Do you tell schools other schools your child has been admitted at?

[Anonymous]

Yes we told them. We've received nothing but friendly, understanding responses back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It often leads to a deeper conversation as to why and what the applicant/family values to help admissions better sell their own school. I saw no downside in doing this but definitely spent more time with certain schools than others (based on prior relationship/legacy and/or how we were treated during the application process). From the parent side, it is simply part of being a decent human.

Exactly! It's just common decency to respond if they ask; you don't have to go into too much details.

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[Anonymous]

We did not tell. They know by who enrolls and who chooses not to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Those we declined asked and we told them where she was enrolling and the reason.

That’s the major difference. Your current school will not ask. If you find a way to tell them because they “asked” you asked them to ask

What? We informed the schools that we were declining their offer. They send an email thanking us for informing them and asked where we decided to enroll and the reason. You think we should not have informed them that we were declining their offer?

No. You are just giving them useful info for them to improve.

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Anonymous wrote:Those we declined asked and we told them where she was enrolling and the reason.

That’s the major difference. Your current school will not ask. If you find a way to tell them because they “asked” you asked them to ask

What? We informed the schools that we were declining their offer. They send an email thanking us for informing them and asked where we decided to enroll and the reason. You think we should not have informed them that we were declining their offer?

It is obvious that if one doesn’t enroll, they declined it.

The schools could take that same approach and say if you don't hear from us that means you were not accepted. I don't see any downside in communicating your decision to the school.

No, they have a system to tell all who applied and you know that. There is no system in which one has to decline and you know that as well. There is no downside in not communicating that to the school.

No downside to you, but it’s respectful of the school’s time and effort, and respectful of potential waitlist folks, to let schools know as soon as you have made a decision that you won’t be attending. It’s not required and they’ll get the message if you just don’t enroll, but it’s kind of rude, especially if you’ve been working with a particular admissions person who probably went to bat for your kid in decision meetings.

[Anonymous]

The same way schools ask in the application where else you are applying, it’s useful data for them to learn where students who turn down their offer end up enrolling. You don’t have to tell them, of course, but i personally don’t see the harm in it.

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Anonymous wrote:Those we declined asked and we told them where she was enrolling and the reason.

That’s the major difference. Your current school will not ask. If you find a way to tell them because they “asked” you asked them to ask

What? We informed the schools that we were declining their offer. They send an email thanking us for informing them and asked where we decided to enroll and the reason. You think we should not have informed them that we were declining their offer?

It is obvious that if one doesn’t enroll, they declined it.

The schools could take that same approach and say if you don't hear from us that means you were not accepted. I don't see any downside in communicating your decision to the school.

No, they have a system to tell all who applied and you know that. There is no system in which one has to decline and you know that as well. There is no downside in not communicating that to the school.

No downside to you, but it’s respectful of the school’s time and effort, and respectful of potential waitlist folks, to let schools know as soon as you have made a decision that you won’t be attending. It’s not required and they’ll get the message if you just don’t enroll, but it’s kind of rude, especially if you’ve been working with a particular admissions person who probably went to bat for your kid in decision meetings.

It’s not rude and most are probably not working with a particular person who is going to bat for their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same way schools ask in the application where else you are applying, it’s useful data for them to learn where students who turn down their offer end up enrolling. You don’t have to tell them, of course, but i personally don’t see the harm in it.

No harm either way, tell them if you choose or don’t will them. It is one’s preference to do so or not.