Male Teacher tried to hug 7th grader in class!

[Anonymous]

I raises my daughter very religious, alert and respectful. So this Male Teacher tried to wrap my daughter around but my baby refused and moved away. He then apologised and said sorry to her because other students allow him to hug them etc. my daughter told him no! my question is dont these teachers get training on how to be professional and respectful? Well not everyone allows these kind behaviour?Or Is it normal for a male teacher to hug female students? Well this kind of behaviour is wrong to us and is not accepted to us and to our religion Islam but why can’t the school train their staff? To be respectful?
P.S; This is our first time in public school from private where teachers are very respectful there and we have never experienced this.
Your opinion, thoughts and comments will all be appreciated. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

He apologized. It's over. Your daughter won't become a heretic from experiencing one moment of secular human kindness.
In this country 7th grade children aren't considered marriage material, so this isn't adultery.

[Anonymous]

Your dc spoke up & set her boundaries, he stopped & apologized. Sad as it may be that this is required, but this is a good learning experience for her. It will hopefully help her be confident speaking up in those situations in the future.

[Anonymous]

This is a suspicious case because first the area not a public area and second he was going to wrap her around without consent and even insisted its okay but when my girl said no and moved away thats where he realise she is not gonna accept it. Guys be careful dont judge me without thinking. I am American too and I love my country and here in America is where I learn more about respect than anywhere. So please be careful with your kids and who they spend time with because not every kid can speak up or stand up. I pray for all kids out there.

[Anonymous]

I'm French, and people in France have this habit of lightly kissing the air around friends and acquaintances' cheeks in greeting. Usually you lightly touch the other person's cheek while doing a kissing sound, but you don't actually touch your lips to the cheek.

I still hated being hugged by people when I came to the US. It felt way too intrusive!
Now I kind of like it... but it's been 20 years.

OP, if you're not a troll, calm down. The teacher saw your child was uncomfortable, and he apologized. It's fine. It's if he tries again that it's suspicious.

[Anonymous]

If its real, talk to the principal.

[Anonymous]

What school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I raises my daughter very religious, alert and respectful. So this Male Teacher tried to wrap my daughter around but my baby refused and moved away. He then apologised and said sorry to her because other students allow him to hug them etc. my daughter told him no! my question is dont these teachers get training on how to be professional and respectful? Well not everyone allows these kind behaviour?Or Is it normal for a male teacher to hug female students? Well this kind of behaviour is wrong to us and is not accepted to us and to our religion Islam but why can’t the school train their staff? To be respectful?
P.S; This is our first time in public school from private where teachers are very respectful there and we have never experienced this.
Your opinion, thoughts and comments will all be appreciated. Thank you.

This teacher sounds like they do not have sufficient training about Islamic culture, as you suggest. Ask the principal to hold such a training.

[Anonymous]

These replies made me very sad because as a child of immigrant parents, this is how my parents write. You all complain on here everyday about the most trivial things and really just exposed your xenophobia because someone didn't have perfect grammar and mentioned Islam.

OP I'm sorry you're concerned, the teacher was not being appropriate and MCPS teachers DO indeed receive training on not hugging students. You can send an email explaining your faith to the teacher if you want to educate him, I'm sure he'd appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

You should report this to the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He apologized. It's over. Your daughter won't become a heretic from experiencing one moment of secular human kindness.
In this country 7th grade children aren't considered marriage material, so this isn't adultery.

X1000. Your daughter asserted her personal space. He apologized. Move on.

[Anonymous]

No wonder teachers are quitting in droves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No wonder teachers are quitting in droves.

I hear you, but at the same time I can’t imagine a middle school teacher at our school initiating a hug with a student, especially a male teacher with a female student.

That just seems really inappropriate, and most teachers would know to avoid that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No wonder teachers are quitting in droves.

I don’t know but it’s pretty basic that a male teacher shouldn’t be hugging a female 7th grader. If that makes teachers quit in droves, that says something about them.

[Anonymous]

Why must you assume something nefarious? She said no, he apologized, move on. If it happens again then be concerned. You won’t have any teachers left at this rate.