My bad for clicking on the ‘invitation’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person obviously made a huge mistake inviting you because let's be honest... you sound like a miserable person.

I gave a very generous first baby gift to this couple. And if they were having an actual event for this “sprinkle,” I would attend and give a modest gift, or send regrets with a modest gift if I couldn’t make this. But stuff like this is not “let’s gather and celebrate New Baby,” it is: give us gifts.

So don't. The pressure you feel to give is entirely self-inflicted.

OP did not invent the party and invite herself.

[Anonymous]

Reply with a cheery note and *don't send anything*. They'll wonder whether you forgot to contribute and won't dare to bother you again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reply with a cheery note and *don't send anything*. They'll wonder whether you forgot to contribute and won't dare to bother you again.

This is the answer. This lady is socially savvy.

[Anonymous]

Don't you have an important in person event at the same time as the virtual one, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have an important in person event at the same time as the virtual one, OP?

There’s not even a virtual component. It’s not like “be on Zoom at 4 p.m. on Saturday.” It’s just a group gift request.

[Anonymous]

Is it the couple requesting, or a friend? Could easily just be someone trying to do something nice, thinking you might want to participate. If it came from the couple, a little weird.

[Anonymous]

People actually flat out ask for money from others? Besides the obvious homeless. Wow.

[Anonymous]

I hate virtual events. I would not mind this for a first baby but I would not be interested for a virtual. Maybe it was 2020 and we were all sitting home.

I would just get baby a gift next time I see them. If I don’t know them well enough to visit the baby, I don’t need to send a gift.

My very good friend just had a second baby. She invited me very casually to a sprinkle brunch. I live out of state or else I would absolutely have loved to attend. It was not a formal invitation, no registry, etc. I will bring a gift the next time I see her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have an important in person event at the same time as the virtual one, OP?

There’s not even a virtual component. It’s not like “be on Zoom at 4 p.m. on Saturday.” It’s just a group gift request.

I would have no problem contributing to a gift for a second baby. But i would be annoyed at the trick of making it sound like an invite for a shower. Whether that would be enough for me to not contribute would depend on the level of friendship involved. Are the people running it usually good friends and this was a mis-step?

[Anonymous]

Decline and say "Sorry I won't be able to join in. I'll pop a gift in the mail to Baby/bring my gift over when Baby arrives but thanks for checking!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reply with a cheery note and *don't send anything*. They'll wonder whether you forgot to contribute and won't dare to bother you again.

This is the answer. This lady is socially savvy.

+2

[Anonymous]

I think the evite set up is weird but wouldn’t you usually get a baby gift anyway for the person? If I contributed to this I probably would skip the bigger gift when the baby arrives and just bring a small toy or trinket if I actually meet the baby after it is born.

[Anonymous]

Just say you already bought them something and go on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd "forget" to contribute. Then if the host follows up, say you prefer to do an individual gift.

No op don’t do this absurd childish behavior

[Anonymous]

Just don’t respond