Wedding gift for niece

[Anonymous]

Lovely young woman in her 20s. Great couple. I'm close to the parent and our family of four is going to the wedding/reception. How much would YOU give to the wedding couple? Also I've already decided to give cash, which they have already indicated is a great choice.

[Anonymous]

Same situation, but nephew. Their registry is a multitude of options and is very confusing. They had a "fund our honeymoon" option as well as "fund our future house". I think we may donate to the latter. How much depends on what you're comfortable with. I am doing $200. There is some travel involved with this wedding, so I'm trying to weigh that in as well. Basically whatever you're comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

$500

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yes! Travel is involved for me, too. So I like $200 for us as well. Plus, I have other marriageable nieces and nephews so can't go too crazy.

[Anonymous]

$500-$1000 depending on nationality, location, etc. imo $200 is too low if these are umc people.

[Anonymous]

$800 probably, if it's a niece we're close with.

[Anonymous]

At least 500

[Anonymous]

This varies widely by region, culture, and social class.

[Anonymous]

This is just a cultural thing. We had a really fancy wedding with two big, well-off families. I don’t think anyone gave us more than $500. But there are other cultures where the wedding could cost $20k but if you’re not rolling up with $1000+ in an envelope, you might as well go home.

[Anonymous]

I would never do less than $100 a person (so $400 in this situation). More if it was a close relationship.

[Anonymous]

We give anywhere between 4-600.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$500

Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.

Times have changed. People get married later and already have a set of dishes. Why get a new set on your registry? If you've been living outside your parents' home before you get married, what do you actually NEED that you don't already have? Get the house, then fill it with the fancy stuff as you can afford to.

I've noticed with some boomer generation family members there is this idea that people need fancy registry stuff because it improves their quality of life "so much" until they're able to buy a house. I think this comes from the days when people married right out of high school. Maybe people did have to save longer for a house when they married that young. Other boomer relatives feel really good about giving a fancy platter (which they hope looks like it cost a lot more than it did) rather than the $ it cost to buy.

FWIW I'm not trying to dump on boomers. That's just where I've noticed these attitudes in my family.

[Anonymous]

I just polled the 20somethings of my family because I was going to a wedding. $100-$200 minimum, $300 if you're close, $500 if you're super close (which as an aunt it sounds like you are). Plus you're bringing 4 people, so I'd definitely do $500 if you can afford it. Maybe $300 at the least if $500 is a stretch or a precedent you don't want to set.

[Anonymous]

I’m not rich at all, especially not DCUM rich, but I would probably do $500 for a niece. I have a niece and a nephew getting married in the next two years and I think we’ll do $500 each. And these are not fancy people and won’t be fancy weddings. It’s actually more that the kids could really use the cash and we love them!