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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am curious about this too. DS has been with gf for 18m. They only applied to one school in common so I don't think they will be going to school together, but DS says they have discussed it and they don't intend to break up before going to school. [/quote]

This was ours. Started dating in junior year (same school, friend group etc.). BF and she got into colleges 6+ hours (driving) apart. Breaking up before going to college was not even considered from what I could see, as they seemed to find the idea to be too cavalier and calculating. We parents were a bit skeptical about how this will turn out and the potential drama of an inevitable breakup. Fast forward to middle of sophomore year and they are very much together, meeting each other over breaks when they come home or in school when they occasionally visit each other. Both seem to be doing great in their respective, academically challenging colleges. We have heard some murmurs to the effect that while long distance is hard, they have it figured out (aided by technology and airlines) and live their own college lives while being closely in touch. I suspect the nature of both is such that they enjoy the stability, and not being major partyers, having a lot of interests in common and overlapping friends groups also help.

We remain curious to see how long this lasts. We are also amused by the obvious surprise with which other parents react when they hear about a high school couple still going on long-distance. There are also hints of an implicit societal expectation to be free to "screw around" in college, which is entirely alien to the parental culture we have grown up around. Where I come from (somewhere in Europe), while we are not at all conservative about dating, parents tend to be generally happy and not surprised if their college-going son or daughter is in a steady, long-term relationship.

Our kid's situation is not common, going by what we see among our their friends and kids of our own friends. But it's not very rare either, as we know of a few other HS couples going strong long-term and long-distance.

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