If you are not going to have food for the parents…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

I don’t want to eat pizza at 11:30 either.

I agree with you there needs to be enough food for all the kids, though I sympathize with your host if unexpected siblings or late RSVPs got in the way.

It’s nice when there’s parent food (especially coffee at morning parties), but I’m really not going to a toddler party to eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

I don’t want to eat pizza at 11:30 either.

I agree with you there needs to be enough food for all the kids, though I sympathize with your host if unexpected siblings or late RSVPs got in the way.

It’s nice when there’s parent food (especially coffee at morning parties), but I’m really not going to a toddler party to eat.

If the party starts at 1130, the food gets served at like 1230/1pm. That’s actually lunch time. And regardless if you personally would want to eat or not is not the point. Being a good host means having food for the guests. There will always be parents that don’t touch anything that’s offered-and there are parents who always will.

[Anonymous]

I never want to eat the food that is served at kids parties, and when I throw them I always plan enough for the adults and it NEVER gets eaten. But throwing a party and not having enough food is one of my nightmares so I always make sure there is neough just in case.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

I don’t want to eat pizza at 11:30 either.

I agree with you there needs to be enough food for all the kids, though I sympathize with your host if unexpected siblings or late RSVPs got in the way.

It’s nice when there’s parent food (especially coffee at morning parties), but I’m really not going to a toddler party to eat.

If the party starts at 1130, the food gets served at like 1230/1pm. That’s actually lunch time. And regardless if you personally would want to eat or not is not the point. Being a good host means having food for the guests. There will always be parents that don’t touch anything that’s offered-and there are parents who always will.

Ok, and you can continue to be super upset about those bad mean people who didn’t give you your pizza. But understand that not everyone is experiencing this as the catastrophe that you are.

I throw parties in big venues so people can bring siblings and I have a food and drink setup for parents, but that doesn’t mean I care enough about what other parents do about toddler food to get worked up on DCUM about it. Maybe in the future if this is so upsetting to you, bring a heavy snack for yourself/your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh who cares! So what if a kid can't have a second piece of pizza. Kids barely go two hours without eating these days. They'll live.

So the people whose kids didn't get to eat, can just take their birthday presents home with them. With 25 kids, 12-15 gifts should be plenty for them, right? They'll live.

What a stupid idea. The point is that if you are going to bother to host a party, stop being cheap and order food for everyone. If this is outside your budget, don't host a venue party. Either host a party at home, at a park or don't host a party. But having a party where you cheap out and are a bad host is worse than not having a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

I don’t want to eat pizza at 11:30 either.

I agree with you there needs to be enough food for all the kids, though I sympathize with your host if unexpected siblings or late RSVPs got in the way.

It’s nice when there’s parent food (especially coffee at morning parties), but I’m really not going to a toddler party to eat.

If the party starts at 1130, the food gets served at like 1230/1pm. That’s actually lunch time. And regardless if you personally would want to eat or not is not the point. Being a good host means having food for the guests. There will always be parents that don’t touch anything that’s offered-and there are parents who always will.

Ok, and you can continue to be super upset about those bad mean people who didn’t give you your pizza. But understand that not everyone is experiencing this as the catastrophe that you are.

I throw parties in big venues so people can bring siblings and I have a food and drink setup for parents, but that doesn’t mean I care enough about what other parents do about toddler food to get worked up on DCUM about it. Maybe in the future if this is so upsetting to you, bring a heavy snack for yourself/your child?

Dude. They didn’t have enough for the kids. Did you not read?

[Anonymous]

Ok, unless the parent hosts were walking around acting like it's no big deal that they ran out of food (in which case, I would agree that it's totally rude and they're bad hosts), they were probably just as mortified that it happened as you said you would be if it happened to you. Cut them some slack - like other posters said, they probably just didn't know that venues don't provide enough food for everyone when you get a basic party package, or they did the math wrong, or something. You're just rubbing salt in the wound by complaining on here and YOU are the rude one if you deliberately want to inflict pain on someone for what was probably an honest mistake.

[Anonymous]

I never expect to eat at a kid party at a party venue (think Scramble, trampoline parks, Pump it Up, etc.) It’s nice if they have enough cake/cupcakes/whatever for the adults to have a small slice. But I would feel very weird about helping myself to a slice of pizza at the trampoline park, and I’ve never seen other adults do it either. I do feel like home parties are a different story and you should make sure that you have enough for everyone if you’re hosting kids and adults at your home. Not sure what exactly the difference is in my mind … I guess I figure the venue parties are for the kids while home parties are for everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh who cares! So what if a kid can't have a second piece of pizza. Kids barely go two hours without eating these days. They'll live.

So the people whose kids didn't get to eat, can just take their birthday presents home with them. With 25 kids, 12-15 gifts should be plenty for them, right? They'll live.

What a stupid idea. The point is that if you are going to bother to host a party, stop being cheap and order food for everyone. If this is outside your budget, don't host a venue party. Either host a party at home, at a park or don't host a party. But having a party where you cheap out and are a bad host is worse than not having a party.

If you want, sure, have your kid take their present home? Most people aren’t hosting children’s parties for the $20 gifts.

You are really worked up over a second slice of pizza. I suggest you bring a heavy snack with you if this is such a pernicious issue in your life. You can also text the hostess and ask whether the parents are eating too. Take some control of your own outcomes OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to eat pizza at 3pm and I don’t know any other parents who do either.

I love it when hosts have beautiful cupcakes for the parents and coffee, or an “adult cooler” at pool parties but please don’t spend extra money to serve me a slice of tepid pizza at a trampoline park at 3pm.

Op here. This was an 1130 party. Just fyi for all the posters who keep mentioning a 3pm party. I agree you don’t need to serve a meal an a non meal time but you need to have stuff and it needs to be for the adults too. But regardless, the main issue with this particular party was that there was not enough food for the kids.

I don’t want to eat pizza at 11:30 either.

I agree with you there needs to be enough food for all the kids, though I sympathize with your host if unexpected siblings or late RSVPs got in the way.

It’s nice when there’s parent food (especially coffee at morning parties), but I’m really not going to a toddler party to eat.

If the party starts at 1130, the food gets served at like 1230/1pm. That’s actually lunch time. And regardless if you personally would want to eat or not is not the point. Being a good host means having food for the guests. There will always be parents that don’t touch anything that’s offered-and there are parents who always will.

Ok, and you can continue to be super upset about those bad mean people who didn’t give you your pizza. But understand that not everyone is experiencing this as the catastrophe that you are.

I throw parties in big venues so people can bring siblings and I have a food and drink setup for parents, but that doesn’t mean I care enough about what other parents do about toddler food to get worked up on DCUM about it. Maybe in the future if this is so upsetting to you, bring a heavy snack for yourself/your child?

Dude. They didn’t have enough for the kids. Did you not read?

I did read. They didn’t have enough for seconds. I imagine the children still got firsts and then cake? No one starved at this party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People around here are mystifyingly cheap and bad hosts. I never experienced anything like it until I moved here. Where I come from and the circles I was in, running out of food for your guests no matter their age would be considered mortifying. Even coming close to running out so that your guests have noticed and are taking less food to be polite is considered bad hosting! Not serving food to all guests at whatever time of day just isn’t an option.

No one has ever been able to explain to me why this area in particular is like this.

Everyone feels house poor? When I logged in NOVA, my fixer upper townhome cost 2x what my parents’ much nicer single-family home costs. People stretch to buy any house. Some stretch more so they don’t feel like they’re taking a step down. At the same time, they have wealthy friends who spend more. People feel financially strapped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh who cares! So what if a kid can't have a second piece of pizza. Kids barely go two hours without eating these days. They'll live.

So the people whose kids didn't get to eat, can just take their birthday presents home with them. With 25 kids, 12-15 gifts should be plenty for them, right? They'll live.

What a stupid idea. The point is that if you are going to bother to host a party, stop being cheap and order food for everyone. If this is outside your budget, don't host a venue party. Either host a party at home, at a park or don't host a party. But having a party where you cheap out and are a bad host is worse than not having a party.

If you want, sure, have your kid take their present home? Most people aren’t hosting children’s parties for the $20 gifts.

You are really worked up over a second slice of pizza. I suggest you bring a heavy snack with you if this is such a pernicious issue in your life. You can also text the hostess and ask whether the parents are eating too. Take some control of your own outcomes OP.

I’m the OP-and not the person who you are replying to here. I know it seems wild to you-but you are in the minority here. Also, you made almost the exact same comment further up. You really invested yourself in this for someone who doesn’t care what other people do. And also, it sounds like you have some personal food issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People around here are mystifyingly cheap and bad hosts. I never experienced anything like it until I moved here. Where I come from and the circles I was in, running out of food for your guests no matter their age would be considered mortifying. Even coming close to running out so that your guests have noticed and are taking less food to be polite is considered bad hosting! Not serving food to all guests at whatever time of day just isn’t an option.

No one has ever been able to explain to me why this area in particular is like this.

Everyone feels house poor? When I logged in NOVA, my fixer upper townhome cost 2x what my parents’ much nicer single-family home costs. People stretch to buy any house. Some stretch more so they don’t feel like they’re taking a step down. At the same time, they have wealthy friends who spend more. People feel financially strapped.

Then don't throw a party if you can't afford it.

I'm solidly middle class (less than 150k HHI), and still host properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People around here are mystifyingly cheap and bad hosts. I never experienced anything like it until I moved here. Where I come from and the circles I was in, running out of food for your guests no matter their age would be considered mortifying. Even coming close to running out so that your guests have noticed and are taking less food to be polite is considered bad hosting! Not serving food to all guests at whatever time of day just isn’t an option.

No one has ever been able to explain to me why this area in particular is like this.

Everyone feels house poor? When I logged in NOVA, my fixer upper townhome cost 2x what my parents’ much nicer single-family home costs. People stretch to buy any house. Some stretch more so they don’t feel like they’re taking a step down. At the same time, they have wealthy friends who spend more. People feel financially strapped.

Then don't throw a party if you can't afford it.

I'm solidly middle class (less than 150k HHI), and still host properly.

Is this why you’re really upset? Because you needed to give your kid and yourself lunch after a party and that represented a hardship. I’m sorry OP.