Too many sick days!!

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Which is illegal FYI

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Where do you live? I do short notice in NWDC if I'm off work.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

You would fire a nanny who had taken 9 sick days off in six months.

OP is a teacher. DCUM would be apoplectic if their little snowflakes had a teacher who was out 9 days during 6 months of teaching.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Which is illegal FYI

They can always find another reason to claim.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Well, old people take a lot of time Off work too, and frequently it is for longer periods of time. My coworkers in their 50s and 60s all took several weeks off for rotator cuff surgery, hernia surgery, knee surgery, etc. People are humans and have to take time off. It’s not just parents of young kids.

Which is illegal FYI

They can always find another reason to claim.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Well, old people take a lot of time off work too, and frequently it is for longer periods of time. My coworkers in their 50s and 60s all took several weeks off for rotator cuff surgery, hernia surgery, knee surgery, etc. People are humans and have to take time off. It’s not just parents of young kids.

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Unfortunately this is all of our future now that covid has damaged our immune systems. Welcome to the new normal

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Does your husband have an office type job? Does he have a private office?

If he's afraid to ask for time off, then tell him to bring the sick kid in with a sleeping bag and a tablet and the kid can sleep/rest in the sleeping bag and/or watch videos from the tablet. I know someone who was like that, who asked for leave, was refused and just brought her child with her to work and had him sleep in the office in the corner. The supervisor may become more lenient if they see him coming to work with the sick child. Or, if it doesn't affect his work having the child there, the supervisor may just look the other way.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

As a employer, I hire you to do a job and I count on you being available during business hours to do that job. Your lack of childcare whatever the reason, should not be my problem. Surely, OP must have known that children get colds and the flu, run a fever, etc., and should have found emergency childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband have an office type job? Does he have a private office?

If he's afraid to ask for time off, then tell him to bring the sick kid in with a sleeping bag and a tablet and the kid can sleep/rest in the sleeping bag and/or watch videos from the tablet. I know someone who was like that, who asked for leave, was refused and just brought her child with her to work and had him sleep in the office in the corner. The supervisor may become more lenient if they see him coming to work with the sick child. Or, if it doesn't affect his work having the child there, the supervisor may just look the other way.

So you and your friend think it is fine to bring your sick kid to the office and pass on his germs to other people I would have sent your friend home.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Well, old people take a lot of time off work too, and frequently it is for longer periods of time. My coworkers in their 50s and 60s all took several weeks off for rotator cuff surgery, hernia surgery, knee surgery, etc. People are humans and have to take time off. It’s not just parents of young kids.

Yes, and I'm sure you've heard of (older) age discrimination in hiring too.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

As a employer, I hire you to do a job and I count on you being available during business hours to do that job. Your lack of childcare whatever the reason, should not be my problem. Surely, OP must have known that children get colds and the flu, run a fever, etc., and should have found emergency childcare.

Well, parents also get sick. I’ve got rock solid, multi tiered plans for childcare even with sick kids. But this winter has hit ME (a 30something mom) extremely hard. I’ve never been this sick in my entire life and have had to take a day off nearly every week since October. The illnesses now aren’t just the sniffles-they are taking our family DOWN.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband have an office type job? Does he have a private office?

If he's afraid to ask for time off, then tell him to bring the sick kid in with a sleeping bag and a tablet and the kid can sleep/rest in the sleeping bag and/or watch videos from the tablet. I know someone who was like that, who asked for leave, was refused and just brought her child with her to work and had him sleep in the office in the corner. The supervisor may become more lenient if they see him coming to work with the sick child. Or, if it doesn't affect his work having the child there, the supervisor may just look the other way.

So you and your friend think it is fine to bring your sick kid to the office and pass on his germs to other people I would have sent your friend home.

That was the point. The friend ASKED for leave but was refused. She would have preferred to be home on leave taking care of her child, but was denied. So, you sending her home would have been the same situation, only inconveniencing her by making her come in, sick child in tow, just to prove the point that it would have been better to have approved her leave request in the first place.

No, we don't think it is fine to bring the child in. But the employer did not give her an option when they refused her leave request.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

Which is illegal FYI

It's done every day just like age discrimination is rampant. It is impossible to prove.

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

As a employer, I hire you to do a job and I count on you being available during business hours to do that job. Your lack of childcare whatever the reason, should not be my problem. Surely, OP must have known that children get colds and the flu, run a fever, etc., and should have found emergency childcare.

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Well, parents also get sick. I’ve got rock solid, multi tiered plans for childcare even with sick kids. But this winter has hit ME (a 30something mom) extremely hard. I’ve never been this sick in my entire life and have had to take a day off nearly every week since October. The illnesses now aren’t just the sniffles-they are taking our family DOWN.

This is still not your employer's problem. You should have taken a week off to get well instead of a day every week since Oct. At this point, I would have had a long talk with you about all your sick leave and any more would be without pay and a doctor's note on your reason for taking so much time

I am running a business NOT a kindergarten.