How do you trust a stanger with your child?

[Anonymous]

I did not leave our child until she could talk and tell me if something happened. I used people recommened from friends. Good luck

[Anonymous]

also, get babysitter recommendations from friends you trust.

[Anonymous]

Hilarious that mom who thinks that not spending time alone with hubby doesn't put your marriage at risk. I have a feeling this is one of the deluded moms who thinks everything is okay when hubby or wife is needing time alone as a couple outside a house. Since the cheating rate in this country is now at over 50%- and the divorce rate is even higher, making your marriage a high priority just seems smart. And living in the "we don't have to do anything outside of the house alone or we never ever will go anywhere without kids is dumb--or course this is my opinion and this site is about varying opinions so OP can decide what she thinks is relevant. Again, this doesn't mean people should run out and get anyone to watch their kids or do this right away but working toward this is smart. As for the state of my marriage--it's great and I know this because we communicate about our needs and I am careful not to let myself slip into the only mommy world--hubby also doesn't let the relationship slip. Should also add that both our parents have enjoyed long happy marriages and both sides encouraged us to make alone time together a priority. OP-back to your original question--you have seen a lot of great advice on how to procure great help--you will know in your gut when you find a right fit and I hope you are able to make this transition because it is initially hard.