What happened to ur kid's GF/BF after graduation?

[Anonymous]

I am curious about this too. DS has been with gf for 18m. They only applied to one school in common so I don't think they will be going to school together, but DS says they have discussed it and they don't intend to break up before going to school.

[Anonymous]

Graduated in May 2023. Kids are not going to college. Both working good jobs and moving in together sometime this summer.

Not everyone goes to college. Not everyone needs to.

[Anonymous]

my DD's dumba$$ boyfriend broke up with her the day before graduation. they really never broke off though. they did go to the same school, but not because of each other (that i know of). he then broke up with her again in september or so. for many years after he would text hr when she had a new boyfriend, asking if you like him better than you liked me!!! this happened up until and after each one was dating their current spouses! sorry, macy, you are second best, he still wants my larla!

i think he finally unfriended her on insta when she got engaged, so the door was closed for him, but he would still communicate with her friends about her. good riddance loser!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my DD's dumba$$ boyfriend broke up with her the day before graduation. they really never broke off though. they did go to the same school, but not because of each other (that i know of). he then broke up with her again in september or so. for many years after he would text hr when she had a new boyfriend, asking if you like him better than you liked me!!! this happened up until and after each one was dating their current spouses! sorry, macy, you are second best, he still wants my larla!

i think he finally unfriended her on insta when she got engaged, so the door was closed for him, but he would still communicate with her friends about her. good riddance loser!

Creepy mom

[Anonymous]

Apparently only 2% of high school sweethearts end up marrying each other while 28% of college sweethearts eventually marry each other.

[Anonymous]

We went to different colleges but kept dating and saw each other on breaks & some weekends. Went to different grad schools farther apart. Eventfully got married after grad school & now married almost 20 years with 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

I picked my college to be close to the BF from junior and senior year of HS. We broke up by graduation, saw casually got together over the summer but then never spoke or saw each other again once we went away to college.

[Anonymous]

Still make an effort to see each other -- train/bus.

[Anonymous]

Both my boys dated long distance 4 and 2 years respectively and got dumped hard.

Both dated a lot the next 2 years, heavy rebound dating.

One is dating seriously, the other is playing the field.

[Anonymous]

Broke up thanksgiving, DD was devastated and depressed, did poorly on exams in Dec.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently only 2% of high school sweethearts end up marrying each other while 28% of college sweethearts eventually marry each other.

Thats quite high! Interesting.

[Anonymous]

To be exact, 28% of married people attended same college, not necessarily were sweethearts. Some were, others were friends, acquaintances or even strangers but found each other after college, in grad school, at work, on dating apps or through common friends.

[Anonymous]

I expect that the HS BF/GF break up if they go to different colleges? I mean it is basically a convenient FWB situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently only 2% of high school sweethearts end up marrying each other while 28% of college sweethearts eventually marry each other.

I think 28% of college students marry a college boyfriend/girlfriend. It's possible to have several college sweethearts and only marry one (or none).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious about this too. DS has been with gf for 18m. They only applied to one school in common so I don't think they will be going to school together, but DS says they have discussed it and they don't intend to break up before going to school.

This was ours. Started dating in junior year (same school, friend group etc.). BF and she got into colleges 6+ hours (driving) apart. Breaking up before going to college was not even considered from what I could see, as they seemed to find the idea to be too cavalier and calculating. We parents were a bit skeptical about how this will turn out and the potential drama of an inevitable breakup. Fast forward to middle of sophomore year and they are very much together, meeting each other over breaks when they come home or in school when they occasionally visit each other. Both seem to be doing great in their respective, academically challenging colleges. We have heard some murmurs to the effect that while long distance is hard, they have it figured out (aided by technology and airlines) and live their own college lives while being closely in touch. I suspect the nature of both is such that they enjoy the stability, and not being major partyers, having a lot of interests in common and overlapping friends groups also help.

We remain curious to see how long this lasts. We are also amused by the obvious surprise with which other parents react when they hear about a high school couple still going on long-distance. There are also hints of an implicit societal expectation to be free to "screw around" in college, which is entirely alien to the parental culture we have grown up around. Where I come from (somewhere in Europe), while we are not at all conservative about dating, parents tend to be generally happy and not surprised if their college-going son or daughter is in a steady, long-term relationship.

Our kid's situation is not common, going by what we see among our their friends and kids of our own friends. But it's not very rare either, as we know of a few other HS couples going strong long-term and long-distance.