Buy nothing group etiquette

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically the giver will respond to a comment and say that they've been chosen and then will DM them with the address. In our group you're also supposed to update the original post to note who you gave it to. (I'm guilty of not always doing this last step.)

Oh and we're not supposed to delete once gifted.

Interesting. Why is this?

Score keeping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The infamous “I can pick up tomorrow, oops I forgot, oops my baby daddy has the car for the next 2 days on his overnight shift, oops I lost your address” etc. people and before you know it the item has been sitting on your front stoop for 2 weeks and has gotten rained on 3 times.

It’s always the person who asked for it less than a minute after posting too 😂

I give a lot away because I am decluttering. If someone fails to pick up I won’t choose them again. Not worth the hassle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically the giver will respond to a comment and say that they've been chosen and then will DM them with the address. In our group you're also supposed to update the original post to note who you gave it to. (I'm guilty of not always doing this last step.)

Oh and we're not supposed to delete once gifted.

Interesting. Why is this?

Score keeping.

If the item doesn’t work out for the giftee, they can look back at the post and choose another recipient who had expressed interest.

[Anonymous]

My local group asks that you 1) let it simmer for at least a couple of days so that people who don't live online get a chance to express interest, *or* 2) state up-front in your post that you're "speed gifting" to the first responder. I feel like that's a reasonable approach. We also don't have any post approval so there's no lag.

[Anonymous]

In the 2 I've been a part of the poster picks whoever they want, @ them they've been chosen and ask them to DM. Once it's been gifted we then edit the post and mark it's been gifted. Personally I look at the people who have asked to be considered and gift to people who contribute regularly to the group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My local group asks that you 1) let it simmer for at least a couple of days so that people who don't live online get a chance to express interest, *or* 2) state up-front in your post that you're "speed gifting" to the first responder. I feel like that's a reasonable approach. We also don't have any post approval so there's no lag.

That's how it works in my group, too.

There are people who ask for everything, then never pick up. I don't know what their deal is, but I don't include them in my RNGs.

Our group is also big on looking for stuff to borrow -- tools, books, etc. It really is about buying less (I won't say "nothing")

PS I hate "gift" as a verb. There's already a verb for giving people things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our local BNG has encouraged people to not pick the first person bc there are some people who literally park themselves all day on FB so they can be the first person to claim items. Our moderators also discourage people from DM’ing to ask for items although people DM me all the time. Simmering is encouraged to give more people a chance to see the post but the moderators understand that some people need the items out of their house quickly.

Tbh, every time I have posted items, it has been a huge pain coordinating pickups with people who supposedly really want the stuff. They take days/weeks to come and the items are sitting outside which dh finds super annoying for some reason. It has gotten to the point where it is easier to donate items than do buy nothing bc of how difficult some people are.

One day I counted the same person claiming twelve items. She must be notified of every post. But she does reliably pick things up on schedule so I can see why it’s easy just to give to her.

[Anonymous]

What does RNG mean? I see that every now and again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does RNG mean? I see that every now and again.

Random number generator