Sleeping in separate bedrooms

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend snores a ton. The only solution I've found is to start out with him in the guest room (it's cooler on that level of the house) and have sex and then if he keeps me awake. I go upstairs to my room. I set an early alarm and go back downstairs for morning sex and cuddling. I tried ear plugs and they didn't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boss and his wife sleep in separate rooms. If it works it works. Sleep is too important to let silly rules get in the way imo.

This. A chronically sleep deprived spouse will not make a better marriage.

+1

[Anonymous]

My husband snores and I tend to stay up late. Periodically our kids have a “sleep over” where they camp out in the same room and I’ll go sleep in one of their beds and it’s glorious to have the quiet night. My closet friend and her husband renovated their house and when she showed me the renovations she pointed out her room and his room. I asked her about it and she said “meh, we have enough sex that if now and then I’m missing a chance in order to have better sleep that’s worth it to me. He feels the same way.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend snores a ton. The only solution I've found is to start out with him in the guest room (it's cooler on that level of the house) and have sex and then if he keeps me awake. I go upstairs to my room. I set an early alarm and go back downstairs for morning sex and cuddling. I tried ear plugs and they didn't work.

Snoring is indicative of likelihood of a stroke.

[Anonymous]

My parents slept in separate bedrooms for nearly 20 years with no ill effects to their marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People always say this has nothing to do with their marital happiness, it makes the marriage better etc etc but I never believe it. Cuddling and ... spontaneity are a huge part of intimacy for me.

Try some of that cuddling and spontaneity before bedtime.

[Anonymous]

Been sleeping separately for 23 years. We had sex last night, then I went to my room and slept

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People always say this has nothing to do with their marital happiness, it makes the marriage better etc etc but I never believe it. Cuddling and ... spontaneity are a huge part of intimacy for me.

Me too, but sleep is just too important. I don’t love that my husband and I often sleep apart but things are so much worse if one of us is not well rested…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People always say this has nothing to do with their marital happiness, it makes the marriage better etc etc but I never believe it. Cuddling and ... spontaneity are a huge part of intimacy for me.

Try some of that cuddling and spontaneity before bedtime.

+1

We never have sex in the middle of the night. I love my sleep.

[Anonymous]

My ex used the opportunity to FaceTime with AP.

If your marriage/sex life is strong, it will be fine. If it’s not, it won’t be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend snores a ton. The only solution I've found is to start out with him in the guest room (it's cooler on that level of the house) and have sex and then if he keeps me awake. I go upstairs to my room. I set an early alarm and go back downstairs for morning sex and cuddling. I tried ear plugs and they didn't work.

Snoring is indicative of likelihood of a stroke.

Or...tight nasal passages.

[Anonymous]

We sleep together about half of the time, but if I'm snoring DH will sleep in our other bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Both of us are known to snore so we sleep in separate bedrooms. We usually start in the same bed 😍🤗 but one of us then moves.

[Anonymous]

Sex and sleep are two different things. I definitely recommend being in the same bed with each other for sex.

You're unconscious during sleep, so it doesn't really matter where your bodies happen to be.

[Anonymous]

I've been told I snore. Sometimes in the middle of the night my wife would nudge me and say "you're snoring" to which I'd reply "no I'm not...I'm awake."

I started sleeping on the couch a few years ago when our dog was no longer comfortable going up and down the stairs. We both found we were sleeping better apart. The dog is no longer with us but we still sleep in different rooms. Our sex life is still fine.