Will they come after my father?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but they should. What he did is awful -- didn't want to pay the disposal fee so he tasks a charity with it? POS person.

Did you just call someone's elderly dad a POS person because he didn't do exactly the right thing with his old electronics?

I think that makes you a POS person.

OP’s dad did a shitty thing. PP just called it out.

Dad knew exactly what he was supposed to do and what he was not supposed to do. He decided to screw someone else for his own benefit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

I’m sorry. This must be a stressful situation for you, and not an isolated one. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

I’m sorry. This must be a stressful situation for you, and not an isolated one. Hugs.

+1 Those of us dealing with elderly family members sympathize, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

I’m sorry. This must be a stressful situation for you, and not an isolated one. Hugs.

+1 Those of us dealing with elderly family members sympathize, OP.

Thanks. And people calling him a POS! I sure hope that PP’s parents are treated with better respect. They should be ashamed of themselves. My dad wasn’t a POS when his mine was sharp. His choice this weekend was crappy, but he is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

+1

Now he has put the charity in a jam. They will have to find the manpower to move these items (many Goodwill workers are retired) and pay for their disposal. Its a jerk and entitled move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

+1

Now he has put the charity in a jam. They will have to find the manpower to move these items (many Goodwill workers are retired) and pay for their disposal. Its a jerk and entitled move.

Oh please. You act as if this doesn’t happen all the time. Not everything donated to goodwill is sold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goodwill is mostly in the business of throwing things away. I’m sure they deal with dumping all the time and probably won’t do anything.

You could make a donation if you feel bad.

Goodwill exists as a way to keep the economy going. It's "Wishcycling", meaning people donate crap they hope someone else will use, but they just ship it overseas where it ends up in a landfill, local water streams, or the ocean. Americans say "I will donate this and buy something new" and it's a way the government tricks us into stimulating the economy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

It is probably best to go elsewhere for advice. Are you from the DC area? One nice thing about MoCo. No charge at the dump for county residents and you can get rid of just about everything whenever you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

Listen, I don’t think what he did was right. I was giving facts and asking as to the possibility he’d be in trouble, because it’s me who will have to come and assist him. I don’t appreciate everyone jumping down my throat as if this was my plan and/or I approve of it. People were asking questions, I was staring the facts as they are. I was simply trying to gauge how much this might affect my week.

You should all evaluate how you treat people when their parents with mental decline make unwise decisions, and know you may be the one bailing your own parents out one day.

It is probably best to go elsewhere for advice. Are you from the DC area? One nice thing about MoCo. No charge at the dump for county residents and you can get rid of just about everything whenever you want.

Yes, but my father isn’t!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I would guess he was actually told where to take them - like a county supported dump and he didn't. I'm sure it happens all the time and is more of a nuisance for them than anything.

You’re correct, it was the waste management company that told him where to take them, but my father didn’t want to pay a fee, so there you go!

So he wanted the charity to pay the fee for him... Does he understand cause and effect?

+1

Now he has put the charity in a jam. They will have to find the manpower to move these items (many Goodwill workers are retired) and pay for their disposal. Its a jerk and entitled move.

Oh please. You act as if this doesn’t happen all the time. Not everything donated to goodwill is sold.

No actually if he had dropped it off during the hours they are open, the staff would have told him those items are not allowed for the reasons I mentioned above. There’s a difference between accepting items and deciding to dispose of them because they are not in good condition, like clothing, ..with purposely leaving junk items for another organization to have to deal with because you’re too cheap to do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Goodwill is mostly in the business of throwing things away. I’m sure they deal with dumping all the time and probably won’t do anything.

You could make a donation if you feel bad.

Goodwill exists as a way to keep the economy going. It's "Wishcycling", meaning people donate crap they hope someone else will use, but they just ship it overseas where it ends up in a landfill, local water streams, or the ocean. Americans say "I will donate this and buy something new" and it's a way the government tricks us into stimulating the economy.

Goodwill actually exists to provide jobs for people who can’t otherwise get them. People who are coming out of incarceration, etc. The idea is, they get rehabilitative work experience that leads fo better employment. The donation/retail component is a means to an end.

Having said that, I 100% agree that it is wish-cycling. I would be surprised if 20% of the items donated actually get sold. Which better than nothing, until you figure a large number of donors are replacing what they donate.

[Anonymous]

FWIW - and this does cost money - those junk companies like 1-800-GOT-JUNK, Junk Kings, College Hunks Hauling Junk, etc. will take all this stuff and dispose of it properly. My in laws both died and we learned this cleaning out the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but they should. What he did is awful -- didn't want to pay the disposal fee so he tasks a charity with it? POS person.

Did you just call someone's elderly dad a POS person because he didn't do exactly the right thing with his old electronics?

I think that makes you a POS person.

OP’s dad did a shitty thing. PP just called it out.

Dad knew exactly what he was supposed to do and what he was not supposed to do. He decided to screw someone else for his own benefit.

- forgot to add:

And it is a crime!