Anonymous wrote:My sons and I have very good relationships and they visit my wife and I every Sunday for lunch. Yesterday during lunch, I asked my sons if I could go back and do things differently for them while they were going up, what I would have done differently. My oldest son was very much into academics and he participated in the science olympiad, math club, and other academic activities. I tried to get him into sports and music activities but he fought back feverishly. After a year of trying, I simply gave up and he went full speed with academic activities. My younger son is a complete opposite. He was an average student but he was very much into sports, music and theatre/drama activities. Between 7th and 11th grade, he attended sport camps, music bootcamp, and theatre/drama camp. The oldest attended UPenn and the young one attended JMU, they are two years apart. After graduation, the oldest is working for AWS and the younger one is working as a contractor for the government, and they are both making good money. However, my oldest said that his life is not as fulfilling as his younger brother because he doesn't have much of a hobby, and that he wished that I should have pushed him a lot harder into sports and music (against his will at the time) when he was younger. To be clear, he is not blaming me for this but I got me thinking that I could have done more. Anyone feeling the same way I do?
The question you asked will always cause you to feel this way because rarely will a person say “you did everything perfectly!” Maybe the real thing to focus on here is why you asked the question in the first place.
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