Did you or plan to tell your children they were conceived via IVF?

[Anonymous]

Ha, we showed our son the picture of the blastocyst they gave us after our transfer. It’s in his baby book.

Our twins are from the same cycle and were a single embryo that split after transfer. We can’t find the blastocyst picture, which is a bummer. I think it would be kind of cool to show them an image from when they were still one “person.” (Or maybe it would send one or both into an existential crisis and it’s just as well.)

[Anonymous]

Right now our son thinks all babies are made in labs.

[Anonymous]

I made a baby book with a picture of me at the IVF clinic (made a selfie in my robe to send to husband) and with my stack of meds, and the blasts. Then also pics of me pregnant and then as newborns. So it all became their birth story. They had a very dramatic emergency birth so I think that overshadows everything in their story, but they are vaguely aware they’re lab grown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you tell your kid. It’s medical information he needs to know.

What important medical information does this reveal that changes anything? This is your biological child, IVF or no IVF, that info is the same. Unless there's more to OP's IVF story that isn't clear.

The oldest IVF baby is not even 50 yet. So who is to say that there are no future implications of IVF that have not yet been discovered?

We might not be around when potential implications emerge. It might be an important part of their medical history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: The only issue I see potentially coming up in the future is if DS has a difficult time conceiving. Our RE did mention that because our issue was with DH's fertility that could potentially be passed on to the son. Was anyone else told this by their RE?

Think of it this way OP. Would you want your son to find out *after* having difficulty conceiving? If it were me, I'd want to know from the outset, which means telling him now. It's just like any other aspect of medical history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right now our son thinks all babies are made in labs.

[Anonymous]

They know that we wanted to be parents so badly, but we had to wait a long time and get doctors to help us, and now we feel so blessed that they are in our family.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Men today don't value the biological clock. I want my son to understand how painful it is when you run out of time. Children aren't a given. Wasting women's time should be a crime.