My bad for clicking on the ‘invitation’

[Anonymous]

How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

You’re a bit over the top, aren’t you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

Not OP’s job to assume older daughter has a health condition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

NP. What a rant to tell OP that *she* is in “such a twist”! Why are you in such a twist, is the question.

[Anonymous]

I hate virtual events and decided that with the exception of work (and kids school events if that’s what they choose) I’m not doing them anymore. I would contribute to the group gift and keep it moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person obviously made a huge mistake inviting you because let's be honest... you sound like a miserable person.

Hi, trolly!

OP, just because someone asks doesn’t mean you need to say yes. Just decline and say you’re doing your own thing. Or if you were going to spend $25 anyway then throw $25 towards the gift from the group, if you want. But absolutely do not feel pressured to do anything more than what you were already going to do.

NP to OP:

I’m another person who never contributes online or participates virtually. I make my own cards (labor of love) and honestly tell organizers that my gift will be in the mail/on the way/will be sent separately.

You can always send a nice card with handwritten sentiments.

[Anonymous]

PP + my elderly mom has sent “just cards” for baby, graduation and wedding announcements - especially if she barely knows the person (she’s a lived in her small hometown for a lifetime and knows generations of residents).

She’s very thoughtful and responds (with “empty” cards only) to her “fan mail” and several times she’s gotten back a thank you for her thoughtful gift/I will use it at school next year/our baby loves it, etc. be the recipient assumes a gift card or check or gift was sent and lost.

[Anonymous]

I am not into virtual-only “events” that are literally just gift grabs

You are obnoxious. Send 5 dollars. Send nothing. Whatever. But stop being so obnoxious, thinking you know people's intentions. Why should they think you are a friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am not into virtual-only “events” that are literally just gift grabs

You are obnoxious. Send 5 dollars. Send nothing. Whatever. But stop being so obnoxious, thinking you know people's intentions. Why should they think you are a friend?

You might want to tone down calling others obnoxious when you clearly are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am not into virtual-only “events” that are literally just gift grabs

You are obnoxious. Send 5 dollars. Send nothing. Whatever. But stop being so obnoxious, thinking you know people's intentions. Why should they think you are a friend?

Located the gift grabber.

[Anonymous]

I’d ignore the “invitation” and find less trashy friends. Honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

There is no event. Just something that misleadingly looks like an event invitation but is actually a shakedown for cash. Super tacky.

[Anonymous]

I would decline so fast. Not even a question.

[Anonymous]

Gee what a tacky invite!

They want you to contribute $, yet are not willing to host a small get together and provide food, drinks or conversation!??

It sounds like a fundraiser.. nah.. worse than that.

I would be annoyed & would have zero issue not contributing even a dime.

The cover of the evite was probably intentionally done as click-bait. 😠

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How close are you to this couple? I don't get the impresson you're personally really close if you would feel this offended. and pressured. I think "sprinkle" events, in person or virtual, are silly, but why are you in such a twist? Seems to be becasue you feel pressured to contribute to a group gift. That's pressure you're putting on yourself. Yeah, the invitation is odd, but...why care so much? Unless you really, really care what other people, like whoever organized the virtual sprinkle, think about you? I figure you'll say no, you don't care, but if so, then why give this so much attention?

If you were close to the couple you might know if there are other reasons they don't want an in-person event. Maybe they have reason not to want the mom, dad, or via them, the other child, exposed to covid. Because, yes, that's still a thing, however much people on DCUM like to yell that it isn't. Maybe their older child has a health condition you don't know about, or the preganancy has been tough on the mom.Whatever. You don't know why they don't want an in-person event--do you?

There is no event. Just something that misleadingly looks like an event invitation but is actually a shakedown for cash. Super tacky.

Absolutely!