I have stopped tipping in many (new) situations

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, the tipping expectations have become insane. My list of where to tip looks like yours, OP. It's so uncomfortable to be put in that position at the ice cream shop. It makes me avoid places with the iPad asking for a tip where it's not appropriate.

Especially because they stand there and watch you while you deal with the iPad. Awkward.

That's by design. Trying to make you as uncomfortable as possible.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say, I live in Europe now and it's so lovely to check out and just pay the tab for what you've ordered. No having to scribble in a dollar tip while the barista stares at you. No having to worry that the person making your food might spit in it because you declined to tip. It's really nice.

When I lived in three different countries in Europe a 20% gratuity was automatically added to check. My brother didn't realize this and added another 20% until I told him.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say, I live in Europe now and it's so lovely to check out and just pay the tab for what you've ordered. No having to scribble in a dollar tip while the barista stares at you. No having to worry that the person making your food might spit in it because you declined to tip. It's really nice.

When I lived in three different countries in Europe a 20% gratuity was automatically added to check. My brother didn't realize this and added another 20% until I told him.

Tipping is becoming more common in my part of Europe even though everyone here earns a living wage.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say, I live in Europe now and it's so lovely to check out and just pay the tab for what you've ordered. No having to scribble in a dollar tip while the barista stares at you. No having to worry that the person making your food might spit in it because you declined to tip. It's really nice.

When I lived in three different countries in Europe a 20% gratuity was automatically added to check. My brother didn't realize this and added another 20% until I told him.

Which countries? Never seen that in my parts.

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Tipping culture is actually becoming problematic for those who rely on tips (waiters, etc.) When we impose something on everyone, regardless of the job or how well it done (or more importantly, whether it's actually part of the compensation structure), people eventually lose sight of the importance of tipping for certain employees.

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Anonymous wrote:Np. Me too, OP. it’s liberating.

+1 I say ‘no’ to the Charitable donation questions at the grocery store cash registers also. I want to decide my own charitable donation places. I don’t care to round up my grocery bill every time.

+1. I don't feel guilty saying "no" at the cash register. If I want to donate to a charity, I will decide on my own which one is a good cause.

Would I like your corporation to be able to deduct my charitable giving on their taxes? No thank you, I’ll deduct it from my own.

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Anonymous wrote:Np. Me too, OP. it’s liberating.

+1 I say ‘no’ to the Charitable donation questions at the grocery store cash registers also. I want to decide my own charitable donation places. I don’t care to round up my grocery bill every time.

+1. I don't feel guilty saying "no" at the cash register. If I want to donate to a charity, I will decide on my own which one is a good cause.

Would I like your corporation to be able to deduct my charitable giving on their taxes? No thank you, I’ll deduct it from my own.

I think this about Bombas, but damn I love their socks.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the tipping expectations have become insane. My list of where to tip looks like yours, OP. It's so uncomfortable to be put in that position at the ice cream shop. It makes me avoid places with the iPad asking for a tip where it's not appropriate.

Especially because they stand there and watch you while you deal with the iPad. Awkward.

That's by design. Trying to make you as uncomfortable as possible.

Oh gosh, this just happened to me. I was picking up takeout at a counter (at a place where there is no waitstaff) and the default tip was 20%. I felt so bad entering “other amount” and giving 10% while they watched me. I’m a generous tipper too but carry out diesnot merit 20%, especially on an expensive order when it would be a significant chunk of change.

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^*does not merit.

Just to add- even 10% was a significant amount because I ordered 4 things, and none cheap. I’d much prefer a tip jar where I could throw in a few bucks!

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Are most people tipping 20% at restaurants pre or post tax??

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I don't tip in those situations either.

Do you guys tip 20% for a hairdresser who is independent? She works out of a salon with others but they are all independent and rent the space. I've been tipping as if she's an employee (20%) but I always hear that it isn't necessary

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Anonymous wrote:I don't tip in those situations either.

Do you guys tip 20% for a hairdresser who is independent? She works out of a salon with others but they are all independent and rent the space. I've been tipping as if she's an employee (20%) but I always hear that it isn't necessary

I think 20%+ is pretty standard for hair

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Anonymous wrote:I’m ok with the screen for a tip, whatever, it’s just part of the app. What irritates me is the constant asking for charitable donations when I check out at the grocery store, petsmart, other places as well.

Agreed. Just to be clear: it's not the donation, but the way it is handled. Two things bother me:

1. It could be a button to click to opt-in if you want to do a charitable donation, and then link to options. But instead it is almost unfailingly phrased in a guilt-inducing way -- "Do you want to prevent children from starving?" NO. No, I want them to starve?
2. My understanding is that this counts as a charitable donation for the *business.* Is that accurate? If I, the customer, use the platform to donate, then the business gets credit for this somewhere, whether in advertising or taxes, or both or something?

1 + 2 is really beyond the pale.

Spirit Halloween is the worst with this.

I was literally yelled at as I walked out "but don't you care about children" after declining 3 attempts at
Donation (as I held the hands of two children btw).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the tipping expectations have become insane. My list of where to tip looks like yours, OP. It's so uncomfortable to be put in that position at the ice cream shop. It makes me avoid places with the iPad asking for a tip where it's not appropriate.

Especially because they stand there and watch you while you deal with the iPad. Awkward.

That's by design. Trying to make you as uncomfortable as possible.

Oh gosh, this just happened to me. I was picking up takeout at a counter (at a place where there is no waitstaff) and the default tip was 20%. I felt so bad entering “other amount” and giving 10% while they watched me. I’m a generous tipper too but carry out diesnot merit 20%, especially on an expensive order when it would be a significant chunk of change.

I give $1. I figure that's fair for putting condiments in a bag.

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I’m with you, OP. I don’t tip with 0 guilt.