anonymous]

You guys know that you can view text messages sent, by logging in online and “requesting data” from snap.. right?

It doesn’t save the pictures for retrieval in the same way. But you can absolutely view the text based messages your kids have sent and received on snap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls used it to bully 1 girl. The nasty messages popped up to antagonize her and then they disappear. It was hard to prove bullying in this manner.

Don't screenshots work?

I think it tells the other party when something was screenshot so people avoid doing it but kids still need to know that someone on another phone can take a photo of the screen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.

+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree

[Anonymous]

It’s mainly just a time waster. Stupid streaks that have to be done daily. Lots of “snapping” random teenagers who go to other schools and building up fake transient relationships that way (from those who use snap a lot) that end up meaningless. I find teens who snap a lot get really addicted to that validation but I also think that it’s their personality and they’d be seeking that out wherever on some other platform.

Kids who aren’t addicted to that kind of dopamine hit of constant communication will be able to use snap just fine.

they can find drug dealers on there but if it’s not there it’s insta or telegram or a friend using all these same apps for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s mainly just a time waster. Stupid streaks that have to be done daily. Lots of “snapping” random teenagers who go to other schools and building up fake transient relationships that way (from those who use snap a lot) that end up meaningless. I find teens who snap a lot get really addicted to that validation but I also think that it’s their personality and they’d be seeking that out wherever on some other platform.

Kids who aren’t addicted to that kind of dopamine hit of constant communication will be able to use snap just fine.

they can find drug dealers on there but if it’s not there it’s insta or telegram or a friend using all these same apps for them.

+1. I hate those damn snap streaks, lol.

[Anonymous]

The epitome of creating FOMO.