What’s the point of living alone!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why must people live alone? We’re social beings. It’s against evolution.

Is this a rite of passage or something?

WHAT are you referring to, OP?

+1. Who are you talking about here?

[Anonymous]

I find it surprising to see parents of undergraduate/postgraduates controlling their choices by opposing moving in with their BF/GF. They feel fine with their "kids" living with random roommates of both sexes but not someone they feel comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure my Aspie husband and son wouldn't mind living alone sometimes

Indeed, the only adults I know who live alone, instead of finding roommates or shacking up rapidly with a significant other, are introverts who value alone time.

Hmm, I always viewed people who lived with roommates was because they were broke and couldn't afford to live on their own.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP that historically it is very unusual for people to live by themselves. In the old days there were many boarding houses, usually run by widows (who had inherited a house but no money) who needed to earn a living. They would cook three meals a day and all the residents would eat together and chat, like a family except unrelated people of different sexes, ages and professions. It would be nice if this model of living still existed, so you could be single but have other people around you, and socialize in a low-pressure way. Although many posters here have said they are happy to be living alone, I think if the boarding house concept were still here a lot of people would enjoy that kind of living situation.

[Anonymous]

Omg. I lived alone for 10 months when I started grad school before my now-husband moved in with me. The most glorious ten months of my life. Never had to wear pants, could eat Mac and cheese every day and not put anything into a Tupperware, have a pet hamster…..the list goes on 🤣

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Loved living alone and still love having the house all to myself when DH travels. Love the quiet, love doing whatever I want, love not having to pick up after anyone else.

I still remember moving into my first solo apartment. Friends helped me move in and I could not WAIT for them to leave so I could shut the door, knowing no one could come in unless I let them.

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Well, DD is moving to a different city after graduating this summer (the city she interned in for the past two summers) and she already knows she has zero desire to live within the city itself. She spent a lot of time exploring it and its suburbs. Has zero interest in nightlife. She’s identified a suburb with a lot of apartments by shopping that is 20 minutes away from her job via train, and is looking at others that are about 45-50 minutes out. May be difficult to find a roommate also interested in that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP that historically it is very unusual for people to live by themselves. In the old days there were many boarding houses, usually run by widows (who had inherited a house but no money) who needed to earn a living. They would cook three meals a day and all the residents would eat together and chat, like a family except unrelated people of different sexes, ages and professions. It would be nice if this model of living still existed, so you could be single but have other people around you, and socialize in a low-pressure way. Although many posters here have said they are happy to be living alone, I think if the boarding house concept were still here a lot of people would enjoy that kind of living situation.

Zoning laws have eradicated it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Loved living alone and still love having the house all to myself when DH travels. Love the quiet, love doing whatever I want, love not having to pick up after anyone else.

I still remember moving into my first solo apartment. Friends helped me move in and I could not WAIT for them to leave so I could shut the door, knowing no one could come in unless I let them.

We could be (on our own terms) friends. I loved my first solo apartment and was sad to leave it when I got married. DH doesn’t know.

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I love living alone and I know I'll enjoy being an empty nester someday. Happy to host dinners and parties and visit people, but when I'm old, I want to come home someday to a house that is always clean, read a book by the fire in the evenings, and drink my morning coffee in peace. I'm tired of taking care of people.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I would like it, as long as I had my dogs!

If I am widowed, I’m getting a dog.

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I love my family, like my friends, get along very well with neighbors but rather live alone and see them from time to time. Its just so liberating being by one's self.

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I feel like home is a sanctuary and one should entertain people outside.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like home is a sanctuary and one should entertain people outside.

In the winter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love living alone and I know I'll enjoy being an empty nester someday. Happy to host dinners and parties and visit people, but when I'm old, I want to come home someday to a house that is always clean, read a book by the fire in the evenings, and drink my morning coffee in peace. I'm tired of taking care of people.

I felt the same way. Now I live alone and it is wonderful.

I am actually a very sociable person. Like you, I host dinners and parties and go out often with my friends. But at the end of the day, I like to relax and be alone.