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[quote=Anonymous]You ask "should I go" but how can you if you don't know where you're going?  I'm wondering if neither wanted a date, you both just wanted to talk about a date.

This is why I advise that people not accept weekday dates, it leads to weirdness on all sides.  Yes, this could happen on a weekend too, but it's more likely to happen during the week because anybody can get out of the house during the week, married people, other bad actors in a way that is just harder on the weekends.  Example, my husband has a male friend he likes to go out with and when he proposed a Friday night, I shut it down telling him that was couple or family time. Male or female, my husband wasn't going out without me on a perfectly good Friday night when I was willing and able to go out with him or stay in with him, it didn't matter which really so long as we were together. We don't socialize solo with the oppisite sex, but if we did, and he wanted to see a woman for dinner or whatever, I'd be fine with it during the week.

For those telling op to be nice/understanding, there are a lot of people who text up a storm only to not do what they said they'd do. I'm married, but I've also seen this with people I've hired, a handyman who came highly recommended who just needed some clients because he was young (which he was) and a junk removal guy who swore he'd be there only to just not show up and then who lashed out at my sweet husband over text when my husband asked if things were ok. That whole day I'd been telling my husband the junk guy wasn't going to be there and that he was just fine only to have him tell me I was being mean.. until the guy lashed out and never did show.  Be careful of people who are overly friendly with text, it doesn't take much to set up a date within a week or so of initial contact, or do anything else you said you'd do. It also doesn't take much to say "no" No, I'm not interested in the date, no I'm not interested in the job, no is a complete sentence.

For the men, be careful of women who "want to get to know you first", again, they can refuse a date, but don't let them waste your time. If they were truly worried about ax murders or being lured to a dungeon, they'd not even be talking to you in the first place.

Point being, there are very skilled people who like to screw with people which is why many of us don't give people the bennifit of the doubt anymore. Doing so leaves you feeling like a chump coupled with a friend or two saying "but maybe something happened" when odds are, it didn't. Put another way, don't hang out with unlucky people.

Also be careful of adults who have lots of time to text. If they have time to text, they've got time to actually be with you.. it's not like anything or anyone is stopping them.. unless they want it to. Stop thinking and acting like high schoolers who's mom won't let you all out.

Finally, I hope you went out and did something fun, op. You mentioned staying in with wine, what a waste of a perfectly good weeknight. Furthermore, this guy isn't worth that level of being angry/sad. Treat yourself better.   [/quote]

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