A date was scheduled but no details and havent heard back by 3:30pm
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Anonymous
Yeah. It is. When you literally aren't even aware that people are posting from other timelines and truly think every single person in the forum is posting from Washington DC.... you're pretty stupid. |
Anonymous
Do you have a time and place for the date? |
Anonymous
Get ready to hear oh turns out X and possibly to be made to feel like there’s something wrong with You for not wanting the respect, either way, of hearing back way before now. Barring something truly The ordinary, it’s up to you but this is how it will be. |
Anonymous
| OP did he text? |
Anonymous
Sometimes it's just easier to admit you were wrong and have been had |
Anonymous
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People acting like OP is being ridiculous have obviously not dated lately.
If a man says on Mon ‘let’s go out to dinner Wed’ and it’s Wed afternoon and he hasn’t said where and when, the date is not happening. Most men text the morning of to make sure it’s still on and say they’re looking forward to it. |
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You ask "should I go" but how can you if you don't know where you're going? I'm wondering if neither wanted a date, you both just wanted to talk about a date.
This is why I advise that people not accept weekday dates, it leads to weirdness on all sides. Yes, this could happen on a weekend too, but it's more likely to happen during the week because anybody can get out of the house during the week, married people, other bad actors in a way that is just harder on the weekends. Example, my husband has a male friend he likes to go out with and when he proposed a Friday night, I shut it down telling him that was couple or family time. Male or female, my husband wasn't going out without me on a perfectly good Friday night when I was willing and able to go out with him or stay in with him, it didn't matter which really so long as we were together. We don't socialize solo with the oppisite sex, but if we did, and he wanted to see a woman for dinner or whatever, I'd be fine with it during the week. For those telling op to be nice/understanding, there are a lot of people who text up a storm only to not do what they said they'd do. I'm married, but I've also seen this with people I've hired, a handyman who came highly recommended who just needed some clients because he was young (which he was) and a junk removal guy who swore he'd be there only to just not show up and then who lashed out at my sweet husband over text when my husband asked if things were ok. That whole day I'd been telling my husband the junk guy wasn't going to be there and that he was just fine only to have him tell me I was being mean.. until the guy lashed out and never did show. Be careful of people who are overly friendly with text, it doesn't take much to set up a date within a week or so of initial contact, or do anything else you said you'd do. It also doesn't take much to say "no" No, I'm not interested in the date, no I'm not interested in the job, no is a complete sentence. For the men, be careful of women who "want to get to know you first", again, they can refuse a date, but don't let them waste your time. If they were truly worried about ax murders or being lured to a dungeon, they'd not even be talking to you in the first place. Point being, there are very skilled people who like to screw with people which is why many of us don't give people the bennifit of the doubt anymore. Doing so leaves you feeling like a chump coupled with a friend or two saying "but maybe something happened" when odds are, it didn't. Put another way, don't hang out with unlucky people. Also be careful of adults who have lots of time to text. If they have time to text, they've got time to actually be with you.. it's not like anything or anyone is stopping them.. unless they want it to. Stop thinking and acting like high schoolers who's mom won't let you all out. Finally, I hope you went out and did something fun, op. You mentioned staying in with wine, what a waste of a perfectly good weeknight. Furthermore, this guy isn't worth that level of being angry/sad. Treat yourself better. |
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In the era of online dating flakes, you need to stay in touch. The man must warmly reassure her that he is not ghosting, without seeming like a desperate stalker. My protocol was to send a short text that morning, like: "Looking forward to drinks at 7:00, might be 5 minutes late because of parking." Of course, the real reason is to make sure she doesn't flake.
Of course, a woman could send this same text. But if there are no concrete details and the man doesn't communicate by noon, then it is not a date. |