15 y/o DS job fell through

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:movie theater (although this was pre-covid so there might be less demand now)

moving companies always need guys to unload and load trucks

Seriously, people? Moving companies do not want your 15 year old kid to work 20 days for them over the summer.

I'm not talking about the movers who drive the trucks long distances. I'm talking about the guys who hang out at the local moving company's depot waiting to go out on a local call to load/unload a moving van that is headed elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He needs to come up with the ideas, as he's 1. 15 years old rather than 5 years old, and 2. the one who screwed up the job he had.

I'd take away his phone and send him to his room and tell him he's not allowed out until he's come up with three viable ideas.

And I'd ignore this person, who is trying to be a harda$$. It's perfectly reasonable to help your 15 year old find an alternative. But GL with that, as my athlete DD is in the same boat, and it's slim pickings for a flexible job schedule. Maybe he could volunteer instead? I know you want paid but you need to be realistic about that.

I’m not trying to be a hardass. But I’ve told my kids plenty of times that they need to do the majority of work for themselves and nobody wants to help someone who doesn’t help themselves.

15 year olds are still kids. All you're teaching them is you are not a resource to help them when they need it. Which is fine. You're choice. But, that was my parents' view with me and, frankly, I know I cannot depend on them for anything. I'm taking a different approach with mine. And recognizing that people make mistakes and sometimes need a little help navigating those. Especially as a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS flaked on a potential job offer and now has nothing for the summer. It was very flexible which he needs for his sporadic sports schedule and our vacation plans over the summer. DH & I really want him to get some form of a part-time job because he becomes very dysregulated when he has limited structure. What can a newly turned 15 y/o do if they can't work or don't have a ton going on. I'm struggling to come up with some ideas.

My 15 yo ds is reffing summer rec basketball games. Is he into sports?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:movie theater (although this was pre-covid so there might be less demand now)

moving companies always need guys to unload and load trucks

Seriously, people? Moving companies do not want your 15 year old kid to work 20 days for them over the summer.

I'm not talking about the movers who drive the trucks long distances. I'm talking about the guys who hang out at the local moving company's depot waiting to go out on a local call to load/unload a moving van that is headed elsewhere.

Yes, I was talking about those local moving companies as well. They do not want a 15-year-old kid working part-time for them over the summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Caddy
Summer camp counselor
Fast food

Caddies tend to be either junior/family members of the course who have played the course many times, play competitive golf, and/or have experience working at a course in the clubhouse or as part of the grounds crew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He needs to come up with the ideas, as he's 1. 15 years old rather than 5 years old, and 2. the one who screwed up the job he had.

I'd take away his phone and send him to his room and tell him he's not allowed out until he's come up with three viable ideas.

And I'd ignore this person, who is trying to be a harda$$. It's perfectly reasonable to help your 15 year old find an alternative. But GL with that, as my athlete DD is in the same boat, and it's slim pickings for a flexible job schedule. Maybe he could volunteer instead? I know you want paid but you need to be realistic about that.

I’m not trying to be a hardass. But I’ve told my kids plenty of times that they need to do the majority of work for themselves and nobody wants to help someone who doesn’t help themselves.

15 year olds are still kids. All you're teaching them is you are not a resource to help them when they need it. Which is fine. You're choice. But, that was my parents' view with me and, frankly, I know I cannot depend on them for anything. I'm taking a different approach with mine. And recognizing that people make mistakes and sometimes need a little help navigating those. Especially as a kid.

They can absolutely depend on me to help them when they are helping themselves. Don't you get that? I'm not saying they have to go get their own apartment. I'm saying that if they identify a place where they want to work I'll assist with directing them to pick a resume template they like and help them with phrasing, and drive them to/from the interview, etc. But they need to have internal drive and do the bulk of the work by 15.

[Anonymous]

Life guard at a local pool or beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He needs to come up with the ideas, as he's 1. 15 years old rather than 5 years old, and 2. the one who screwed up the job he had.

I'd take away his phone and send him to his room and tell him he's not allowed out until he's come up with three viable ideas.

And I'd ignore this person, who is trying to be a harda$$. It's perfectly reasonable to help your 15 year old find an alternative. But GL with that, as my athlete DD is in the same boat, and it's slim pickings for a flexible job schedule. Maybe he could volunteer instead? I know you want paid but you need to be realistic about that.

I’m not trying to be a hardass. But I’ve told my kids plenty of times that they need to do the majority of work for themselves and nobody wants to help someone who doesn’t help themselves.

15 year olds are still kids. All you're teaching them is you are not a resource to help them when they need it. Which is fine. You're choice. But, that was my parents' view with me and, frankly, I know I cannot depend on them for anything. I'm taking a different approach with mine. And recognizing that people make mistakes and sometimes need a little help navigating those. Especially as a kid.

They can absolutely depend on me to help them when they are helping themselves. Don't you get that? I'm not saying they have to go get their own apartment. I'm saying that if they identify a place where they want to work I'll assist with directing them to pick a resume template they like and help them with phrasing, and drive them to/from the interview, etc. But they need to have internal drive and do the bulk of the work by 15.

A 15 year old needs more guidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life guard at a local pool or beach.

You need a certification for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Caddy
Summer camp counselor
Fast food

Caddies tend to be either junior/family members of the course who have played the course many times, play competitive golf, and/or have experience working at a course in the clubhouse or as part of the grounds crew.

Lol, no they are not. If you belong to a country club you are NOT going to be a caddy. Could you imagine, lol, members children being a caddy... wtf are you serious. The golf courses are so desperate for staff and caddies right now you have not idea what you are talking about.

Also, you know there are public courses that need help in other facets of running the place. So look there too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He needs to come up with the ideas, as he's 1. 15 years old rather than 5 years old, and 2. the one who screwed up the job he had.

I'd take away his phone and send him to his room and tell him he's not allowed out until he's come up with three viable ideas.

And I'd ignore this person, who is trying to be a harda$$. It's perfectly reasonable to help your 15 year old find an alternative. But GL with that, as my athlete DD is in the same boat, and it's slim pickings for a flexible job schedule. Maybe he could volunteer instead? I know you want paid but you need to be realistic about that.

I’m not trying to be a hardass. But I’ve told my kids plenty of times that they need to do the majority of work for themselves and nobody wants to help someone who doesn’t help themselves.

15 year olds are still kids. All you're teaching them is you are not a resource to help them when they need it. Which is fine. You're choice. But, that was my parents' view with me and, frankly, I know I cannot depend on them for anything. I'm taking a different approach with mine. And recognizing that people make mistakes and sometimes need a little help navigating those. Especially as a kid.

They can absolutely depend on me to help them when they are helping themselves. Don't you get that? I'm not saying they have to go get their own apartment. I'm saying that if they identify a place where they want to work I'll assist with directing them to pick a resume template they like and help them with phrasing, and drive them to/from the interview, etc. But they need to have internal drive and do the bulk of the work by 15.

A 15 year old needs more guidance.

Maybe if you've babied them their whole lives, they do. I haven't done that - I've encouraged them to be independent, to problem-solve, to research answers to questions they have.

[Anonymous]

Harsh crowd today.

Is he good a math or a language?
How about tutoring.

[Anonymous]

yes, tutoring younger kids in math. babysitting. odd jobs for seniors in your neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

As someone who hires teens, he's going to have a hard time if his schedule isn't very flexible.

Why do I want to put in the time and effort to train someone who can only work 1-2 days a week and who will be gone long stretches of time for sports camps or family vacations?

If you want your kid to work, they need to work. If you want your kid to do all their sports camps and practices and participate in the family vacation, they need to be a kid. Save working for once they've graduated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life guard at a local pool or beach.

you have to go through the classes & certifications for this and most have ended by now.

also, i'm not sure about where you are, but all of the HOA and community pools in my area are staffed by foreigners brought in to work for the summer. it's an exchange program and they can apparently earn credits for doing it. the lifeguard at our pool this year is from bulgaria, and will get credits at his university for his summer employment exchange even though he is an engineering student.