Sahm to wfh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, you need childcare. Will you be getting childcare?

Why do you need childcare for 2 hours after school? Can't they do hw, chores, relax, snack, etc.. while you are at home working?

So you would keep your door closed and not acknowledge your kids when they got home until after your workday was over?

You can wfh and take a break to say hello to your children. One does not preclude the other.

But that is where the creep happens. Coming out to say hi can quickly turn into 30 minutes of helping to unpack backpacks, fix snacks and go over what homework has to be done. And then even after you return to your desk, the lack of a hard boundary means the kids will pop in here and there through the rest of the afternoon to ask for something, tell you about something that just happened, etc.

So true. It’s the creep that gets you. I have older kids and when I went from office to home I was surprised at how hard it was to maintain boundaries. It’s especially hard when meetings are scheduled between 3 and 6.

[Anonymous]

Wait so every parent who has children and works....has their nanny or childcare provider care for their child so they can be a good employee?

Why don't you use your PTO or flexibility for those days? I'm so confused, are workplaces just not made for people to be parents???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait so every parent who has children and works....has their nanny or childcare provider care for their child so they can be a good employee?

Why don't you use your PTO or flexibility for those days? I'm so confused, are workplaces just not made for people to be parents???

The above is in reference for the off days your child gets sick and needs childcare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you need childcare. Will you be getting childcare?

Why do you need childcare for 2 hours after school? Can't they do hw, chores, relax, snack, etc.. while you are at home working?

So you would keep your door closed and not acknowledge your kids when they got home until after your workday was over?

You can wfh and take a break to say hello to your children. One does not preclude the other.

But that is where the creep happens. Coming out to say hi can quickly turn into 30 minutes of helping to unpack backpacks, fix snacks and go over what homework has to be done. And then even after you return to your desk, the lack of a hard boundary means the kids will pop in here and there through the rest of the afternoon to ask for something, tell you about something that just happened, etc.

So true. It’s the creep that gets you. I have older kids and when I went from office to home I was surprised at how hard it was to maintain boundaries. It’s especially hard when meetings are scheduled between 3 and 6.

So is going back to the office better for you, or would you still take WFM with that 3-6 problem?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the kids.

Older kids, no activities, walkable from school or bus, walkable to friends, can entertain themselves and do homework independently. Sure.

Typical 6 yo needing help, snacks, loud, playing sports, wants a play date. Might need help.

I have a 5 year old and would be comfortable with a quick pick up at the bus stop and then 2 hours of TV / playroom time before I log off the computer at 4:30-5 PM. But I’m very strict with my kids and know how to get them to let me work. I wouldn’t allow interruptions of my work. It’s only 2 hours.

I wouldn’t be comfortable with 2 hours of daily TV, which is absolutely what this is going to become.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you need childcare. Will you be getting childcare?

Why do you need childcare for 2 hours after school? Can't they do hw, chores, relax, snack, etc.. while you are at home working?

So you would keep your door closed and not acknowledge your kids when they got home until after your workday was over?

You can wfh and take a break to say hello to your children. One does not preclude the other.

But that is where the creep happens. Coming out to say hi can quickly turn into 30 minutes of helping to unpack backpacks, fix snacks and go over what homework has to be done. And then even after you return to your desk, the lack of a hard boundary means the kids will pop in here and there through the rest of the afternoon to ask for something, tell you about something that just happened, etc.

So true. It’s the creep that gets you. I have older kids and when I went from office to home I was surprised at how hard it was to maintain boundaries. It’s especially hard when meetings are scheduled between 3 and 6.

So is going back to the office better for you, or would you still take WFM with that 3-6 problem?

The real question is what does the employer think.