Do you make your teens clean their room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't/didn't make them clean their room.

One has ADHD and sometimes she wants me to help her do that, which I do.

My other kid basically never lets me in his room, he keeps it OK - not dirty but he has too much stuff so it is cluttered.

I figure that is one area they can fully control so let them.

My rules are no eating in your room and bring down glasses, etc because we need them for our household. Otherwise, they are on their own.

But I don't buy them new clothes unless they bring me old stuff that doesn't fit.

Jesus are you kidding me? This is about as DCUM as DCUM gets

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a home cleaner, but they do not clean our teens' rooms. When they started HS, we told them cleaning their room was their responsibility. They are going to have learn how for dorms and apartments.

Why? Won't they just get home cleaners like their lazy ass parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a home cleaner, but they do not clean our teens' rooms. When they started HS, we told them cleaning their room was their responsibility. They are going to have learn how for dorms and apartments.

Why? Won't they just get home cleaners like their lazy ass parents?

Yeah I don’t get this philosophy. I understand not choosing to hire cleaning help, but I don’t understand hiring the help just to deny it to some of the people in the household.

I didn’t do much cleaning as a kid - trust me, it’s easy to learn when you are living in a dorm and later your first apartment. It’s not rocket science or a complicated life skill.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. I’m trying really hard not to care what the room looks like six days out of the week, but the night before the cleaning lady comes, laundry needs to be picked up off the floor, water bottles and debris in the trash, a quick Clorox wipe on the toilet etc.

Good Lord,who are all you people who are accumulating all these water bottles in your homes?

Truly, I try not to judge on DCUM, but I am really shocked by this.

My teen uses his allowance to buy gatorades and sodas from the vending machines after sports practice. Trust me, he has his refillable water bottles, but so long as he is recycling and it’s not my money, I don’t fight the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen has to make his bed first thing in the morning. He also has to bring down his laundry and all dishes and glassware that he may have taken to his room.

He has to change his bed sheet every week, vacuum all the bedrooms and empty all the waste paper baskets and trash cans.

I do all laundry, fold it, and put away in everyone's dresser. Once a week I dust the whole house and clean the whole house.

I also clean the bathrooms every week, but my kids swish the toilet bowl every day with the toilet bowl cleaner.

My kid refills the soap, TP rolls and tissue paper boxes in each room. We do not use plastic bottles.

Toilets every day??

[Anonymous]

Unless you have a true maid, it's necessary to clean before if your child doesn't maintain it during the week because a cleaning service is not going to do more than the basics.

My children clean their rooms, bathrooms, the great room, and kitchen on a regular basis. Having a cleaning service is a luxury they may not get to keep. Knowing how to clean up after yourself is a life skill.

[Anonymous]

We don't make our kids clean their rooms. As long as there is nothing to attract pests (food, etc.) left out in the open, we don't care. We also don't have a maid. If they want to live in a messy room, that is not my concern. As it happens, they're not too bad.

That said, I made sure that they know how to properly clean a bathroom, vacuum, dust, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen has to make his bed first thing in the morning. He also has to bring down his laundry and all dishes and glassware that he may have taken to his room.

He has to change his bed sheet every week, vacuum all the bedrooms and empty all the waste paper baskets and trash cans.

I do all laundry, fold it, and put away in everyone's dresser. Once a week I dust the whole house and clean the whole house.

I also clean the bathrooms every week, but my kids swish the toilet bowl every day with the toilet bowl cleaner.

My kid refills the soap, TP rolls and tissue paper boxes in each room. We do not use plastic bottles.

Toilets every day??

NP. I clean the toilets every day. I use a different bathroom during the day and do a quick swish after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I’m trying really hard not to care what the room looks like six days out of the week, but the night before the cleaning lady comes, laundry needs to be picked up off the floor, water bottles and debris in the trash, a quick Clorox wipe on the toilet etc.

Good Lord,who are all you people who are accumulating all these water bottles in your homes?

Truly, I try not to judge on DCUM, but I am really shocked by this.

Rest assured, it is NOT plastic water bottles. They are ALL reusable water bottles/tumblers/glasses collected over the years and they all seem to end up in the kids rooms and multiply there. When told to "clean up" for the cleaning lady (YES most tend to do this) the multitude of water bottles fill the sink/dishwasher. It is truly astounding!

[Anonymous]

Yes, I try to. Not always successfully…

[Anonymous]

It appears all the neat freaks have gravitated to this thread. Most teens rooms are not neat and clean. I have one neat teen and one messy teen.

The cleaning service coming is a good catalyst for her to pick up the trash and stuff off the floor, bring cups downstairs, etc. I do have a no food in room rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a home cleaner, but they do not clean our teens' rooms. When they started HS, we told them cleaning their room was their responsibility. They are going to have learn how for dorms and apartments.

Why? Won't they just get home cleaners like their lazy ass parents?

Yeah I don’t get this philosophy. I understand not choosing to hire cleaning help, but I don’t understand hiring the help just to deny it to some of the people in the household.

I didn’t do much cleaning as a kid - trust me, it’s easy to learn when you are living in a dorm and later your first apartment. It’s not rocket science or a complicated life skill.

The mechanics of cleaning are not difficult to learn. But the concept of being responsible for your own messes—literal and metaphorical—is good to instill early on.

[Anonymous]

13 out of every 14 days my kids rooms are what I would refer to as a disaster area. Clothes and books and crap tossed everywhere (no food allowed upstairs, so at least there's that). Their rooms, their choice. On 14th day, room must be picked up so that our cleaning lady who comes every other week, can do the actual cleaning (change sheets,vacuumed, dust, etc.).

We are a family of 3 kids and 2 working adults, so not lazy, just afforded the privilege of being able to choose to spend our money to outsource this task so that we can spend our time doing other things. Name calling is not a good look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a home cleaner, but they do not clean our teens' rooms. When they started HS, we told them cleaning their room was their responsibility. They are going to have learn how for dorms and apartments.

Why? Won't they just get home cleaners like their lazy ass parents?

Yeah I don’t get this philosophy. I understand not choosing to hire cleaning help, but I don’t understand hiring the help just to deny it to some of the people in the household.

I didn’t do much cleaning as a kid - trust me, it’s easy to learn when you are living in a dorm and later your first apartment. It’s not rocket science or a complicated life skill.

The mechanics of cleaning are not difficult to learn. But the concept of being responsible for your own messes—literal and metaphorical—is good to instill early on.

But a cleaning lady isn’t cleaning your daily messes. She’s doing things like dusting, vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms. That’s why the parents hired her. You can still have a child clear the table, load the dishwasher, make his bed each day and benefit from a weekly cleaning service too.

[Anonymous]

Unless they have a huge pile of stuff going on no. The cleaning lady straightens up and takes out all water bottles