If you have been informed about alleged bullying of 7th grader

[Anonymous]

What would you do?
DD told me that she was told a 7th grader girl is “severely bullied” by two 7th grader girls. DD was told specific examples of bullying, which she shared with me. They are horrible if they in fact had happened.

As a mom, I am worried about the girl who has been allegedly bullied. I say allegedly because neither DD or I know bullying has been happening for a fact.

What would be the best action to make sure that the girl who has been allegedly bullied is okay? Reach out to the girl’s parents? Reach out to school counselor? Reach out to the patents of the alleged bullies?

[Anonymous]

I would do nothing. You are far too removed from anyone directly involved

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure you, the mom, should be doing anything but there may be a way for your daughter to anonymously report bullying at her school. Our school had something called "Stop It!" which was an app, not sure what happened but they don't use it anymore. But it basically was meant to be a tool to share the info without getting too involved.

[Anonymous]

Help your child with what to do. Does she know the bullied child or the bullies? She should talk to the bullied child to get her side of the story. If she can’t do that then she needs to tell the counselor exactly what she heard and the counselor would take it from there.

Not doing anything about bullying is a huge problem. Her daughter is able to talk to people, get more information from her first source. Get the school adults involved. She can make a difference in the bullied child’s life.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. This has nothing to do with my kid.

[Anonymous]

I have a kid this age and I would encourage her to tell the school counselor. There are ways to do this discreetly where they won't get "caught" ratting out other kids (which can be social suicide) or at least there are at our school.

[Anonymous]

DD should talk to the school counselor, and you should be encouraging her to do that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. This has nothing to do with my kid.

You're a jerk. I mean that.

[Anonymous]

I would reach out to the counselor myself. I’m not a helicopter parent, but my kid has been the target of bullies before. I don’t want to ask them to do anything that might come back to hurt them. They did the right thing by telling me. That’s enough for me at this time.

[Anonymous]

Report it to the school counselor. They will investigate.

[Anonymous]

Agree to report to the counselor.

When my DD was being bullied at the same age, it would have meant the world to her if she thought even one other kid stood up for her - even if they did it anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Encourage your daughter to report and tell her you are also going to do it. Make sure your daughter knows she may be questioned and should be honest about what she does & does not know.

[Anonymous]

If it is as serious as you say, I would report it yourself. Our school used to have an anonymous tip line of some sort (not sure if they still do). You could report it that way. Otherwise- if you are comfortable doing so- I would just call the school counselor yourself and tell her what your DD told you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid this age and I would encourage her to tell the school counselor. There are ways to do this discreetly where they won't get "caught" ratting out other kids (which can be social suicide) or at least there are at our school.

This. If your kid isn't comfortable doing it herself, then you call the counselor.

[Anonymous]

I would call or email the school counselor and let them know. I would be doing that right now, if I were in your shoes.