I hate the fact that I have no natural beauty

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Anonymous wrote:Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

I wish someone would answer this question. How does one “learn” great style? I think I might start a different thread to ask this question.

I found my style when I was in high school from fashion magazines, later movies. Also, pay attention to what friends are wearing, co-workers, women in your neighborhood, while commuting, etc. then decide what you liked about what others are wearing and decide if it would look good on you.

There's always the in-store personal stylists, but I have never done that.

Also, wanted to add, I previously lived in large metro areas and would window shop the shopping districts for style ideas.

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Anonymous wrote:My dear, none of us really have the kind of natural beauty we want, but we all have it in some way. You probably have beautiful clear facial skin, sleek healthy hair, absolutely no body acne, etc. All you need is a good hair cut, face framing highlights, blush, and lipgloss.

Speak for yourself, I don’t want what I don’t have, I don’t want to turn back time and be young again, I’m thankful for my looks and my body and everything it has done so far. I have exactly the amount of natural beauty that I want.

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Anonymous wrote:Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

I wish someone would answer this question. How does one “learn” great style? I think I might start a different thread to ask this question.

I found my style when I was in high school from fashion magazines, later movies. Also, pay attention to what friends are wearing, co-workers, women in your neighborhood, while commuting, etc. then decide what you liked about what others are wearing and decide if it would look good on you.

There's always the in-store personal stylists, but I have never done that.

Also, wanted to add, I previously lived in large metro areas and would window shop the shopping districts for style ideas.

Plus one more:

My style has evolved since my teen years, but these are other examples of how it started.

My mother would constantly tell me what looked good on me.

In high school, she dragged my to the salon and told the stylist to teach me how to take care of my hair and shamed me for being lazy.

In church my mom would point out other girls my age and comment on their "cute" style.

My first makeup was from Clinique because that's what my mom used. I just asked the sales girl to show me neutral colors and that's what I bought.

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Nothing wrong with a visit to a fantastic plastic surgeon.

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Anonymous wrote:As a great aunt once told me, you're not pretty but it doesn't matter because you're young.

That sounds like something Dowager Countess of Grantham would say- there is a quite a bit of truth in it, no beauty can compete with that of youth.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm about to sound like I'm 13 with these petty insecurities, but I'm actually 30.

I just wish I were pretty, like naturally pretty, but I'm not. I have nothing striking about me and I'm just plain. Dull, downturned eyes, no high cheekbones, no good bone structure at all, no defined jawline, face totally flat and bland, boring up-and-down straight figure, nothing that shows any natural femininity. The only thing I naturally have going for me is my weight, I'm thin but not strikingly so either. Just average height and normal/below average weight, so being Not Fat is basically the only attractive thing about me. It's like I was made this way so that beautiful people could be appreciated for being beautiful.

I'm also just whitest of white. I've done one of those DNA tests hoping that there would be some surprises but I am Anglo through and through. A basic WASP but without the money. I've been insecure about that my whole life because I have always longed to be a part of a culture. Any culture. And that's such a stupid basic white girl thing to fret about.

Yes beauty comes from the inside, yeah yeah, but is it so wrong to wish I were pretty?

I hate posts like yours.

Why, because you’re beautiful? 😉

They’re just dreadful. They betray such a jaundiced, view of one’s self and of other women. The whole so sad to be just white thing irks, too. THAT is what’s fug as F, not OP’s depressed view of herself in the mirror.

I am with you PP. I am simultaneously pitying OP and also disgusted by our culture that this what someone runs around worrying about.

And who cares if you are white? There is nothing wrong with being white, or black, or anything else. None of us choose to be here. You got what you got. Make the most of what you have and stop focusing on superficial bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Start small and focus on one thing at a time, clothes, footwear, hair, then makeup, bag, etc.

Figure out if you look good in skirts, dresses, pants or all.

Determine what colors flatter your skin tone.

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Anonymous wrote:If you go to countries where they adore white beauty (asian countries and some indian) you will stand out and be recognized for your height and white skin.

Lol - operative word being “beauty”. The standards may be different from the US, but they exist. Some may work in your favor, but others may not. For example, if you’re only “Not Fat” here, you’re not going to be considered thin in some East Asian countries where one size fits all clothing is a norm until you go way out into the boonies.

All that aside, I think changing your negative attitude would make the biggest difference. People with real chutzpah don’t need conventional good looks.

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Look (skeptically) at Kibbe styles - it at least will train your eye to start thinking in lines and silhouettes: https://theconceptwardrobe.com/

Look at color typing - https://merriamstyle.com/color_typing.php

Basically each person looks good in a particular type of clothes - what looks good on Tilda Swinton (drama, hard lines, asymmetry) won't look good on Drew Barrymore.

Look at your natural contrast - determine what is your dark color (gray, brown, navy, black); see what white looks good on you - pale yellow, soft white, true white or light gray.

Look at scale/contrast of your features and apply the same to clothes - brunette with white skin and bigger features can handle strong black and white sailor stripes, blonde with smaller features will rock softer and thinner stripes - like mint on white.

And lastly determine what is that you are missing? You want to look more feminine, more fierce, more boss lady? Start by upgrading your basics so you are 100% happy with them and then add pieces to reflect the need above. So a white tshirt and jeans, if they fit perfectly, can be made feminine with a pointy toe flat and a longer jacket, etc.

[Anonymous]

Focus on things you can control: skin, hair, nails, teeth, physique, posture, wardrobe and accessories.