I hate the fact that I have no natural beauty

[Anonymous]

As a great aunt once told me, you're not pretty but it doesn't matter because you're young.

[Anonymous]

Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

[Anonymous]

My dear, none of us really have the kind of natural beauty we want, but we all have it in some way. You probably have beautiful clear facial skin, sleek healthy hair, absolutely no body acne, etc. All you need is a good hair cut, face framing highlights, blush, and lipgloss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

How do you learn that?

[Anonymous]

Plain women have existed for hundreds of years. It’s okay to be plain. How many of your mothers and grandmothers have been plain and led fulfilled lives? This new belief that every woman has to be striking or get plastic surgery to appear so is frankly exhausting and unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm about to sound like I'm 13 with these petty insecurities, but I'm actually 30.

I just wish I were pretty, like naturally pretty, but I'm not. I have nothing striking about me and I'm just plain. Dull, downturned eyes, no high cheekbones, no good bone structure at all, no defined jawline, face totally flat and bland, boring up-and-down straight figure, nothing that shows any natural femininity. The only thing I naturally have going for me is my weight, I'm thin but not strikingly so either. Just average height and normal/below average weight, so being Not Fat is basically the only attractive thing about me. It's like I was made this way so that beautiful people could be appreciated for being beautiful.

I'm also just whitest of white. I've done one of those DNA tests hoping that there would be some surprises but I am Anglo through and through. A basic WASP but without the money. I've been insecure about that my whole life because I have always longed to be a part of a culture. Any culture. And that's such a stupid basic white girl thing to fret about.

Yes beauty comes from the inside, yeah yeah, but is it so wrong to wish I were pretty?

I hate posts like yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about to sound like I'm 13 with these petty insecurities, but I'm actually 30.

I just wish I were pretty, like naturally pretty, but I'm not. I have nothing striking about me and I'm just plain. Dull, downturned eyes, no high cheekbones, no good bone structure at all, no defined jawline, face totally flat and bland, boring up-and-down straight figure, nothing that shows any natural femininity. The only thing I naturally have going for me is my weight, I'm thin but not strikingly so either. Just average height and normal/below average weight, so being Not Fat is basically the only attractive thing about me. It's like I was made this way so that beautiful people could be appreciated for being beautiful.

I'm also just whitest of white. I've done one of those DNA tests hoping that there would be some surprises but I am Anglo through and through. A basic WASP but without the money. I've been insecure about that my whole life because I have always longed to be a part of a culture. Any culture. And that's such a stupid basic white girl thing to fret about.

Yes beauty comes from the inside, yeah yeah, but is it so wrong to wish I were pretty?

I hate posts like yours.

Why, because you’re beautiful? 😉

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about to sound like I'm 13 with these petty insecurities, but I'm actually 30.

I just wish I were pretty, like naturally pretty, but I'm not. I have nothing striking about me and I'm just plain. Dull, downturned eyes, no high cheekbones, no good bone structure at all, no defined jawline, face totally flat and bland, boring up-and-down straight figure, nothing that shows any natural femininity. The only thing I naturally have going for me is my weight, I'm thin but not strikingly so either. Just average height and normal/below average weight, so being Not Fat is basically the only attractive thing about me. It's like I was made this way so that beautiful people could be appreciated for being beautiful.

I'm also just whitest of white. I've done one of those DNA tests hoping that there would be some surprises but I am Anglo through and through. A basic WASP but without the money. I've been insecure about that my whole life because I have always longed to be a part of a culture. Any culture. And that's such a stupid basic white girl thing to fret about.

Yes beauty comes from the inside, yeah yeah, but is it so wrong to wish I were pretty?

I hate posts like yours.

Why, because you’re beautiful? 😉

They’re just dreadful. They betray such a jaundiced, view of one’s self and of other women. The whole so sad to be just white thing irks, too. THAT is what’s fug as F, not OP’s depressed view of herself in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IMO, most women don't have natural beauty, especially those in the media. They are all botoxed up, go see a dermatologist every week, and of course the plastic surgery.

Being thin is nothing to sneeze at. It's hard for most women to stay thin.

+1
The vast majority of people are not especially naturally attractive.
What did Coco Chanel say? There are no ugly women, only lazy ones?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IMO, most women don't have natural beauty, especially those in the media. They are all botoxed up, go see a dermatologist every week, and of course the plastic surgery.

Being thin is nothing to sneeze at. It's hard for most women to stay thin.

+1
The vast majority of people are not especially naturally attractive.
What did Coco Chanel say? There are no ugly women, only lazy ones?

Helena Rubenstein

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about to sound like I'm 13 with these petty insecurities, but I'm actually 30.

I just wish I were pretty, like naturally pretty, but I'm not. I have nothing striking about me and I'm just plain. Dull, downturned eyes, no high cheekbones, no good bone structure at all, no defined jawline, face totally flat and bland, boring up-and-down straight figure, nothing that shows any natural femininity. The only thing I naturally have going for me is my weight, I'm thin but not strikingly so either. Just average height and normal/below average weight, so being Not Fat is basically the only attractive thing about me. It's like I was made this way so that beautiful people could be appreciated for being beautiful.

I'm also just whitest of white. I've done one of those DNA tests hoping that there would be some surprises but I am Anglo through and through. A basic WASP but without the money. I've been insecure about that my whole life because I have always longed to be a part of a culture. Any culture. And that's such a stupid basic white girl thing to fret about.

Yes beauty comes from the inside, yeah yeah, but is it so wrong to wish I were pretty?

I hate posts like yours.

Why, because you’re beautiful? 😉

They’re just dreadful. They betray such a jaundiced, view of one’s self and of other women. The whole so sad to be just white thing irks, too. THAT is what’s fug as F, not OP’s depressed view of herself in the mirror.

It’s true. It’s OP’s attitude that’s ugly, not her face.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with being just white? Lean into something cool from one of the countries you trace back to that most other cultures of people also generally enjoy like knitting or making German chocolate cake or other native recipes or things that can be shared with other people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

I wish someone would answer this question. How does one “learn” great style? I think I might start a different thread to ask this question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great style can count for a lot. And it can be learned, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.

I wish someone would answer this question. How does one “learn” great style? I think I might start a different thread to ask this question.

I found my style when I was in high school from fashion magazines, later movies. Also, pay attention to what friends are wearing, co-workers, women in your neighborhood, while commuting, etc. then decide what you liked about what others are wearing and decide if it would look good on you.

There's always the in-store personal stylists, but I have never done that.

[Anonymous]

Being thin means you are 95% of the way to looking amazing. Spend some $$ on a good personal stylist and makeup artist (you can try Nordstrom/Mac but may be worthwhile to invest in someone private). They will get you the remaining 5% of the way there.

Have you ever seen Katy Perry no-makeup pics?