Two single neighbors dating: yes or no?
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Anonymous
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About two years ago, I moved to a different building in the same apartment complex. I hardly ever even drive or walk past that building.
When I was moving out, I was dating someone. The man next door was a new neighbor. I don't think I even know his name. He saw me struggling with some furniture with the man I was dating, and he asked if he could help. He took over where I was trying to lift the furniture, and he helped moved the furniture in my ex BF's SUV. I see him driving around occasionally. He drives a unique sports car with a unique retired vet license plate. I saw him months ago walking with a blonde haired woman, but other than that he's by himself. We both look to be the same age. I'm a woman. I'm thinking about leaving some Christmas cookies with a note with my number and a belated "thank you." Yes, it's been more than a year, but what could it hurt? Does this sound like a terrible idea? He's a nice looking man, and I want to get to know him. I've not ever done anything like this before. |
Anonymous
| No. Don’t do this. |
Anonymous
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I had a neighbor I didn’t know ask me out. It was incredibly uncomfortable. He brought me flowers. I had no idea who he was and when I found out it was my directly below downstairs neighbor it was awkward on the stairwell.
Dudes may feel differently. He may not be single or straight btw. |
Anonymous
| You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. Do it. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t leave cookies, he might not remember you. Talk to him in person. |
Anonymous
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Just talk to him.
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Anonymous
Yeah this. At least deliver them in person, but I would skip the cookies and not make it a thank you, that's weird. And was it 2 years ago or 1? |
Anonymous
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Op,
You're way far ahead of yourself. You don't know if he's single or interested Yet you're already talking about dating. You want to bake cookies and leave him your number. Maybe you know just say hi start talking to him. Get to know him a bit and see if you want more. Keep it simple |
Anonymous
| Of course it’s fine. |
Anonymous
It was a while ago, more than a year. I'm doing a Christmas cookie exchange with a group in my neighborhood. That's why I thought of the cookies. We don't live in the same building. It's a large complex. We're not really any closer to each other than if he lived a few blocks away. He was a new neighbor when he moved in. He lived directly across from me. We did share a stairwell. I had a BF at the time. |
Anonymous
Yes, I'm interested in dating him. |
Anonymous
| Don't do the cookie thing. Just manage to "run into" him and chat. |
Anonymous
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Say hello if you see him. Don’t make cookies. Don’t make excuses to be in that building.
Try to meet more potentials. Online, through friends, go out. |
Anonymous
| You know where he lives? Find someway to talk to him. Some reason. Even if it's knocking on his door. Do not go in, though. Say you have a question about the building. You have a friend who might move into his building. You wondered if he recommended it. (you could ask if ... some common problem had been fixed/addressed since you left.) Ask him some question and maybe give him your phone number, maybe. |
Anonymous
I'd have to walk past his apartment/my old apartment a lot to run into him. LoL. I have a dog. He doesn't. I hardly ever see him, unless he's driving in his car. Where his apartment is situated is very quiet. I would really be going out of my way to walk by his apartment. Maybe I'll see him at a resident event at the clubhouse. Then, that to me would be somewhat awkward. He might feel I'm not respecting his privacy and stalking him. I just thought I'd leave a note with my number saying, "It's your former neighbor. Give me a call sometime. I didn't get a chance to introduce myself when you moved in." |