Roommate question

[Anonymous]

Introverted DD has communicated about logistics with her new roommate, but it's been pretty minimal. She's optimistic that they'll get along fine, just doesn't feel the need to text her constantly. I plan to exchange numbers with the roommates' parent(s) at move-in just in case the girls need anything or want to coordinate rides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daughter: spent a month essentially online-dating a bunch of girls to find the perfect roommate then snapped and texted often to coordinate room furnishings and get to know each other. The girl turned out to be a total ass that lied constantly and alienated everyone and Covid causing early move out that year was a blessing.

Son: finally logged onto the patio app the week housing apps were due, found a guy that seemed like he wasn’t a total dweeb and exchanged a bare minimum number of introductory texts before popping the question and it was a done deal. They have since chatted maybe twice to figure out who was ordering the micro fridge and who was bringing the rug. All they really know about each other is where they live and that they needed a roommate. I’m sure they’ll be best friends.

I'm sure your daughter is an intelligent and lovely person, but... coordinating room furnishings? If that was part of the vetting, no wonder some key character traits got lost in translation

[Anonymous]

I talked to my roommates twice before move in to figure out who was bringing what.

Obviously, so communicate more and some less. There’s nothing wrong with any of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does this generation resist talking on the phone so much??!

And why does this generation of parents so over-involved in their kids lives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here Okay, feeling a bit better. My DS hasn’t talked to his at all aside from a quick snap exchange to confirm that they are roommates. Nothing since.

Did you nudge to even get to that? Our DS has not yet made this move. Had hoped for a double in the more social set of dorms but school is overenrolled and is now in a triple in the quiet area. May all work out fine and we are encouraging that mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does this generation resist talking on the phone so much??!

Because that isn't how communication is done anymore. Do you telephone your coworkers or send an email?

We're not still in 1987.

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Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

Red flag for your DD's new roommate that you're concerned about this.

Oh come on, that poster was joking! I am sure it IS unusual to bring an iron to college nowadays - I brought one to college circa 1987 (along with a mini ironing board - never mind I had never ironed to date), didn’t once use it, still own it, STILL never use it 😂.

Yes, I was joking. Come on, people! My daughter is a slob who doesn’t know how to use an iron. Cornell matches the students and doesn’t give them a choice. The assigned roommate took a gap year to start her lucrative business. I am a little concerned about the Ivy-level “overacheievedness” of the roommate. My DD barely got in by the skin of her teeth. She is very go-with-the-flow, so I’m sure they’ll get along. I predict they won’t room together sophomore year.

[Anonymous]

My DD texted, FaceTimed and talked on the phone with her roommate (who she met on Instagram).

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Anonymous wrote:My DD and roommate msg each other a few times a week. They literally live 10 miles or less, went to same HS, but don't know each other...and they haven't set up a time to meet! I don't get it. Dd is an introvert...can you tell?

They went to the same high school, are going to the same college, and they don't know each other? I believe you, that's just so unusual.

I assume they chose to live together? Why?

No. My DD requested "random" assignment...hoping to meet someone from another place...and ended up being assigned to room with someone from the same HS. As my DD is very introverted and there was this year of virtual learning (i.e. black screens) , she doesn't know a good chunck of the kids in her class. (She also fid not go to grade school in the same feeder schools, so didn't know anyone from elementary school at that HS).

Shocking that the college did that. What if they did know each other and did not want to be roommates? I would expect a college to at least not put my kid with anyone from their HS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Daughter: spent a month essentially online-dating a bunch of girls to find the perfect roommate then snapped and texted often to coordinate room furnishings and get to know each other. The girl turned out to be a total ass that lied constantly and alienated everyone and Covid causing early move out that year was a blessing.

Son: finally logged onto the patio app the week housing apps were due, found a guy that seemed like he wasn’t a total dweeb and exchanged a bare minimum number of introductory texts before popping the question and it was a done deal. They have since chatted maybe twice to figure out who was ordering the micro fridge and who was bringing the rug. All they really know about each other is where they live and that they needed a roommate. I’m sure they’ll be best friends.

I'm sure your daughter is an intelligent and lovely person, but... coordinating room furnishings? If that was part of the vetting, no wonder some key character traits got lost in translation

That was a really nice try at a dig, but if you reread, you will see that you missed the “then” that indicated that the coordination came after she found her roommate. And 75% of girls coordinate their dorm furnishings, so it’s not as odd as you think.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD and roommate msg each other a few times a week. They literally live 10 miles or less, went to same HS, but don't know each other...and they haven't set up a time to meet! I don't get it. Dd is an introvert...can you tell?

They went to the same high school, are going to the same college, and they don't know each other? I believe you, that's just so unusual.

I assume they chose to live together? Why?

No. My DD requested "random" assignment...hoping to meet someone from another place...and ended up being assigned to room with someone from the same HS. As my DD is very introverted and there was this year of virtual learning (i.e. black screens) , she doesn't know a good chunck of the kids in her class. (She also fid not go to grade school in the same feeder schools, so didn't know anyone from elementary school at that HS).

Shocking that the college did that. What if they did know each other and did not want to be roommates? I would expect a college to at least not put my kid with anyone from their HS.

That's exactly what I thought. The college should have presumed that if two students from the same HS did not select each other, then they probably DO NOT want to be roommates! But, in this case, they don't know each other. It does dampen the opportunity to "re-invent" oneself since the roommate does know some of the same people my DD knows. But, whatever. I don't know much about the roommate, but what I do know suggests that this pairing has as much chance of success as any other. Let's hope the Office of Residential Life made a good match.