BF went over ex wife house to celebrate sons bday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned that you are not ready to date a father with family obligations.

Plus 1

Kid should always come first

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned that you are not ready to date a father with family obligations.

Plus 1

Kid should always come first

+2 if he was drinking, he should stay until he sobered up as that is responsible.

[Anonymous]

I always find it interesting that three pages in, OP has not returned. Is this a troll? Bored teenagers posting on a Saturday night?

[Anonymous]

My ex husband is one of my best friends. We co-parent well and anyone in our lives knows this. I divorced him for a reason. We have two wonderful college aged kids and we often go out together to celebrate birthdays and such.

No one feels threatened because we're all mature adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband is one of my best friends. We co-parent well and anyone in our lives knows this. I divorced him for a reason. We have two wonderful college aged kids and we often go out together to celebrate birthdays and such.

No one feels threatened because we're all mature adults.

This sounds nice. Must have been a good reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think? My bf went over his ex wife to celebrate his sons bday. I was okay with it and understand he needs to celebrate his son until i find out he drank there and stayed past 10pm. Should I be concerned?

Need more details OP, because this doesn't sound like a big deal. Is the problem that it's a little kid who went to bed at 8 and he stayed 2 more hours drinking beers and talking to his ex, AKA the mother of his children? Has he given you reason to suspect he might cheat on you and be untruthful? Has he given you reason to suspect he wants to be with her?

I'm married, but would assume part of dating someone with kids is that they will still spend time with their ex, and that they will have things they need or want to talk about. They may even be friends who enjoy each other's company. Since it bothered you, I think you can be honest with him and tell him that it did, but I wouldn't try to tell him it was inappropriate or that you expect him not to do it.

1) There’s a lot to discuss with your coparent. It must be nice to do it with a chat over a few beers rather than through terse emails.
2) As someone else pointed out, keeping or reestablishing a friendship between exes is a sign they are both mature people.

[Anonymous]

I’m not divorced but I went to a 5yo birthday party yesterday and there was alcohol and we stayed until 10.

We often have guests stay past midnight.

I am assuming there were other friends there.

What is the problem? You are dating a parent.

[Anonymous]

And people don’t just go having sex at birthday parties with guests around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband is one of my best friends. We co-parent well and anyone in our lives knows this. I divorced him for a reason. We have two wonderful college aged kids and we often go out together to celebrate birthdays and such.

No one feels threatened because we're all mature adults.

Oh and after being married for 24 years I no longer find him attractive. LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband is one of my best friends. We co-parent well and anyone in our lives knows this. I divorced him for a reason. We have two wonderful college aged kids and we often go out together to celebrate birthdays and such.

No one feels threatened because we're all mature adults.

Oh and after being married for 24 years I no longer find him attractive. LOL!

Yikes.

[Anonymous]

My ex and I split up when I was pregnant with my daughter. We do stuff as a family all the time; he even lived with us for four months when he was between houses. I have absolutely no interest in ever rekindling things with him, and I'm pretty sure he has no interest in me. At this point we're basically just family to each other.

You may not be suited to dating someone with kids if this is going to bother you - it's in the kids' best interests to have parents who can coexist in the same place. (Plus it's a good sign that he's mature enough to not burn bridges with his exes.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband is one of my best friends. We co-parent well and anyone in our lives knows this. I divorced him for a reason. We have two wonderful college aged kids and we often go out together to celebrate birthdays and such.

No one feels threatened because we're all mature adults.

Oh and after being married for 24 years I no longer find him attractive. LOL!

Yikes.

She means she's been married to her second husband for 24 years and doesn't find the ex attractive.

[Anonymous]

10pm a week later?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, if they wanted to be together they would still be married.

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This is not a big deal. You probably should not date someone with kids.

Let's not act brand new like break ups are all even or that exes never end up in bed together.

Op is allowed to have boundaries when it comes to the ex.

. This has nothing to do with being coparents and if you were being honest you would admit that

I disagree. People get divorced for a reason. I do not know anyone who slept with an ex. I personally had an almost completely sexless marriage. I only see ex for the kids. I do not agree most people sleep with their ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex and I split up when I was pregnant with my daughter. We do stuff as a family all the time; he even lived with us for four months when he was between houses. I have absolutely no interest in ever rekindling things with him, and I'm pretty sure he has no interest in me. At this point we're basically just family to each other.

You may not be suited to dating someone with kids if this is going to bother you - it's in the kids' best interests to have parents who can coexist in the same place. (Plus it's a good sign that he's mature enough to not burn bridges with his exes.)

+1