I'm done with tipping

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The most egregious is babysitters. I’m on a local FB group and apparently babysitters are now charging fees if you ASK them to babysit last minute? I used to always give sitters a few extra dollars, which I never considered a tip, I just rounded up, but now sitters expect tips! And they charge an arm & leg.

I don't think that's unreasonable. They are telling you their fee, take it or leave it. Minimum wage has gone up so you aren't going to get a $10 babysitter anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most egregious is babysitters. I’m on a local FB group and apparently babysitters are now charging fees if you ASK them to babysit last minute? I used to always give sitters a few extra dollars, which I never considered a tip, I just rounded up, but now sitters expect tips! And they charge an arm & leg.

Hmm. What exactly are you going to do about it?

Nothing! I don’t need babysitters anymore thank god. Now my daughter is old enough to babysit so maybe she can take advantage of parents’ unnecessary generosity!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even the *way* we tip actually makes no sense at all. We're not tipping based on the amount of work (or service) provided, but on the cost of service. Your $150 a cut hairdresser is not working hard to do your hair than your $50 a cut hairdresser, but if you go by % you are tipping a lot more. Ditto for servers--it always annoyed me when I was one. If I have a table full of people drinking water and iced tea, and I have to run back and forth a zillion times for refills vs a table of full of same# of people who order one cocktail a piece and never ask for anything else, guess who is more work? Guess whose bill is much higher, and then the corresponding tip? It's stupid.

I agree with this and I usually correct for it and overtip if I’m not drinking or just have an appetizer.

Same (because I actually PREFER water, so that's what I drink). I tip as if that water was a glass of red.

Conversely, it is just as easy to do service for a $40 bottle of wine / 4 ppl as it is to do service for a $200 bottle / 4 ppl. So, on the rare occasions we splurge on the single bottle for the table, Server Susan isn't getting 28% of the $200. Sorry not sorry.

-- waited tables for 8 yrs in college / law school

This makes you sound juvenile and like a complete jacka$$, even though there is nothing wrong with any of the rest. Just stop it.

[Anonymous]

God another thread like this? Yes, good for you for stiffing the people who make less than you. You are really sticking it to the man and changing the whole system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God another thread like this? Yes, good for you for stiffing the people who make less than you. You are really sticking it to the man and changing the whole system.

How is the customer 'stiffing' the worker? The EMPLOYER IS, NOT THE CUSTOMER. Take it up with your boss or your company. Your entire mindset is wrong, and exactly why we hava trash tipping culture in the first place. No, I will not tip you because you're doing cashier work, handing me a coffee, or scooping my ice cream. You get a wage for that. It is enough. Don't like it? Get a new job or tell your company to raise prices so they can pay you more. I'm done with your stupid swivel screens.

[Anonymous]

Leave it to dc to raise the pay of crappy waiters/bartenders and lower the pay of great waiters/bartenders.

Restaurants should just double their prices. Give the people what they want… higher prices and communism level motivation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave it to dc to raise the pay of crappy waiters/bartenders and lower the pay of great waiters/bartenders.

Restaurants should just double their prices. Give the people what they want… higher prices and communism level motivation.

At least with higher prices I can see the final price and decide whether or not it is worth it. Enough of this stupid ass charades of tipping culture that makes absolutely zero sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The most egregious is babysitters. I’m on a local FB group and apparently babysitters are now charging fees if you ASK them to babysit last minute? I used to always give sitters a few extra dollars, which I never considered a tip, I just rounded up, but now sitters expect tips! And they charge an arm & leg.

They're not charging fees for the question, which isn't a tip by the way. They're charging extra for the inconvenience of changing their plans at the last minute. Do you not expect to pay rush fees when you place a last minute order and want to skip the line or require extra work? Why didn't the people needing the service plan better? I don't know which is stranger, someone calling fees tips or someone not understanding why a sitter would charge a premium in that situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave it to dc to raise the pay of crappy waiters/bartenders and lower the pay of great waiters/bartenders.

Restaurants should just double their prices. Give the people what they want… higher prices and communism level motivation.

Dc restaurants should raise the prices to Swiss levels if it means we get waiters that are in shape and multilingual

One thing I love about Switzerland is service staff seem in shape and healthy and normal. It makes me want to go out more

In the us, service staff almost seem to be a new form of indentured servitude— it’s sad.

[Anonymous]

The last time I picked up pizza, cashier swiveled the payment screen. I hit zero for tip. I was watching him. His lips tightened.

Seriously? I'm not going back because I'm afraid they're going to spit on my food or something, since I didn't give the cashier a tip.

[Anonymous]

Panera claims they can’t turn off the option. I wait in line to order my food, I pick it up when it’s ready, get my own drink, and bus my own table. What am I tipping for? Pay your employees better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Panera claims they can’t turn off the option. I wait in line to order my food, I pick it up when it’s ready, get my own drink, and bus my own table. What am I tipping for? Pay your employees better.

Just put zero and move on. This is not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even the *way* we tip actually makes no sense at all. We're not tipping based on the amount of work (or service) provided, but on the cost of service. Your $150 a cut hairdresser is not working hard to do your hair than your $50 a cut hairdresser, but if you go by % you are tipping a lot more. Ditto for servers--it always annoyed me when I was one. If I have a table full of people drinking water and iced tea, and I have to run back and forth a zillion times for refills vs a table of full of same# of people who order one cocktail a piece and never ask for anything else, guess who is more work? Guess whose bill is much higher, and then the corresponding tip? It's stupid.

When my friend was a waitress she used to dread my parents coming in...ice water with lemon that needed umpteen refills and then a shared entree. The bill would end up being the price of the entree ($25) and even though they were polite and nice, they were just as much work as a pricier table.
I always tip but I drew the line at a medspa where they expected 15, 18 or 20% on a $350 microneedling service. Hell no.

ice water and one food item - yeah that sounds really really hard - 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Panera claims they can’t turn off the option. I wait in line to order my food, I pick it up when it’s ready, get my own drink, and bus my own table. What am I tipping for? Pay your employees better.

Most have tablets in store for ordering to. Of course they can turn it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about this enough to do anything but I did recently try to tip the Target curbside guy and he said he couldn’t accept it. It was kind of refreshing.

MOM’s employees will help carry out bags and load your car. They don’t accept tips either.