Two single neighbors dating: yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Saying thank you a year later is super weird. Just go flirt with him like a normal person.

[Anonymous]

Shooters shoot.

[Anonymous]

I think leaving a box of cookies and your # is a great idea!

If I received such a note I would be flattered! If I wasn't attracted to you I would make up something about having a girlfriend or not wanting to date neighbors, etc. It doesn't have to be awkward or weird. Being attracted to other humans is to be expected.

[Anonymous]

Don’t crap where you eat.

[Anonymous]

Stalk him for a bit, and accidentally on purpose run into him. Remind him of who you are and ask him out for coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About two years ago, I moved to a different building in the same apartment complex. I hardly ever even drive or walk past that building.

When I was moving out, I was dating someone. The man next door was a new neighbor. I don't think I even know his name. He saw me struggling with some furniture with the man I was dating, and he asked if he could help. He took over where I was trying to lift the furniture, and he helped moved the furniture in my ex BF's SUV.

I see him driving around occasionally. He drives a unique sports car with a unique retired vet license plate. I saw him months ago walking with a blonde haired woman, but other than that he's by himself.

We both look to be the same age.

I'm a woman. I'm thinking about leaving some Christmas cookies with a note with my number and a belated "thank you." Yes, it's been more than a year, but what could it hurt?

Does this sound like a terrible idea? He's a nice looking man, and I want to get to know him. I've not ever done anything like this before.

Is he a neighbor or not? What all the weird extra details? You seem unbalanced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op,

You're way far ahead of yourself.
You don't know if he's single or interested
Yet you're already talking about dating.

You want to bake cookies and leave him your number.

Maybe you know just say hi start talking to him.
Get to know him a bit and see if you want more.

Keep it simple

Yes, I'm interested in dating him.

You don't know him!. You seem very desperate. The type of woman who has to have a man at all times to feel complete.

You're title is misleading and I think you know that most people would have no problem with two single adults dating.
But this isn't your situation.
This is a guy who was helpful once two years ago.
And you have already decided you're dating him despite having zero interaction with him since and not knowing if he's even single or interested.

The adult thing to do would be to say hi. Strike up a conversation.
The unstable thing to do is what you're doing creating a fantasy in your head that he's the perfect man and you're desperately in love and your relationship is destiny.

Seriously just freaking say hello and skip the cookies for now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About two years ago, I moved to a different building in the same apartment complex. I hardly ever even drive or walk past that building.

When I was moving out, I was dating someone. The man next door was a new neighbor. I don't think I even know his name. He saw me struggling with some furniture with the man I was dating, and he asked if he could help. He took over where I was trying to lift the furniture, and he helped moved the furniture in my ex BF's SUV.

I see him driving around occasionally. He drives a unique sports car with a unique retired vet license plate. I saw him months ago walking with a blonde haired woman, but other than that he's by himself.

We both look to be the same age.

I'm a woman. I'm thinking about leaving some Christmas cookies with a note with my number and a belated "thank you." Yes, it's been more than a year, but what could it hurt?

Does this sound like a terrible idea? He's a nice looking man, and I want to get to know him. I've not ever done anything like this before.

Is he a neighbor or not? What all the weird extra details? You seem unbalanced.

I don't think they are neighbors anymore. It sounds like op has created a fantasy that he's the one for her and is stalking him a bit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About two years ago, I moved to a different building in the same apartment complex. I hardly ever even drive or walk past that building.

When I was moving out, I was dating someone. The man next door was a new neighbor. I don't think I even know his name. He saw me struggling with some furniture with the man I was dating, and he asked if he could help. He took over where I was trying to lift the furniture, and he helped moved the furniture in my ex BF's SUV.

I see him driving around occasionally. He drives a unique sports car with a unique retired vet license plate. I saw him months ago walking with a blonde haired woman, but other than that he's by himself.

We both look to be the same age.

I'm a woman. I'm thinking about leaving some Christmas cookies with a note with my number and a belated "thank you." Yes, it's been more than a year, but what could it hurt?

Does this sound like a terrible idea? He's a nice looking man, and I want to get to know him. I've not ever done anything like this before.

Is he a neighbor or not? What all the weird extra details? You seem unbalanced.

I don't think they are neighbors anymore. It sounds like op has created a fantasy that he's the one for her and is stalking him a bit

It's mildly concerning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do the cookie thing. Just manage to "run into" him and chat.

I'd have to walk past his apartment/my old apartment a lot to run into him. LoL.

I have a dog. He doesn't. I hardly ever see him, unless he's driving in his car.

Where his apartment is situated is very quiet. I would really be going out of my way to walk by his apartment.

Maybe I'll see him at a resident event at the clubhouse.

Then, that to me would be somewhat awkward. He might feel I'm not respecting his privacy and stalking him.

I just thought I'd leave a note with my number saying, "It's your former neighbor. Give me a call sometime. I didn't get a chance to introduce myself when you moved in."

The last option is the only halfway adult approach. Meeting organically is far better.

To me, we did meet "organically" already when he moved across the hall from me and when he helped move some furniture. I just didn't catch his name. I had a BF at the time with me.

You seem hellbent on doing this according to your plan despite what the majority are saying, so just do it and report back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op,

You're way far ahead of yourself.
You don't know if he's single or interested
Yet you're already talking about dating.

You want to bake cookies and leave him your number.

Maybe you know just say hi start talking to him.
Get to know him a bit and see if you want more.

Keep it simple

Yes, I'm interested in dating him.

You don't know him!. You seem very desperate. The type of woman who has to have a man at all times to feel complete.

You're title is misleading and I think you know that most people would have no problem with two single adults dating.
But this isn't your situation.
This is a guy who was helpful once two years ago.
And you have already decided you're dating him despite having zero interaction with him since and not knowing if he's even single or interested.

The adult thing to do would be to say hi. Strike up a conversation.
The unstable thing to do is what you're doing creating a fantasy in your head that he's the perfect man and you're desperately in love and your relationship is destiny.

Seriously just freaking say hello and skip the cookies for now

All she knows is that he helped her once, drives a vintage car, is a vet, and is a renter. Yet she wants to date him!

[Anonymous]

I have a sexy neighbor and we have had convos in which we have vibed, esp during drunken lawn parties during the pandemic. But he also told me that he doesn't date in the development, which is smart. He has since gotten back together with his ex-wife, so imagine if we had hooked up or dated. It would be so awkward now.

[Anonymous]

This seems weird and out of time. He might not even remember you. Besides men like to chase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start walking your dog by his building. Eventually you might see him.

This. Then pitch the coffee thing. All he can do is say no! Then you can just stop walking your dog by his building. No big deal. I cold called guys on two occasions. One didn’t work and I just never saw him again. One worked out really well!