Roommate question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD and roommate msg each other a few times a week. They literally live 10 miles or less, went to same HS, but don't know each other...and they haven't set up a time to meet! I don't get it. Dd is an introvert...can you tell?

They went to the same high school, are going to the same college, and they don't know each other? I believe you, that's just so unusual.

I assume they chose to live together? Why?

DP: my son has 2500 students in his high school. He knows by sight a hundred kids, max? Being virtual didn't help these last few years.
He'll go to college and probably have a closer relationship with the other students than he's had since middle school.

[Anonymous]

Daughter: spent a month essentially online-dating a bunch of girls to find the perfect roommate then snapped and texted often to coordinate room furnishings and get to know each other. The girl turned out to be a total ass that lied constantly and alienated everyone and Covid causing early move out that year was a blessing.

Son: finally logged onto the patio app the week housing apps were due, found a guy that seemed like he wasn’t a total dweeb and exchanged a bare minimum number of introductory texts before popping the question and it was a done deal. They have since chatted maybe twice to figure out who was ordering the micro fridge and who was bringing the rug. All they really know about each other is where they live and that they needed a roommate. I’m sure they’ll be best friends.

[Anonymous]

DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daughter: spent a month essentially online-dating a bunch of girls to find the perfect roommate then snapped and texted often to coordinate room furnishings and get to know each other. The girl turned out to be a total ass that lied constantly and alienated everyone and Covid causing early move out that year was a blessing.

Son: finally logged onto the patio app the week housing apps were due, found a guy that seemed like he wasn’t a total dweeb and exchanged a bare minimum number of introductory texts before popping the question and it was a done deal. They have since chatted maybe twice to figure out who was ordering the micro fridge and who was bringing the rug. All they really know about each other is where they live and that they needed a roommate. I’m sure they’ll be best friends.

This made me laugh as it is so true based on what I saw my DD do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last year, DS's only engagement with his roommate was to text a few times to figure out the fridge rental. They got along well and he had a good year.

This made me laugh because my DS has DM’d with his roommate once to confirm they’d been assigned (randomly by the school). I’ve suggested that he ask about coordinating fridge rental, but he hasn’t done yet, as far as I know. Boys. *shrug*

[Anonymous]

My oldest DS did a random roommate. When he received his dorm assignment/roommate from the school, I nagged DS until he finally reached out to the roommate to ask about a fridge/microwave. If I hadn't pestered DS constantly, he never would have contacted his roommate.

My middle DS is an athlete at college and the coach assigned teammates to live with each other. The coach had a couple of virtual meetings before school started, so the guys "met" each other. But it was still painful trying to get DS and his roommate to talk/text about any roommate things.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. Figure that’s up to them. I don’t need to know this level of detail.

[Anonymous]

My niece facetimes daily with her roommate that she matched with on Snap in March--everything is coordinated, etc.

my kid met a kid on Discord, "matched" in that they both were in the same extracurricular in high school, and told me that we were bringing the microwave. that's about it, as far as I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

Yep: that she's in better shape and better groomed than your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

What red flags? She likes to exercise and pressed clothes? The horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD and roommate msg each other a few times a week. They literally live 10 miles or less, went to same HS, but don't know each other...and they haven't set up a time to meet! I don't get it. Dd is an introvert...can you tell?

They went to the same high school, are going to the same college, and they don't know each other? I believe you, that's just so unusual.

I assume they chose to live together? Why?

My HS so big there were a lot of people I didn't know personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

Red flag for your DD's new roommate that you're concerned about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

Red flag for your DD's new roommate that you're concerned about this.

+1

[Anonymous]

My son got a random assignment. They've texted a bit, and when they were both in the college town for orientation, we all got together for breakfast.
We have two older kids and they hardly communicated with their (also randomly assigned) roommates at all before move in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD’s roommate says she gets up at 7:30 to exercise and is bringing an iron. Red flags?

Red flag for your DD's new roommate that you're concerned about this.

Oh come on, that poster was joking! I am sure it IS unusual to bring an iron to college nowadays - I brought one to college circa 1987 (along with a mini ironing board - never mind I had never ironed to date), didn’t once use it, still own it, STILL never use it 😂.