Is there anything I can career shift to age 43?

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Had you invested some of your income 10-15 years ago, both of you could be chilling at home.

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Anonymous wrote:There is No Way you can make enough for her to step back. Whatever job she has, it is high powered enough so that it is unlikely she can drop down to PT or even 75%. Do more of the housework and child duties OP. Like do 99% of it. That is your real opportunity to contribute and relieve her stress.

Agree wholeheartedly. Op needs to be the primary parent/household manager.

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Marketing job for 300k is not going to happen without connections. Marketing is notoriously ageist and middle aged op is not going to break in at his age and get on the fast track.

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This guy comes here and whines all the time. His wont step up at home. He isn’t going to get a better job.

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I would like to know what his wife does though I love new Yorkers because unlike dcumers they don't marry the other for their matching income. Most are down to earth enough to marry for love

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Anonymous wrote:I would like to know what his wife does though I love new Yorkers because unlike dcumers they don't marry the other for their matching income. Most are down to earth enough to marry for love

Yeah every hedge fund guy I know has a wife who married him just for his sparkling personality…

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Anonymous wrote:This guy comes here and whines all the time. His wont step up at home. He isn’t going to get a better job.

Op - have never posted before. Wonder who this other dude is tho - I feel like we have stuff in common!

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Anonymous wrote:Had you invested some of your income 10-15 years ago, both of you could be chilling at home.

Op - it surely goes without saying that neither of us made these same incomes 10-15 years ago

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Anonymous wrote:Move to NJ or Westchester and commute. Your kids can commute to their private just like half their classmates do.

Nj and westchester you will pay $50k+ in taxes so this is why people stay in nyc and keep kids in private. It’s $60k or so more for 2 kids than burbs but if you have high powered job w long hours you can’t keep up the pace with ny area commute from burbs

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Anonymous wrote:Move to NJ or Westchester and commute. Your kids can commute to their private just like half their classmates do.

Nj and westchester you will pay $50k+ in taxes so this is why people stay in nyc and keep kids in private. It’s $60k or so more for 2 kids than burbs but if you have high powered job w long hours you can’t keep up the pace with ny area commute from burbs

Or if you’re looking to downshift, just move away from the area all together. There are plenty of cities in the us (and abroad) where it is cheaper to live but still has a lot of amenities.

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Does your wife want this? Does she ask you to double your salary so she can step back?

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Anonymous wrote:That’s pretty decent. Maybe look at adjusting your lifestyle to fit your salary? How much does your wife make?

Op - we are in nyc so col insane.
Wife makes about $650 - 750 (depending on bonus). But again in nyc that is prob equivalent of $250 in dc.
I would like to make it more even so she can step back

If you can’t live on 800-900 k combined you have a spending problem.

You also are never going to make enough to alllw her to step back if you’re used to spending that much.

OP pivoting to a career making $300k in your 40s is not happening unless you have a buddy at a hedge fund willing to throw you a line for a mid level position.

He could go into sales and could easily make that and more.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s pretty decent. Maybe look at adjusting your lifestyle to fit your salary? How much does your wife make?

Op - we are in nyc so col insane.
Wife makes about $650 - 750 (depending on bonus). But again in nyc that is prob equivalent of $250 in dc.
I would like to make it more even so she can step back

If you can’t live on 800-900 k combined you have a spending problem.

You also are never going to make enough to alllw her to step back if you’re used to spending that much.

OP pivoting to a career making $300k in your 40s is not happening unless you have a buddy at a hedge fund willing to throw you a line for a mid level position.

He could go into sales and could easily make that and more.

Sales is a washout career. I mean, he could become an actor too and make $Ms

He’s going to start as an inside sales monkey at a tech company cold calling leads for $80k, and then work his way up to account executive managing down FAANG account? Don’t a huge amount of sales folks wash out?

If I misunderstood the process and washout rate, I would love to know how to just pop into sales. I’m a 40 year old civil engineer and would love to make more money to pay for my kids colleges. Please show me this path to wealth in sales??? I have applied to dozens of sales engineer jobs as a possible stepping stone, but nada. I’m sure I need to actually network my way in and sell myself for the role, but figured I would just look so ridiculous beyond measure chasing a young man’s game.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s pretty decent. Maybe look at adjusting your lifestyle to fit your salary? How much does your wife make?

Op - we are in nyc so col insane.
Wife makes about $650 - 750 (depending on bonus). But again in nyc that is prob equivalent of $250 in dc.
I would like to make it more even so she can step back

If you can’t live on 800-900 k combined you have a spending problem.

You also are never going to make enough to alllw her to step back if you’re used to spending that much.

OP pivoting to a career making $300k in your 40s is not happening unless you have a buddy at a hedge fund willing to throw you a line for a mid level position.

He could go into sales and could easily make that and more.

Sales is a washout career. I mean, he could become an actor too and make $Ms

He’s going to start as an inside sales monkey at a tech company cold calling leads for $80k, and then work his way up to account executive managing down FAANG account? Don’t a huge amount of sales folks wash out?

If I misunderstood the process and washout rate, I would love to know how to just pop into sales. I’m a 40 year old civil engineer and would love to make more money to pay for my kids colleges. Please show me this path to wealth in sales??? I have applied to dozens of sales engineer jobs as a possible stepping stone, but nada. I’m sure I need to actually network my way in and sell myself for the role, but figured I would just look so ridiculous beyond measure chasing a young man’s game.

Washout rate is huge plus a lot of those that don’t wash out just limp by tbh.

I work in a role in tech where I see what every salesperson sells and their commission. And My DH has worked in sales since he was 22.

[Anonymous]

If you're not happy, OP, you need to make a quantum change.

Move to Montana and start farming mushrooms.

Life's too short to be chasing whatever the hell you're chasing.