Wedding gift for niece

[Anonymous]

One fairly well off relative gave my husband and me a hand knit afghan and a China platter that belonged to their parents. Kind of random combo of items.

Later my dad heard the couple talking about how they were getting rid of “stuff” from their house, and we figured out they were using our wedding as an occasion to pass on some of that “stuff” to someone else. A bit odd, but it’s fine.

Thirty years later and their granddaughter got married last spring. My spouse and I gave her a check for $500 because she’s family and that’s what we do for family wedding gifts. (Although it might have been a convenient occasion to get rid of some stuff from our house, haha)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!

I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.

People put in $10 each????

Some less than $10 because the groups of people giving $10 had more than 10 people in them.

Did these people actually attend your wedding? That wouldn’t even cover the cost of their chair rental.

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Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!

I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.

Your friends are either very cheap or very poor.

It was mostly friends of our parents and retirees who, I assume, were freaked out by the 2008 stock market crash?

Or they didn’t approve of your marriage? Seems like they were sending a message.

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Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!

I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.

People put in $10 each????

Some less than $10 because the groups of people giving $10 had more than 10 people in them.

Did these people actually attend your wedding? That wouldn’t even cover the cost of their chair rental.

Then don't rent chairs.

The idea that you invite people to a party, then expect them to pay you back for the privilege, is really, really gross.

If you can't afford to host people graciously, don't.

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Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!

I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.

People put in $10 each????

Some less than $10 because the groups of people giving $10 had more than 10 people in them.

Did these people actually attend your wedding? That wouldn’t even cover the cost of their chair rental.

They came to the reception, not the wedding. The reception was just horse oeuvres and inexpensive.