Buy nothing group etiquette
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Anonymous
| After someone posts an offer and there are replies with people asking for it, isn't the poster supposed to pick a person on the comments section and DM them an address? Lots of things posted but don't look like they go anywhere is this normal? |
Anonymous
| sometimes the poster DMs the one they have chosen. i think they normally do this when there is a lot of interest in the item |
Anonymous
| Our local group the admins really encourage people to update their original post to say GIFTED to Larla once it's gone. But as a PP said, I think a lot of times the poster just sends a message privately, and just forgets to edit the post. |
Anonymous
| I just reply via DM to the first person who shows interest, and delete the post after it is picked up. If needed, I go on to the second or third person. There are a lot of stupid "rules" in my group that I just ignore because it's just a sad neighborhood woman trying to lord control over other people. Nope! |
Anonymous
| Typically the giver will respond to a comment and say that they've been chosen and then will DM them with the address. In our group you're also supposed to update the original post to note who you gave it to. (I'm guilty of not always doing this last step.) |
Anonymous
Oh and we're not supposed to delete once gifted. |
Anonymous
When they don't say who it went to it doesn't look like the item was even gifted. The poster should publicly say who it went to then DM them the address. It's very suspicious to me when this doesn't occur, especially when the offer is like an "almost new iphone 9" then looks like it went to no one. |
Anonymous
BuyNothing is not NextDoor or Freecycle. It is an actual national organization with a specific philosophy and mission. The local admins don’t make up the rules - they are the same for all BN groups. If you have no interest in following the rules or building community, please leave your BN group. Let posts simmer - it’s not first come, first serve State who you gifted to and update when gifted Do not delete posts Seriously, I hope your group kicks you out or at least that no one ever gifts you anything. |
Anonymous
That's nice. I've successfully given things away and have received them from my local BuyNothing for about three years. The vast majority of actual users just want things gone/just want pick-up to be reliable. We're in a good groove and enjoy it, and we really don't care about some raisin-faced old biddy trying to bend the universe to her will. We do as we please, and we give and receive, and it's all good for us. 
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Anonymous
| There are people posting things all the time then never showing or saying who they went to. I'm starting to think they just want people to beg and never give the item up! |
Anonymous
There are rules but I don’t see the ones I bolded in your comment https://buynothingproject.org/10-rules |
Anonymous
You absolutely do NOT have to let anything simmer. It's giver's choice - they may need an item gone by a certain time/day. This is what the PP was talking about - all the Ninny's making up new rules (simmer??? that's just dumb) |
Anonymous
| You do not have to post who you gifted anything to an any site run by any organization. This can, and usually is, done privately. |
Anonymous
| My Buy Nothing group admins take such a long time to approve posts that by the time they get posted, I usually offer it to the first poster. It had already “simmered” enough in the pending post phase and I just want it gone! 💨 |
Anonymous
I meant to copy the rules I didn’t. Rule number nine talks about your local group’s culture. I think that is where letting it simmer, and posting or deleting and expressing gratitude comes from. It seems like groups have leeway to do that but, it is not a BNP rule it is just your groups rule. BUY NOTHING PROJECT 10 Rules Buy Nothing Project Short & Sweet Version of the Mission, Rules, Tenets, and Attribution for Private Buy Nothing Groups 1) The Buy Nothing Project Mission & Rules Give. Ask. Borrow. Lend. Share Gratitude. We are a Gift Economy movement. Uphold the Buy Nothing ethos: Learn All About the Buy Nothing Project here https://buynothingproject.org/all-about-the-buy-nothing-project/ 2) Keep it Legal Anything legal is allowed as a gift/ask. Follow all national and local laws, as well as this platform’s Community Guidelines/Regulated Goods list. 3) Show Your Humanity No cruelty, harassment, or hate speech. The Buy Nothing Project Equity Team wrote the Community Agreement to facilitate communication and strengthen connections in Buy Nothing groups: www.buynothingproject.org/community-agreement/ 4) Build Trust Trust is the foundation of this gift economy. Act with honesty and empathy, using each interaction to build community. Stealing is prohibited. Don’t pressure others via private message. 5) Give Freely All gifts must be given freely without any expectation of reward other than the joy of giving and connecting. No buying, selling, bartering, trading, advertising, or marketing of goods or services allowed. 6) Participate as Yourself Join and participate in your local Buy Nothing community’s Facebook group as yourself, using your personal Facebook profile. 7) Give from Your Own Abundance Please focus on what you can share from your own hands, heart, time, and stuff. 8) Participate at Your Own Risk The Buy Nothing Project, Founders, Community Leaders, and Group Admins accept no responsibility or legal liability for any loss, damage, illness, or injury arising out of group activities. 9) Respect Local Buy Nothing Culture See this community’s conversation and pinned posts for information about this group’s localized rules and norms that bring the Buy Nothing ethos to life. 10) Buy Nothing Project Local Leadership This group is a local iteration of the Buy Nothing Project and is solely led by its local volunteer Community Builders/Admins, who generously gift their time and energy to serve this community. Any rules added to this group that aren't included in this Buy Nothing website 10 Rules page are unique rules created by this group's local admins, to serve this Local Variation Buy Nothing group. See the local volunteer admins for support and explanation of this group's unique local rules that go beyond the Buy Nothing 10 Rules that are listed on the www.buynothingproject.org/10-rules website page. The 10 Rules document was most recently updated on 19 January 2023. Copyright 2023 Liesl Clark and Rebecca |