Friend seems always ready to catch others in a lie. How to proceed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds highly anxious, OP. She can't handle a little vagueness, because to her that is a source of stress - she doesn't want to be the one "at fault" (waiting in the wrong area, late, etc).

This was honestly helpful. I can be seen at too literal but vagueness in some scenarios does make me very anxious. 💡

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For example, we met at a restaurant the other day. I texted her to say “I’m here” since I told her I would be a few mins late. I went inside and she wasn’t there. A few mins passed and she walked in. She said “you didn’t tell me you were inside, you just said you were here.”

Another example is that I told her I had something to do at “around 3”. Later when I mentioned that I had a meeting at 3:15, she said “you told me it was at 3”.

She doesn’t say anything like “you’re lying” but she just looks skeptical and usually says “okay whatever”.

I’m not really sure what to do or if it’s just that she struggles with imprecise language?

Every time she does it, you ask "what is your point?" in as bland a way as possible.

That would be fine with my. I'd respond with what my point actually is. "I was waiting outside because I thought you were outside as well. Let's both be more accurate in where we are next time"

You would not be very smart. Here means at the restaurant. Could be inside or out, if you didn't see the friend outside and weren't a moron, you'd go inside to check.

[Anonymous]

Be precise with your words.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like everyone from law school. Pushy, elbowy, obnoxious, button-pushing, and passive-aggressive. Insufferable dorks who thought they were so clever.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this. She does it when she’s anxious. Honestly I find it really annoying and quite rude. I like her otherwise, though, so I ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds highly anxious, OP. She can't handle a little vagueness, because to her that is a source of stress - she doesn't want to be the one "at fault" (waiting in the wrong area, late, etc).

This was honestly helpful. I can be seen at too literal but vagueness in some scenarios does make me very anxious. 💡

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal, but your fixation on it serms weird

[Anonymous]

Could be self conscious about lying or keeping secrets herself so she's going overboard to portray just how honest and precise she is.

Like alcoholics who worry about how much others are drinking, cheaters who accuse the innocent party of cheating, etc.

[Anonymous]

She sounds insufferably immature. Who had the energy to put up with that?