Anyone reading More- the memoir about a mom in an open marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree it seems like a lot of work. I’d be more interested in polygamy where I get a sister wife to help with all the mom crap plus maybe someone to chit chat with and watch Outlander with.

right? it only makes sense if she’s the type of woman who has a very high drive and enjoys casual sex. which is FINE but not very common. is that how she describes herself?

AND comfortable with your husband's other relationships.

[Anonymous]

Her husband is not very attractive - Why do ugly married men somehow find women to have sex with them??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband is not very attractive - Why do ugly married men somehow find women to have sex with them??

She’s not that attractive either. Or at least, not as attractive as she’d have you believe these men thought she was.

I’ll have to check out her creepy husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband is not very attractive - Why do ugly married men somehow find women to have sex with them??

I looked them up on google images. Very average looking. I feel bad for the kids, having their parents open marriage be a public spectacle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband is not very attractive - Why do ugly married men somehow find women to have sex with them??

One of her lovers Karl also seems unattractive.
A large hairy man with a foot fetish.

[Anonymous]

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2) That he quickly responded by encouraging her to go have sex with others and that he’s described as having an easier experience with open marriage than her makes me suspect that he had been cheating on her the whole time, had already “opened” his side.

Reasonable, but not necessarily true. When my wife told me she wanted to open up my reaction was similar, and I think in many ways I had an easier time than she did. I had not cheated, but maybe I was mentally and emotionally checked out to a large degree.

Yes, so not the best of marriages to begin with. You are not in love with your wife and this is just a parenting partnership without the expense of a divorce, the trauma to children, the headache of custody, the drain of child support and alimony and the juggling of a single life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How how how did she manage mothering two young kids, working, writing, exercising, quality time with husband, time with her mom, lots of therapy, lot of time on dating sites and meeting up with the other men??

Plus she dealt with migraines which often require down time.

And she seemed to socialize occasionally with a girlfriend.

I wish I had her time management skills.

Hats off to her that she didn’t seem caught up in managing her appearance- waxing, blowouts, clothes shopping, nails - all the stuff many women do, me included, to feel good and attractive.

She seemed very confident and at ease with herself without a lot of fuss.

I thought the NYT article said she didn't work. She was a former teacher turned SAHM. So lots of free time as a bored housewife (husband's $$ job meant outsourcing all the basics).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How how how did she manage mothering two young kids, working, writing, exercising, quality time with husband, time with her mom, lots of therapy, lot of time on dating sites and meeting up with the other men??

Plus she dealt with migraines which often require down time.

And she seemed to socialize occasionally with a girlfriend.

I wish I had her time management skills.

Hats off to her that she didn’t seem caught up in managing her appearance- waxing, blowouts, clothes shopping, nails - all the stuff many women do, me included, to feel good and attractive.

She seemed very confident and at ease with herself without a lot of fuss.

I thought the NYT article said she didn't work. She was a former teacher turned SAHM. So lots of free time as a bored housewife (husband's $$ job meant outsourcing all the basics).

Now that’s a new spin on stay at home wife life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How how how did she manage mothering two young kids, working, writing, exercising, quality time with husband, time with her mom, lots of therapy, lot of time on dating sites and meeting up with the other men??

Plus she dealt with migraines which often require down time.

And she seemed to socialize occasionally with a girlfriend.

I wish I had her time management skills.

Hats off to her that she didn’t seem caught up in managing her appearance- waxing, blowouts, clothes shopping, nails - all the stuff many women do, me included, to feel good and attractive.

She seemed very confident and at ease with herself without a lot of fuss.

I thought the NYT article said she didn't work. She was a former teacher turned SAHM. So lots of free time as a bored housewife (husband's $$ job meant outsourcing all the basics).

Didn’t she explicitly mention in the book, though, that she was a teacher? She worked with that one friend she mentioned in the book.

Now that’s a new spin on stay at home wife life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How how how did she manage mothering two young kids, working, writing, exercising, quality time with husband, time with her mom, lots of therapy, lot of time on dating sites and meeting up with the other men??

Plus she dealt with migraines which often require down time.

And she seemed to socialize occasionally with a girlfriend.

I wish I had her time management skills.

Hats off to her that she didn’t seem caught up in managing her appearance- waxing, blowouts, clothes shopping, nails - all the stuff many women do, me included, to feel good and attractive.

She seemed very confident and at ease with herself without a lot of fuss.

I thought the NYT article said she didn't work. She was a former teacher turned SAHM. So lots of free time as a bored housewife (husband's $$ job meant outsourcing all the basics).

Didn’t she explicitly mention in the book, though, that she was a teacher? She worked with that one friend she mentioned in the book.

Now that’s a new spin on stay at home wife life.

At some point? She also mentioned co-working space and writing. Frankly I assumed she didn’t actually work despite what she said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How how how did she manage mothering two young kids, working, writing, exercising, quality time with husband, time with her mom, lots of therapy, lot of time on dating sites and meeting up with the other men??

Plus she dealt with migraines which often require down time.

And she seemed to socialize occasionally with a girlfriend.

I wish I had her time management skills.

Hats off to her that she didn’t seem caught up in managing her appearance- waxing, blowouts, clothes shopping, nails - all the stuff many women do, me included, to feel good and attractive.

She seemed very confident and at ease with herself without a lot of fuss.

I thought the NYT article said she didn't work. She was a former teacher turned SAHM. So lots of free time as a bored housewife (husband's $$ job meant outsourcing all the basics).

Didn’t she explicitly mention in the book, though, that she was a teacher? She worked with that one friend she mentioned in the book.

Now that’s a new spin on stay at home wife life.

At some point? She also mentioned co-working space and writing. Frankly I assumed she didn’t actually work despite what she said.

Same! I got the impression she embellished her writing “career” by renting a space to write. But didn’t she go on a “work trip” and the one boyfriend whose wife worked for Hyatt joined her?

[Anonymous]

I read the book, she wasn't working at the start of the book but then got a job as part of her quest to find herself meaning. Definitely seemed more flexible than my job ha ha.

[Anonymous]

PP here - my job has time for DCUM, not for sex with randos.