People who’ve married 3 or more times, could you explain why?

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Anonymous wrote:My best friend is on her third marriage. Sometimes things just happen.

She got married the first time at 17, after HS graduation, because that's what people did when they were in love where she grew up. What most didn't do is go to college, but both she and her husband went, and figured out along the way that they were wrong for each other. Divorced after 3 years, no kids.

She then got married to a very nice doctor, 10 years older and establishing himself after finishing up the residency. Everything seemed perfect. A few years later, red flags started appearing, by the time they divorced, he was in a full blown mental health crisis. He hasn't worked since.

The third time was the charm. She married a normal guy and they've been married for over 15 years. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with her, just extremely bad luck with the second marriage.

Nah, your friend definitely has some “stuff” going on that make her flakier than most. Maybe being with the right guy will be a good fit and she’ll make it work this time. But people don’t just marry at 17 because that’s what people did. And people don’t just marry recent medical residents 10 years older than them (so she would have been early mid 20s still) - where doctors are already a notorious group of narcissists often with mental health issues, who are known to be difficult to be with even in the best of times. Sorry, but your friend clearly was willing to overlook red flags both times in order to get married.

Who sees or knows what red flags are at 17? Go chew rocks.

LOL. Really? I knew that college was a better choice than getting married by the time I was 10!

Probably bc it was modeled for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My best friend is on her third marriage. Sometimes things just happen.

She got married the first time at 17, after HS graduation, because that's what people did when they were in love where she grew up. What most didn't do is go to college, but both she and her husband went, and figured out along the way that they were wrong for each other. Divorced after 3 years, no kids.

She then got married to a very nice doctor, 10 years older and establishing himself after finishing up the residency. Everything seemed perfect. A few years later, red flags started appearing, by the time they divorced, he was in a full blown mental health crisis. He hasn't worked since.

The third time was the charm. She married a normal guy and they've been married for over 15 years. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with her, just extremely bad luck with the second marriage.

She has poor decision-making skills. That's what's wrong with her.

Sounds like she figured it out. Hopefully she’s not a judgmental ass like you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother has. She's done it because ... she wants to. I haven't talked to her in over a decade, but my guess is she feels more "legit" in her circles as a married woman.

I think this is more common. Single women are not welcomed in groups of married women. The social dynamics change.

[Anonymous]

Not sleeping in the same bed and same room has nothing to do with love or the years you are married.
I have my own room on the other side of the house. We have been married 40 plus years and love each other.

My sister is on her 4th marriage. She's in love with being in love. She cheated on all her husbands. She considers herself Christian. She has no morals. She doesn't know the word loyalty. She's very very selfish. I haven't seen her in over 20 years. I have no need to ever see her again to be honest. I'll bet everything I own her social media pages are full of her vainness. I'm glad I never did social media. But even if I did I still wouldn't look her up.

I hate talking about her like this but it's true. Sad but true. She spent her life not being a good mother and now grandmother. She wasted precious years chasing a feeling.

[Anonymous]

My DH's grandmother was married and divorced three times. Apparently she was very beautiful but a raging alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am really not being snarky, I am genuinely curious about the thought process behind it. I am not saying it’s a bad thing but it is foreign to me. My parents are probably not in love and have slept in separate rooms for many years, but they’ve been married for 30 years.

My parents were in love, were married for almost 40 years, and then my mom died. My dad got married again but to the wrong person and divorced shortly afterward. He and his current wife have been married to for 14 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad is in his third. Widowed after 19 years. Then he remarried too quickly out of grief and the woman turned out to be really not a good fit, so that ended after a few years. A few years later, he married the woman who was my mother's best friend and they are very happy together. I'm so happy for them both!

23:08 here and this is a lot like my dad. My mom and his current wife didn’t know each other but they had multiple mutual good friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sleeping in the same bed and same room has nothing to do with love or the years you are married.
I have my own room on the other side of the house. We have been married 40 plus years and love each other.

My sister is on her 4th marriage. She's in love with being in love. She cheated on all her husbands. She considers herself Christian. She has no morals. She doesn't know the word loyalty. She's very very selfish. I haven't seen her in over 20 years. I have no need to ever see her again to be honest. I'll bet everything I own her social media pages are full of her vainness. I'm glad I never did social media. But even if I did I still wouldn't look her up.

I hate talking about her like this but it's true. Sad but true. She spent her life not being a good mother and now grandmother. She wasted precious years chasing a feeling.

This is my cousin. Trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sleeping in the same bed and same room has nothing to do with love or the years you are married.
I have my own room on the other side of the house. We have been married 40 plus years and love each other.

My sister is on her 4th marriage. She's in love with being in love. She cheated on all her husbands. She considers herself Christian. She has no morals. She doesn't know the word loyalty. She's very very selfish. I haven't seen her in over 20 years. I have no need to ever see her again to be honest. I'll bet everything I own her social media pages are full of her vainness. I'm glad I never did social media. But even if I did I still wouldn't look her up.

I hate talking about her like this but it's true. Sad but true. She spent her life not being a good mother and now grandmother. She wasted precious years chasing a feeling.

Is your sister a Real Housewife in Orange County, CA? Sounds like the one who is always braying about having her love-tank filled.