A question for vegetarians

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a vegan and can find food pretty much anywhere. She is fully aware other people are not eating the way she is. She doesn't worry about it.

I used to think this was true until I went on a weeklong work trip to Oklahoma. After the second day I gave up on finding vegetarian food and went and stocked food from the grocery store in my hotel room. My colleague who lived there said if he had known I was a vegetarian he would have called his vegetarian friend to make some meals for me. Mind you, his friend is not a restaurant.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't be my preference except if they had real vegetarian meals, but I'd make it work and just get a salad, baked potato or something else worst case.

[Anonymous]

No! Very tone deaf, OP. Choose another spot.

[Anonymous]

I'd appreciate the heads up and would check out the menu and decide accordingly. If I didn't like their offerings, I'd just decline the invite. I wouldn't expect anyone to change the venue for me, nor would I be offended that they had invited me to a steakhouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! Very tone deaf, OP. Choose another spot.

I’m a vegetarian and I disagree! Just ask your friend OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! Very tone deaf, OP. Choose another spot.

Not at all. A lot of business dinners happen at steakhouses. I am usually the only vegetarian in the group and I have always been able to find options.

[Anonymous]

you already made plans and this person willingly joined the plans in place. why would it be necessary to cancel and make a new reservation? your question makes no sense. i’m a vegan and wouldn’t expect people to make plans just because i chose to join a dinner at a steak house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! Very tone deaf, OP. Choose another spot.

you are clueless how business dinners work. i’d say 90% of what i have to attend for work as far as dinners are at Morton’s or The Palm. I’m a vegan and manage to figure it out and not be offended.

[Anonymous]

If the plans haven’t been shared with the group yet, I’d change. Steakhouses typically have limited *good vegetarian options. No one is going to be excited to eat a side salad and a baked potato. The exception would be if they had a vegetarian menu of actually good freshly cooked options (not premade bean burgers or impossible beef).

If you ask them, and if they have any manners at all, they aren’t going to tell you to change it. Of course they will likely say it is totally fine and they don’t mind at all. So I wouldn’t ask. Just look up better spots that are more versatile. Middle eastern inspired restaurants are always a good pick that pleases most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Steakhouses usually have good sides and salads. I’d be fine!

Yes I love steakhouses because I can get a variety of sides! And they have great desserts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a vegan and can find food pretty much anywhere. She is fully aware other people are not eating the way she is. She doesn't worry about it.

I used to think this was true until I went on a weeklong work trip to Oklahoma. After the second day I gave up on finding vegetarian food and went and stocked food from the grocery store in my hotel room. My colleague who lived there said if he had known I was a vegetarian he would have called his vegetarian friend to make some meals for me. Mind you, his friend is not a restaurant.

She would consider getting food at a grocery store being able to find food anywhere. Even at a steakhouse in Texas, she got vegan meals (Perry's in Austin).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd appreciate the heads up and would check out the menu and decide accordingly. If I didn't like their offerings, I'd just decline the invite. I wouldn't expect anyone to change the venue for me, nor would I be offended that they had invited me to a steakhouse.

Anonymous wrote:
If you ask them, and if they have any manners at all, they aren’t going to tell you to change it. Of course they will likely say it is totally fine and they don’t mind at all. So I wouldn’t ask. Just look up better spots that are more versatile. Middle eastern inspired restaurants are always a good pick that pleases most.

I actually agree with both of these. Don't ask me "if it's ok" because obviously I will feel obliged to say yes. If you're worried it's not ok, change the venue. Otherwise just give me a heads up and I will either make do with what they have or skip it, with no hard feelings. I would never expect them to change the venue for me, but I also don't want to be asked if it's ok and then feel weird if I decide to skip the event or if it turns out they only have lettuce.

[Anonymous]

Here is the vegetarian menu in question: https://bavettessteakhouse.com/wp-content/uploads/BBB-Vegetarian-7x10-01-17-24.pdf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the vegetarian menu in question: https://bavettessteakhouse.com/wp-content/uploads/BBB-Vegetarian-7x10-01-17-24.pdf

I'm super picky and I'd be happy with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest mistake you've made is assuming that vegetarians are some sort of monolithic group and that every vegetarian would answer your question the same way. They are a diverse set of individuals and you should ask the one that is joining your work group, because she is the only individual whose opinion matters in this case.

They are all picky eaters.