Male Teacher tried to hug 7th grader in class!

[Anonymous]

In this situation, I'd let the principal know that this teacher hugged your daughter, without consent. Also do include that he apologized when she stood up for herself.

I'm not saying that there are other reports about the teacher, but if there are, this will help create a fuller picture of his behavior. If there aren't any reports, and this was a one-time misjudgment and he's apologized, that's fine. But I would share it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I raises my daughter very religious, alert and respectful. So this Male Teacher tried to wrap my daughter around but my baby refused and moved away. He then apologised and said sorry to her because other students allow him to hug them etc. my daughter told him no! my question is dont these teachers get training on how to be professional and respectful? Well not everyone allows these kind behaviour?Or Is it normal for a male teacher to hug female students? Well this kind of behaviour is wrong to us and is not accepted to us and to our religion Islam but why can’t the school train their staff? To be respectful?
P.S; This is our first time in public school from private where teachers are very respectful there and we have never experienced this.
Your opinion, thoughts and comments will all be appreciated. Thank you.

C'mon: "tried" people. Not "did".

[Anonymous]

What about high school seniors?
Should teachers not even hug them on their last day in school? Are you serious?

[Anonymous]

This seems unacceptable. I'd report this to the administration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I raises my daughter very religious, alert and respectful. So this Male Teacher tried to wrap my daughter around but my baby refused and moved away. He then apologised and said sorry to her because other students allow him to hug them etc. my daughter told him no! my question is dont these teachers get training on how to be professional and respectful? Well not everyone allows these kind behaviour?Or Is it normal for a male teacher to hug female students? Well this kind of behaviour is wrong to us and is not accepted to us and to our religion Islam but why can’t the school train their staff? To be respectful?
P.S; This is our first time in public school from private where teachers are very respectful there and we have never experienced this.
Your opinion, thoughts and comments will all be appreciated. Thank you.

C'mon: "tried" people. Not "did".

+1. This is a non-issue. Teacher attempted a hug (common!) - daughter said no - he listened. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I raises my daughter very religious, alert and respectful. So this Male Teacher tried to wrap my daughter around but my baby refused and moved away. He then apologised and said sorry to her because other students allow him to hug them etc. my daughter told him no! my question is dont these teachers get training on how to be professional and respectful? Well not everyone allows these kind behaviour?Or Is it normal for a male teacher to hug female students? Well this kind of behaviour is wrong to us and is not accepted to us and to our religion Islam but why can’t the school train their staff? To be respectful?
P.S; This is our first time in public school from private where teachers are very respectful there and we have never experienced this.
Your opinion, thoughts and comments will all be appreciated. Thank you.

C'mon: "tried" people. Not "did".

+1. This is a non-issue. Teacher attempted a hug (common!) - daughter said no - he listened. End of story.

Seriously. OP, you can take this to the principal if you want, but recognize that you are really (intentionally or not) throwing some gross accusations his way.

Also, make sure that you are getting the full and honest story from your DD. I have a teen girls and some teen girls can be a bit dramatic.

We are already short teachers. If you want to throw shade on this teacher for what seems like no good reason, go right ahead. But it seems unnecessary in this particular situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a teacher and yes training is not to make any unnecessary physical contact. He has had kids distraught, and when the instinct to hug to comfort comes up - still a nope. He will ask if they want their friend to come out in the hall to give a hug and be with them to help settle them.

This is sad. I had the same thing doing child therapy with young children during social work school. Sometimes kids in a group home just need to know that someone cares for them. Your anxiety about a very unlikely scenario paints everyone as a threat. No wonder kids are anxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a teacher and yes training is not to make any unnecessary physical contact. He has had kids distraught, and when the instinct to hug to comfort comes up - still a nope. He will ask if they want their friend to come out in the hall to give a hug and be with them to help settle them.

This is sad. I had the same thing doing child therapy with young children during social work school. Sometimes kids in a group home just need to know that someone cares for them. Your anxiety about a very unlikely scenario paints everyone as a threat. No wonder kids are anxious.

Clearly you missed a class. Hugging is inappropriate in a school setting. For some hugging is a trigger for abuse they have experienced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a teacher and yes training is not to make any unnecessary physical contact. He has had kids distraught, and when the instinct to hug to comfort comes up - still a nope. He will ask if they want their friend to come out in the hall to give a hug and be with them to help settle them.

This is sad. I had the same thing doing child therapy with young children during social work school. Sometimes kids in a group home just need to know that someone cares for them. Your anxiety about a very unlikely scenario paints everyone as a threat. No wonder kids are anxious.

Clearly you missed a class. Hugging is inappropriate in a school setting. For some hugging is a trigger for abuse they have experienced.

The teacher did not even actually hug the girl in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Op, if he didn't actually hug her, what is the problem exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, if he didn't actually hug her, what is the problem exactly?

If John Vigna didn’t lap sit YOUR daughter he shouldn’t go to prison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]He apologized. It's over[/b]. Your daughter won't become a heretic from experiencing one moment of secular human kindness.
In this country 7th grade children aren't considered marriage material, so this isn't adultery.

I'm sure he won't try it again. I think he should have known not to touch her, but he certainly knows now.

[Anonymous]

My husband has taught for 20+ years. You do not touch students, at all. Not so much as a touch on the shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Actual MCPS policy below. Hugging is squarely between "appropriate" and "inappropriate". As one expects, MCPS avoids clarity wherever possible.

Do not engage in inappropriate physical interactions with students, such as—
• Hitting, tickling, or kissing;
• Fondling any part of a student’s body;
• Any type of massage given by or to a child; and
• Sending offensive or sexually explicit pictures, notes, cartoons, or jokes.

NOTE: Certain touches may be appropriate in particular circumstances, such as a pat on the back or shoulder,
handshakes, high fives, or holding the hand of younger children to guide or escort them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, if he didn't actually hug her, what is the problem exactly?

If John Vigna didn’t lap sit YOUR daughter he shouldn’t go to prison.

Are you insane?

John Vigna went to prison for what he DID, not what he DID NOT do.