If you have been informed about alleged bullying of 7th grader

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

[Anonymous]

Most schools have some way now to anonymously submit a text or form on the website to report bullying or other issues at the school. Look carefully on the school website.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. This has nothing to do with my kid.

It does have something to do with OP's kid, now that she is aware of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help your child with what to do. Does she know the bullied child or the bullies? She should talk to the bullied child to get her side of the story. If she can’t do that then she needs to tell the counselor exactly what she heard and the counselor would take it from there.

Not doing anything about bullying is a huge problem. Her daughter is able to talk to people, get more information from her first source. Get the school adults involved. She can make a difference in the bullied child’s life.

THIS.

Our son was suicidal at this age due to bullying. Your daughter can possibly help this person.

Op I see that you will go to the counselor. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

+1 like shooting up a school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

+1 like shooting up a school.

I guarantee you the counselor's inbox if full with parent emails about "bullying" It is hard to discern what is and isn't. Someone who heard something from her daughter who heard something from a friend who heard something...is a very weak complaint under bullying. Now if this was the actual kid who overheard, or the girl or parent themselves, then that is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

+100

So do nothing? I'd rather send the message or have my daughter tell the counselor and leave it up to them to investigate, or not, rather than decide myself it's a non-issue. I wouldn't want that on my conscience should something happen. Would you? The counselor could at least follow up with the kid to check in.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so glad that you are reporting it. I just read this article this morning... https://wapo.st/3QyXb8p
Horrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

+100

So do nothing? I'd rather send the message or have my daughter tell the counselor and leave it up to them to investigate, or not, rather than decide myself it's a non-issue. I wouldn't want that on my conscience should something happen. Would you? The counselor could at least follow up with the kid to check in.

Then the girl that heard can report, or the girl herself, or her parents. If none of these people see a problem, why are you creating one to investigate? Counselors getting bogged with bogus reports from parents hearing gossip takes time away from real issues they need to address

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

EXACTLY. People think it's just kids being kids. Or "you don't have to include everyone." And that sh-- piles on and that is entirely the point over all the kindness and anti-bullying campaigns. That stuff piles on and then you get true mental health issues and kids being suicidal. And what's shocking is that these campaigns have been going on for decades now and you have ADULTS saying they'd turn a blind eye. Or it's NBD. How hard is it to alert the counselors and let them sort out what is and is not. I couldn't live with myself, personally, if I had the ability to help a child who is struggling and didnt'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

EXACTLY. People think it's just kids being kids. Or "you don't have to include everyone." And that sh-- piles on and that is entirely the point over all the kindness and anti-bullying campaigns. That stuff piles on and then you get true mental health issues and kids being suicidal. And what's shocking is that these campaigns have been going on for decades now and you have ADULTS saying they'd turn a blind eye. Or it's NBD. How hard is it to alert the counselors and let them sort out what is and is not. I couldn't live with myself, personally, if I had the ability to help a child who is struggling and didnt'.

Ok, yes. Alert the counselor every time you hear from someone who heard from someone who heard someone who might have been being mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

There’s an article in the Washington Post today on kids who committed suicide after being bullies. One video showed an 8 year old unconscious on the bathroom floor with boys stepping over him kicking him. No one went for help after a bully knocked him down.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2023/11/10/school-bullying-suicide-lawsuit/

It’s everyone’s job to get involved when they have knowledge of bullying happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Yes, you tell the counselors. It’s up to them to sort it out.

Actually I don’t think it’s a low priority anymore. These are exactly the type of kids who end up committing suicide or worse.

EXACTLY. People think it's just kids being kids. Or "you don't have to include everyone." And that sh-- piles on and that is entirely the point over all the kindness and anti-bullying campaigns. That stuff piles on and then you get true mental health issues and kids being suicidal. And what's shocking is that these campaigns have been going on for decades now and you have ADULTS saying they'd turn a blind eye. Or it's NBD. How hard is it to alert the counselors and let them sort out what is and is not. I couldn't live with myself, personally, if I had the ability to help a child who is struggling and didnt'.

Ok, yes. Alert the counselor every time you hear from someone who heard from someone who heard someone who might have been being mean

Are you always obtuse? Mean ??? No. Bullying? Yes.

If youre going to make a snarky argument, at least work with the fact pattern at issue vs. one you made up.