Cemetery plot: do you have one?

[Anonymous]

no, but I would like to buy one at some point. My wife wants to be cremated but I prefer burial, so we can share a single plot and headstone. I am torn about whether it makes sense to buy one now where we currently live or wait until we're a little older and have a better sense of where we might live in retirement. At this point, we have other financial priorities so it's a moot point--if one of us dies unexpectedly early the survivor can use our life insurance benefits to pay for a plot, and if we die together I guess our parents and siblings can figure it out.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to be a tree on our property. I’ll be buried in a pod with seeds. No cemetery plot necessary. I hate the idea of wasted land and resources.

[Anonymous]

I would not buy a plot unless you are absolutely sure you want to be buried there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine if they just put my ashes in the trash.

Same.

My dad already has his headstone in the cemetery in his hometown in rural Wisconsin. My mom doesn’t want to be buried there; I don’t know her exact wishes but pretty sure it’s cremation and scatter or columbarium near her mom—it’s written down somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my SIL died unexpectedly at 48 her spouse purchased two burial plots adjacent to each other. Now, ten years later he is remarried and doesn't know what to do with the plot. So he is trying to sell it to his ex-MIL who is broker than broke and can't afford to pay the cost to be buried next to her daughter. So, this is why I've always said, No burial plot for me. Cremation all the way! Avoids unnecessary expense and drama.

Why does he still want to be buried by his wife that died? So what if he remarried?

More common than you’d think to end up next to the deceased first spouse, possibly for this exact reason — cemeteries are expensive and there’s a spot already paid for. Happened with a family I know. Wife died. Husband remarried to her good friend. When he died it was back to the original wife.

[Anonymous]

This will be a thing of the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never given this a moments thought and don’t really care where I am buried. I won’t be there for it.

Nope. Getting cremated. Cheaper, and doesn't take up valuable land space

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never given this a moments thought and don’t really care where I am buried. I won’t be there for it.

We've been thinking a lot about this and going a "green" route but not sure which. This, coincidentally, came up in the Post today and I was not aware of some of these options Comparing green funeral options, from composting to natural burial to water cremation:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/climate-environment/2023/01/31/green-funeral-options-cremation-burial/

I do know that a traditional coffin, viewing, funeral is not happening for us.

[Anonymous]

No and we won’t. We’ll be cremated. Cemetery plots are outrageously expensive and so are the ridiculous fees associated with “opening” and “closing” the plot (gravedigging.) Coffins are stupid expensive and so is “preparing the body.”

As we went though all of this when my mom died DH and I were like NFW. We’ll have to suck it up once more for my dad though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. We’ll be cremating.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my SIL died unexpectedly at 48 her spouse purchased two burial plots adjacent to each other. Now, ten years later he is remarried and doesn't know what to do with the plot. So he is trying to sell it to his ex-MIL who is broker than broke and can't afford to pay the cost to be buried next to her daughter. So, this is why I've always said, No burial plot for me. Cremation all the way! Avoids unnecessary expense and drama.

How much is the plot? Why not give it to his ex MIL?

NP here. I agree, it would be really nice and decent if the OP of this post could just give it to his MIL. Maybe finances don't permit it but it would be fitting to have mother and daughter buried together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never given this a moments thought and don’t really care where I am buried. I won’t be there for it.

We've been thinking a lot about this and going a "green" route but not sure which. This, coincidentally, came up in the Post today and I was not aware of some of these options Comparing green funeral options, from composting to natural burial to water cremation:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/climate-environment/2023/01/31/green-funeral-options-cremation-burial/

I do know that a traditional coffin, viewing, funeral is not happening for us.

Thanks for sharing that article. I’ve told my family to do whatever is easiest and most environmentally friendly when I die. This has good info!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my SIL died unexpectedly at 48 her spouse purchased two burial plots adjacent to each other. Now, ten years later he is remarried and doesn't know what to do with the plot. So he is trying to sell it to his ex-MIL who is broker than broke and can't afford to pay the cost to be buried next to her daughter. So, this is why I've always said, No burial plot for me. Cremation all the way! Avoids unnecessary expense and drama.

Her spouse meaning your brother? How awful that he’s trying yo resell the plot. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

We do. After we bought the plots for my parents and my sibling, we ended up with extra space. DH & I never lived in that city as a couple, so we didn’t think we would use them. However, now my DC lives a couple of miles from the cemetery, so maybe we will end up there, after all?

There is also a family cemetery with many generations in the middle of nowhere near the old family homestead, but my DC has never been there, so I don’t see that happening.

[Anonymous]

Kind of. DH has a family plot in New England where we could be buried. Or we could get military burials. But we haven't done any paperwork yet. I guess I don't care, other than that I'm Catholic and want it to follow Church rules, sort of. I figure once I'm gone it's in God's hands and I don't need to worry about it. I do want to make sure others don't have to pay for anything, though.