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If you have 3 kids are you a "show off"?
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Anonymous
| It's definitely in fashion to have a few more kids now - some also attribute it to 9-11 and a focus on the family, but good ole American greed and flash will do as well. I also kind of look at it the way food is treated in impoverished villages in Africa: It's good to be fat and show off that fat because it shows that your family can afford enough food to bulk you up. |
Anonymous
| give me a break- can some just want more kids then others- must we tear apart everything- who cares. Mind your own business and have as many as you want. |
Anonymous
It's this selfishness that has done the most harmto this planet. Have as many as you want? What - so society has to pay for the kids' healthcare, food, education, more people on roads, more people polluting, etc...The world is overcrowded - please stop at replacement kids (1 or 2) and move on with enjoying the kids you have! Let's think about the world that these kids will inhabit - no water, no fod, no natural resources such as oil and other energy issues. |
Anonymous
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If we had more money, we'd have more kids. Now, with one baby, we can hardly imagine the financial strain of a second, much less a third. I hardly see my baby on weekdays, and it makes me so sad. Any spare minute I have, I want to spend it with her, and I resent anything (such as another child) which might divide my attention during that precious hour between work and bedtime.
If I didn't have to work? Yep, I'd have another one, maybe two children. If I could afford to fly the family first class, take the nanny on vacation, buy a bigger house with a yard... But that's all fantasy. Unless something major changes for us, we're done with one. |
Anonymous
| I think it is so disgusting and disappointing that having more children has become a status symbol. These are human beings, not BMWs or expensive purses for god's sake! Anyone who chooses to have more children just to show off their wealth is absolutely pathetic, not to mention insecure and shallow! |
Anonymous
WOOW - this is what I call extremism. Do you think me having two instead of three kids is going to save the planet? Who are you to dictate what is good for my family? Arent you by chance also one of those anti-vaccines folks who will say wtih the same breath - screw society, I can opt my kids out of vaccines because I,I,I have teh right to chose what is good for my family? |
Anonymous
I agree. The Earth First poster seems insane. |
Anonymous
I think this issue is being mis-framed and sensationalized. I don't think having 3 or more children is actually a "status symbol." I just think its becoming common for the super-rich to have more children again. If you are a stay at home mom and your husband makes millions, and you like children, and can afford help and a great life-style, why not? (The Earth Poster's issues aside  ). I would love a third baby and a fourth. I love babies and children and mine are getting older BUT two is really the right number for our family from a logistics and financial perspective. I envy those who do not have to consider any such issues, but I dont begrudge them their sweet tow-headed children.
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Anonymous
| We have 4 and we are definitely not rich. We can carry our own and I do not think we will be a drain on the world either! We have a 3 bedroom house for the 6 of us. My feeling is that by having the number we have, it is absolutely our job to make sure that they are the kind of people who will make the world a better place. Thats my reasoning and my hope anyway! We have no help and I am home with them. My husband works for himself and so he works like a dog, but has flexibility too. Our kids go to public school and we have been very involved and dedicated a lot of time to the classrooms, PTA, community things etc. But when people ask me how I can handle 4, I just have to say that I don't do it very gracefully. I know if we had one or two there would be a lot of things that would be different as far as private school options, me working and so having more $, some housecleaning/baby sitting help, actual vacations (vs visiting family types of vacations). But I think our life is pretty good and I am hopeful that our kids will think so too, especially as they get older. But I definitely can see the beauty of having a smaller family (or no kids) too. Of course I don't mean to imply I am sorry to have the volume of kids that we do-- but its definitely not the only valid way, and I hope no one would see me and think I was a show off. But as I said, with our lack of grace I cannot imagine anyone would look at us with jealousy and think we were show offs... |
Anonymous
What CT are you talking about? Southeast CT=Mystic and Stonington. Fairfield County is hardly east! |
Anonymous
ITA! If I'd started before my late thirties, I could have seen myself having 4 or 5 kids, making the $$ work somehow. They're so much darn fun! |
Anonymous
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I say it is better if super-rich people have more kids. There is a chance that having to share while growing up and then having to split inheritance more then 2 ways will make these kids better people.
I had a co-worker - his idea of saving the planet was not to have kids at all... Have as many kids as you want, just teach them to take care of the planet IMO. |