Do you make your teens clean their room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I’m trying really hard not to care what the room looks like six days out of the week, but the night before the cleaning lady comes, laundry needs to be picked up off the floor, water bottles and debris in the trash, a quick Clorox wipe on the toilet etc.

Good Lord,who are all you people who are accumulating all these water bottles in your homes?

Truly, I try not to judge on DCUM, but I am really shocked by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course. But they have to clean their bedrooms daily - not just right before the cleaning lady comes by.

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Mom of two teen boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't/didn't make them clean their room.

One has ADHD and sometimes she wants me to help her do that, which I do.

My other kid basically never lets me in his room, he keeps it OK - not dirty but he has too much stuff so it is cluttered.

I figure that is one area they can fully control so let them.

My rules are no eating in your room and bring down glasses, etc because we need them for our household. Otherwise, they are on their own.

But I don't buy them new clothes unless they bring me old stuff that doesn't fit.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our cleaner comes once a week, and every week that morning I have my kids clean their rooms, which are total messes normally. So no, you are not the only one.

+1

[Anonymous]

We have a home cleaner, but they do not clean our teens' rooms. When they started HS, we told them cleaning their room was their responsibility. They are going to have learn how for dorms and apartments.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Mine have to clean their rooms. I don’t nit pick but the floor has to be picked up.

[Anonymous]

No house cleaner. Yes, kids cleaned their rooms and their bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Of course. The housekeeper's job is to deep clean, and she can't do that if there are clothes all over the floor. DC has to pick up the basement and his room and bathroom. He does his own laundry and strips the bed and puts on the clean sheets himself.

[Anonymous]

No cleaning lady here. I insist that the room hits vacumable status every week or so and also that no food/dishes go up. It is a choose your battles thing for me. It is just not the hugest issue to me and I do not think it will ensure proper cleaning when they are adults.

[Anonymous]

Yes but no maid. How is this a question?

[Anonymous]

My kids clean up their own rooms completely. We don’t have a maid. My rule is they have to completely tidy the room so that I can easily dust and vacuum. If they procrastinate they have to dust and vacuum too.

We do this on Saturdays and they can’t move on to leisure activities until it’s done.

[Anonymous]

We have no cleaner. Mine clean theirs on the weekend (change bedding, take out trash, tidy up etc). I usually do the sweeping/mopping as needed (we have tile). I don’t care all that much about the rooms appearance in terms of temporary mess/organization but will not tolerate anything gross (clothes on floor or trash/dishes lying around) - if I see anything like that, they lose privileges. Kind of messy is ok as long as it is nothing gross.

Once or twice a year, I make them organize (get rid of outgrown clothes and stuff they don’t need, rearrange storage space if needed etc).

I don’t think making kids clean their own rooms is too much to ask at all. We remind ours it is a privilege to have their own rooms (DH and I never did, growing up) and if they don’t take care of their rooms we will move them together and would love the extra room for ourselves as an exercise space or den LOL.

[Anonymous]

No. We have used the “close the door “policy on our kids rooms. They make it fairly easy on us because even though they are both terribly messy with clothes etc. neither of them bring food into the room so there’s nothing disgusting there. Just a mess. My daughter is in college and interestingly I just visited her in the apartment she’s staying in this summer and her room was so neat! So I’m not worried that she doesn’t know how to maintain a space I think at home she just regresses to teenage ways. And my son who still in high school does periodically pick his up on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I’m trying really hard not to care what the room looks like six days out of the week, but the night before the cleaning lady comes, laundry needs to be picked up off the floor, water bottles and debris in the trash, a quick Clorox wipe on the toilet etc.

Good Lord,who are all you people who are accumulating all these water bottles in your homes?

Truly, I try not to judge on DCUM, but I am really shocked by this.

What are you judging? The untidiness or the non early friendliness?

[Anonymous]

My teen has to make his bed first thing in the morning. He also has to bring down his laundry and all dishes and glassware that he may have taken to his room.

He has to change his bed sheet every week, vacuum all the bedrooms and empty all the waste paper baskets and trash cans.

I do all laundry, fold it, and put away in everyone's dresser. Once a week I dust the whole house and clean the whole house.

I also clean the bathrooms every week, but my kids swish the toilet bowl every day with the toilet bowl cleaner.

My kid refills the soap, TP rolls and tissue paper boxes in each room. We do not use plastic bottles.