Clingy toddler cries all day. Help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny again - I would also try reasoning with her instead of just ignoring the screaming. She’s old enough to understand “I can’t pick you up when you’re screaming, when you’re finished, please come find me” and walk away. Repeat.

I would not walk away from an inconsolable child - that does not teach them how to calm down. The kid needs help learning how to calm down. It’s just important not to give in and pick them up.

She just said it. Are you blind or don't comprehend?


Even 15 months old understands. Nobody can calm down a child. You can tell the child, it's ok to be sad, it's ok to be angry (kid has a tantrum and doesn't know to control its emotions) sit down here. When you feel better you are welcome to come play.

The child needs space to.calm down. With time it will learn that bad moments will pass. You just need a calm space to cry it out and calm down by yourself

Tell to your baby, can you wait please? Respect your baby/toddler, even if they don't talk they can understand you.

[Anonymous]

Until you stop nursing it will be hell. You can't have the cake and eat it.

Teach independence. Even babies 1 years old knows when I tell her stop when trying to touch the outlet. 15 months old are smart. Use a calm voice and redirect. Don't cave to the crying. Help the child to regulate its emotions, let the child grow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please be kind. I think I’m losing my mind. I may have already lost it.

My 18m old cries and wants to be held by me every minute of her waking day. I can’t use the bathroom, can’t cook, can’t shower or do anything else without her screaming. She’s not unhappy, she’s just emotional and loud. And I can’t wear her in a carrier. Ideally in dd’s mind, I’d sit in my rocking chair and we’d nurse for 12 hours straight. I love nursing and it’s nbd, but enough is enough. She claws me too. There’s nothing wrong with her and I don’t think she’s special needs. She’s just strong willed. I just nursed her for 45 min and she screamed when we stopped.

I play with her a lot and do lots that she loves, but she just wants carried everywhere. She won’t let Dh hold her past 4pm on the off chance he might try to put her to bed at 7pm and no way is she going to let that happen.

Frankly I’m losing my mind. I’m on antidepressants and cut back my hours at work. The older kids are feeling the strain because I can’t do anything for them anymore. We can only play once I get her to sleep and I’m so wiped by then. My back kills me and I’m struggling with that pain too. Basically I need to stop carrying her. She does go to daycare and she loves it there. I’m tempted most days to just leave her there until it closes because I can’t figure out an alternative. The screaming and crying really gets to me.

Any chance the anti-depressant is being excreted in your breast milk and your child is having side effects from that?

[Anonymous]

I know this isn’t helpful but her calling you “you” is one of the funniest/cutest toddler things I’ve ever heard.

[Anonymous]

I know you want that close bond but you are just hurting the child.

Now it will make it harder for the child to transition. Teach your child to be independent. Be consistent like nannies, Providers and directors.

Be consistent, don't give in to tantrums.

Talk to your child. They are not stupid even tho they don't talk.
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