Embarrassed to go to a spa

[Anonymous]

Spas have lots of things other than massage. Can you check their offerings? I would avoid services that involve touching areas of your skin that are flared up or flaking. As far as the robe, you might not need a robe, depending on what services you use. You can check sizes by phone or in person.

[Anonymous]

“Their normal clientele” includes and should include you! Sorry not to have advice to offer you, kudos for thinking ahead, etc. But please don’t devalue yourself. You deserve whatever spa treatments or other indulgences that you want! I’m horrible about negative self-talk myself, but please try to give yourself some grace! I hope that you have a lovely time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love people saying being your own robe—it will take up an entire suitcase! I’m 2x and have been where you are. It sucks. If losing weight were easy, there wouldn’t be a multibillion dollar industry dedicated to it. Just call and ask—if nothing else it will give them a heads up. The mens and women’s robes are the same.

I’m a 2x. I have a waffle type robe that will fit in a large ziploc bag which fits in my tote. Fortunately it won’t be an issue for OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, I hope you enjoy your spa day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I called the spa today and talked to someone. I'm feeling so much better, a bit nervous but better.

They said the psoriasis won't be an issue and the she said the robes won't be a problem they will note it. And she is going to send a note to the spa manager who will call if anything. But that they will be able to accommodate all sizes ( fingers crossed) and the massage therapist will call 24 hours before the appt to discuss with all in our party.

Phew. Trusting this process.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone

Yay! I'm the PP who suggested Tremfya as medication for your skin condition. I had patches of psoriosis all over my back, shins, forearms, scalp and hairline. I could never wear dark colored tops. No shorts or shortsleeves. Four months after starting the medication I could wear short sleeves. Total game changer. Happy to answer any questions you have - but I also posted a thread in the Health forum when I started this and was really nervous if you want to read that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I called the spa today and talked to someone. I'm feeling so much better, a bit nervous but better.

They said the psoriasis won't be an issue and the she said the robes won't be a problem they will note it. And she is going to send a note to the spa manager who will call if anything. But that they will be able to accommodate all sizes ( fingers crossed) and the massage therapist will call 24 hours before the appt to discuss with all in our party.

Phew. Trusting this process.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone

I am so glad you called. Now you can look forward to going to the spa instead of dreading it. I hope you have a wonderful experience!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Their normal clientele” includes and should include you! Sorry not to have advice to offer you, kudos for thinking ahead, etc. But please don’t devalue yourself. You deserve whatever spa treatments or other indulgences that you want! I’m horrible about negative self-talk myself, but please try to give yourself some grace! I hope that you have a lovely time!

+1 I also echo the sentiments of others who think spas should consider being more body inclusive.

Let us know how the visit went, OP!

[Anonymous]

Just bring your own robe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love people saying being your own robe—it will take up an entire suitcase! I’m 2x and have been where you are. It sucks. If losing weight were easy, there wouldn’t be a multibillion dollar industry dedicated to it. Just call and ask—if nothing else it will give them a heads up. The mens and women’s robes are the same.

I’m a 2x. I have a waffle type robe that will fit in a large ziploc bag which fits in my tote. Fortunately it won’t be an issue for OP.

Can you link your robe? I’m in the market for one and hate bulky robes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love people saying being your own robe—it will take up an entire suitcase! I’m 2x and have been where you are. It sucks. If losing weight were easy, there wouldn’t be a multibillion dollar industry dedicated to it. Just call and ask—if nothing else it will give them a heads up. The mens and women’s robes are the same.

I’m a 2x. I have a waffle type robe that will fit in a large ziploc bag which fits in my tote. Fortunately it won’t be an issue for OP.

Can you link your robe? I’m in the market for one and hate bulky robes.

+1 — please share the link!

[Anonymous]

BYO robe and just book a facial.

[Anonymous]

OP they usually have a bigger robe. I always ask for one. Any skin conditions I would ask about ahead of time.

That said, I understand where you’re coming from. But if you can adjust your mindset, you might really enjoy it.

The bottom line is that the people who work at a spa:
1) don’t care
2) have seen it/worse before
3) want very much to accommodate you, because they are nice and work for tips
4) don’t care

You are not abnormally large. They have been here before. They have a bigger robe or will figure something else out. Or wear your clothes!
They will give you a clothed massage. Or through a sheet. Or whatever. They have a solution and want you to have the service if possible. You know how you are not wigged out by picking up your dog’s poop or cleaning your baby’s diaper? We’re all dog poop and baby diapers to spa employees. They just don’t care and don’t notice it. They’re like nurses. Iron clad. As long as you’re being respectful and transparent, you’re fine.

That said you don’t have to do any services to enjoy a “spa day” with your friends. Book the whirlpool or just read by the pool. Get a manicure. Or nothing! Honestly if you said “I’m just here to hang with my friends and I want to read by the pool” I bet they would say yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP they usually have a bigger robe. I always ask for one. Any skin conditions I would ask about ahead of time.

That said, I understand where you’re coming from. But if you can adjust your mindset, you might really enjoy it.

The bottom line is that the people who work at a spa:
1) don’t care
2) have seen it/worse before
3) want very much to accommodate you, because they are nice and work for tips
4) don’t care

You are not abnormally large. They have been here before. They have a bigger robe or will figure something else out. Or wear your clothes!
They will give you a clothed massage. Or through a sheet. Or whatever. They have a solution and want you to have the service if possible. You know how you are not wigged out by picking up your dog’s poop or cleaning your baby’s diaper? We’re all dog poop and baby diapers to spa employees. They just don’t care and don’t notice it. They’re like nurses. Iron clad. As long as you’re being respectful and transparent, you’re fine.

That said you don’t have to do any services to enjoy a “spa day” with your friends. Book the whirlpool or just read by the pool. Get a manicure. Or nothing! Honestly if you said “I’m just here to hang with my friends and I want to read by the pool” I bet they would say yes.

OP this is this PP and I have one more thing. I always wear a bra and panties if not a swimsuit under my robe. It’s not a problem and I just feel more comfortable in a robe. They’ll give you plenty of time to undress for a massage and always knock anyway before they come in. You don’t need to be speed naked.

[Anonymous]

Definitely call ahead and ask. I would hope that someone in the massage space is familiar with psoriasis but I understand your fear and I'm sorry. If they don't have robes that fit, definitely bring your own. Your friends will be there and love you so don't worry they have your back!

[Anonymous]

OP, I am way way way way fatter than you and love going to the spa. Please try to relax and enjoy yourself.